Our SN area is not a substitute for expert advice. While many Mumsnetters have a specialist knowledge of special needs, if they post here they are posting as members, not experts. There are, however, lots of organisations that can help - some suggestions are listed here. If you've come across an organisation that you've found helpful, please tell us. Go to Special needs chat, Parents with disabilities, SN teens, SN legal, SN children, SN recommendations.

School swimming lessons and Aspergers

(2 Posts)
OB1KNOB Wed 20-Feb-13 00:56:50

Need some advice please...my DS has Aspergers, age 11, in mainstream school but hs always had a problem with swimming. Hates the smell, the noise, the changing, the cold etc etc etc. This has escalted over the years and now he is refusing to go to school on swimming days because the headmaster says if he doesnt go he must join another class and do work. He feels hes being punished. He has a full time classroom assistant and asked if she could do some activity/exercise with him instead. Head said she can supervise him doing work in another class. Being in another class with a different teacher fraks him out and hes now strong enough to lock himself in the loo and refuse to get in the car, resulting in everyone else being late and upset. I have written letter to head but before sending it was wondering if anyone has advice for how i should phrase it. Ive already used terms like equal access to curriculum and reasonable adjustment. The head has never "got" aspergers. he just thinks its bad behaviour and we have had to fight for everything. he refused to refer my DS for assessment for statementing so i had to take a case against him and when ed psych did assessment they recommended full time classroom asst. What a change! Anyway it took 6 months for head to get a classroom asst and now that he has one, she's not being used to meet his needs. I am exhausted and at my wits end. I just feel like crying all the time, I have little more energy to give. Self pity over but I am really fed up with it all. Any words of wisdom mums?
Thanks for reading.

Ineedmorepatience Fri 22-Feb-13 19:50:08

Hi ob1, what a difficult situation, I have a Dd with Aspergers, she is 10.

I think you should repost on the Special Needs:children board. It gets lots more traffic and everyone overnthere is friendly and very knowledgable, I am sure you will get more replies.

Good lucksmile

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now