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? Aspergers

(8 Posts)
Sussexmama Tue 23-Oct-12 22:02:41

Evening. I have a 9yr old who has had behavioural issues at school
These started in year 3, mellowed a bit in year 4, and now since term started in year 5, have gotten considerably worse.
We have now been referred for an assessment for Aspergers, which has a 6-9 month waiting list.
What is the school obliged to do until the diagnosis is confirmed?
Any advice very very much appreciated

MrsShrek3 Tue 23-Oct-12 22:06:56

tbh they're not obliged to do an awful lot, but what would really help both the school and your dc is to go in and make a few suggestions. The sorts of things that would help - such as visual timetable being available at all times, any changes however slight to the routine/timetable being clearly explained with as much warning as possible, seating near the front / not near window or door, that sort of thing. Being allowed to leave the room (on producing small token or signal?) if anxious or frustrated?
does any of that make sense?

MrsShrek3 Tue 23-Oct-12 22:08:25

also maybe see class teacher and senco if at all possible - two/three heads are lots better than one/two. Pooling experience and all that stuff!

Sussexmama Tue 23-Oct-12 22:21:58

Thank you! Any advice is helpful

MrsShrek3 Tue 23-Oct-12 22:28:45

what are the main things he needs, as far as you see it? What could they actually do to help - and bear in mind these things are often quite small and easily done, but if the school doesn't know about them it's as good as rocket science! Also remember that the school may possibly have a completely different version of your ds from the one you have at home. We do hmm

MrsShrek3 Tue 23-Oct-12 22:30:23

ps we had the same. Wobbly year 3, fab year 4, hideous year 5. (he's now year 7 and it's fantastic!) surely you and the school can figure out what the y4 elements were that worked well, that aren't there now? it's not all down to your dc you know wink

Sussexmama Tue 23-Oct-12 22:50:03

I think he's definitely got Aspergers and I'm expecting the school to tat him as such until he's diagnosed. They have been quick to exclude him rather than support him. sad
I just need to know what to expect at this stage as nothing is confirmed.
I like your advice about the senco
I'm new to this forum. What's is ds and dc? Cheers

MrsShrek3 Tue 23-Oct-12 22:59:36

dc=[dear] child
ds = [dear] son - ds1 is son number one, ds2 son number two etc (and dd is daughter wink)

fwiw i'm a SEN teacher and ironically mother to an aspie grin who was diagnosed at 10 ... we were never in denial but thought with two asd specialist parents that we could "prop him up" enough. Sadly, no. The dx (=mn speak for diagnosis) did help as it got him a fabulous transition to high school.
In mainstream schools the knowledge is a bit hit and miss I'm ashamed to say, but if you make a reasonable commonsense list and arrange to meet with the senco and class teacher, then they are more obliged to make arrangements to support him/ her properly. Is there an IEP (individual education plan) or IBP (indiv behaviour plan) in place? There "should" be all of this so that they can deal consistently - having the person who is talking to you be inconsistent is the biggest nightmare to someone with AS/asd. This is the hardest thing for mainstream teachers imho...but doable if they understand!

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