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School aren't going to acknowledge DDs (YR1) dyslexia what can I do at home..

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pleasestoparguing Sun 21-Oct-12 16:31:58

..to make up for it?
At home we have started using coloured -red- acetate and that has made a staggering difference in her reading, school let her use it and have acknowledged the difference but see it as a 'I'm special so I can do it this way' and don't agree that it has made a physical difference just a confidence one.
She is always feeling poorly before school and was especially like this for reading before the coloured film but really gets anxious about writing and has all the tummy ache etc. symptons and won't do anything unless she has some one right next to her to support her and sound out each letter for her. Last year she got through group reading by echoing what everyone was saying with a slight timelaspe I found I could get ger to 'read' quite high level text at home doing it - so her teacher said she was disinterested - she did say that she hadn't come across a child who was so comfortable with books and knew they were useful for information but who had low reading skills. She loves and is very good at colouring in and is very good at drawing - and spend a lot of time 'writing' by doing squiggles across the page but has now been doing this for 3 years without much development in actual writing although she really wants to wrtie letters and notes to her friends,
So I know she is having problems but school says she 'will develop in her own time' - how can i help her develop in her own time by using strategies at home - and what ones?

EdithWeston Mon 22-Oct-12 09:09:23

6 is very young for a diagnosis of dyslexia.

What are the recommendations in the Ed Psych report? Because you do sometimes need to be quite forceful in getting a school to carry these out properly.

Then you need to work out what remedial interventions are required. Have you spoken to the SENCO?

If the school are moving at the speed of a striking snail, then turn to support groups or find a tutor with expertise in the areas she needs support (being as specific as possible - dyslexia per se is too wide a label to necessarily lead you to the right interventions).

grimRiaper Mon 22-Oct-12 09:22:33

just wanted to wish you luck OP, we suspected DS1s dyslexia in yr 1, but didn't get any joy from the schools at all until year 9, and are still struggling to get anywhere now he's in yr 11. sad

pleasestoparguing Mon 22-Oct-12 16:57:28

Thanks for the suggestions Edith she hasn't had a report as the school won't refer her - it's my diagnosis knowing what I do about children with dyslexia and all the research I've done. We can't afford to pay for the rport ourselves and school won't consider it. I know 6 is young but grim I'm like you , you just know there is something up but no one will listen as they say they will catch up in the end - I'm sorry you've had so many problems when you knew there was something up in year 1 , I've heard so much about children having to wait so long for it to be recognised- we have dyslexia in the family so I know quite a bit about how to recognise it and as she is my 3rd DC it's all terribly clear to us there are difficulties - everything I have read has suggested the earlier it is dealt with the better for thew child as ordinary reading and writing strategies don't always work - finding the specific areas are hard as it's easier to focus on what she can do rather then what she finds hard. She is conscious of her short comings although i haven't talked about ti with her but she makes allowances for her short term memory for example when a new friend of DSs arrived today she was repeating his name over and over again as she knows she won't be able to remember it - before we realised something was up she had an imaginary friend whose name she was always forgetting - she named him herself- we thought it was an attention thing and a joke so weren't very helpful - now we know names for her are an issue we just repeat them for her all the time untill she knows someone well enough and has had enough time with them for her to secure the name - all these things are tough at school when you are told you are not listening / concentrating when actually she listens and concentrates three or four times harder than the other children with fewer results.
I know a lot of pepole might suggest it's middleclass mums excusing less than bright kids with a label but she is actually quite clever and often astounds me as I rather assume she's not involved as she talks very little and rarely seems engaged with what we're doing, she's very astute.
She is losing more and more confidence as she gets older and sees others goning past her in spite of trying so hard, I just don't want her to feel stupid or hopeless before she's really started school in a formal setting.

haggisaggis Mon 22-Oct-12 17:04:33

Look at the Sound Foundations site here
Found Bear Necessities was good for dd (she hated it - very dull - but it did improve her reading). dd was very similar to yours - luckily for us though the school acknowledged her difficulties at teh start of primary (age 5) and put plans in place. She's now 10 and reading close to her age level. (spelling / number work still well below but we'll get there!)

pleasestoparguing Mon 22-Oct-12 17:11:01

Thank you haggis - i'll check that out.
Can I ask if your dd is int he state or private sector - IME private school seem to be more open to considering it as a possibility. DD is in a school where alot odf children have language difficulties starting school and haven't seen books till they come to school so doesn't particularly stand out - she's just another one of them and below the problem radar.

Betelguese Tue 23-Oct-12 22:35:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsShrek3 Tue 23-Oct-12 22:48:39

if you're stuck in a ditch atm wrt getting stuff done, and can't afford EP report (and yes, 6 is a bit young) I'd suggest you look into multisensory means. Yes some people will shoot me down for saying this, but without huge sensory profiling which costs quite a lot, it is a means to an end. By using all of the senses, (and many dyslexic learners are quite visual with poor auditory memory) it helps all of that. I use it extensively (in SEN and intervention programmes) and I get extremely good results. I use spelling programmes like Nessy and lots of kinaesthetic resources, used properly they really work. Yes I agree that overlays etc do work, and the colours you need are quite telling. If you do want to look further (scuse the pun) there is colorimetry testing via specialist optical services, for the low cost approach there's the lower tech overlays that you are already using. keep going smile

bigbuttons Tue 23-Oct-12 22:59:30

This is odd. DD is now in year 2 and nearly 7. Last year I brought up my suspicions with her class teacher( who was a lovely but inexperienced teacher) and senco that she might have dyslexia. She was 'tested' a couple of weeks ago ( apparently a reliable test can't be done until they're 7) and she has come out as high risk and so is been treated accordingly. Sje now has a very experienced teacher thank God.
She has a coloured overlay for reading and is getting a lot of support for her maths and language.
She was feeling very down about herself at school at the end of last year and at the beginning of this one, but since appropriate help is being giving she is really flourishing and wanting to read all the time.
Push to have your dd tested once she hits 7.
I guess we are lucky that our school is so supportive.

pleasestoparguing Wed 24-Oct-12 19:37:59

That's great news for your DD buttons it's so good when it's recgonised as it really helps with their self esteem.
Thanks for the advice Betelguese and Shrek its good to get some support on here and not to feel like I'm an over anxious mother - if she was my PFB I'd be questioning myself but as number 3 I know there is something there and I want to scream and shout till I'm heard - its very reassuring to hear that others have recognised it in their DC early on even if the schools don't acknowledge it till later - you do know your own DC its hard for others to know thwm in the same way.

MrsShrek3 Wed 24-Oct-12 20:39:02

it can also open up that whole dialogue between yourself and school - sometimes when we notice things at school it can be difficult to know how to discuss it with parents as sometimes they;re completely unaware and it can come as a big shock unless they're handled very carefully. An on-the-ball parent (like you lot) is much easier to work with smile

tessie12 Mon 12-Nov-12 12:52:48

My daughter was diagnosed with dyslexia at 6yrs old .After much heart ache we had her assessed by an educational psychologist who was excellent .I think you should go with your instincts if you think something is not right .Our daughter now is in a school specifically for dyslexic children ,yes it is expensive but what choice do you have when the state system keep on failing her.

askhfgaslkgsj Sat 17-Nov-12 13:55:35

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PlaySchool Sat 15-Dec-12 13:24:53

Does anyone have any tips for getting the school to organise an EP report? I am unclear about what their responsibilities are.

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