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If you had a little boy with HFA, where would you send him to school?

(13 Posts)
onceortwice Sun 16-Sep-12 11:51:27

My little boy is 4.

He has been rejected (horrid word, but true) from all prep schools.

I have enrolled him into the local state school. A week in and he's hating it.

Specialist schools aren't applicable, because DS has a massive (around 200) IQ.

What would you do?

1. Steiner school?
2. HE?
3. Stick with state?

Honest opinions much appreciated.

lionheart Mon 17-Sep-12 17:29:38

Perhaps you should post this in education. Why does he hate the school? What is the teacher/senco like and can you talk to them?

lionheart Mon 17-Sep-12 17:35:56

Soory, you did!

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Wed 19-Sep-12 23:13:45

HE all the way. I just would. There are a good mix of children in HE groups and you will, with effort find that you can go to lots of meet ups where your DS can play with and interact with other kids.

Your son will be with you where he can have his needs best met. I have seen too many kids fall by the wayside in State schools.

lionheart Fri 21-Sep-12 12:27:31

Ds is in a state school which has, so far been brilliant, very on the ball.

You don't mention independent non-Steiner as an option.

MichaelaS Mon 08-Oct-12 16:11:50

We may face this soon with our eldest who has a few "aspergers like quirks" but is at least 18m ahead in numeracy at age 3.5

I'm looking at Montessori schools, if we can afford it of course. Teaching method is self directed and so children notice fewer differences between abilities whether high or low end. Where abouts do you live?

devilinside Mon 08-Oct-12 16:24:39

For me, where he is now, at the local state school where there is a high intake of other SEN children and the school is culturally diverse. There are enough 'different' children for him not to stand out, he has a few friends, and is happy to go to school every day.

In the future, hopefully a school for hfa and aspergers children

Hi. I agonised over this last year.

We were offered a place at local Specialist Provision for Asd (think a specialist class attached to a mainstream school). My son has a high IQ too, although not measured. I don't think specialist provision is necessarily ruled out if it's specific to ASD as there are plenty of ASD kids with high IQs who can't tolerate NT classrooms.
We declined the place in the end, for various reasons we didn't feel it was right for him. One of the reasons, however, was that he was the highest functioning of the small group, by quite a bit, which concerned me for his social progress.
At 4 he simply wasn't ready for school. He loved his little nursery, they were excellent with him. He had 15 hours 1:1 support funded by the LA there. So we kept him there for a little while, 3 days per week.
At Easter we began a gradual transition to our local state primary which is a fabulous school. He started 3 days per week and has now gone into Year 1 full time. He is only now ready for full time school, I can see that. He simply wasn't ready at 4. He has 1:1 full time support at school.

How is your little boy struggling?
Does he have support or a statement?

I wouldn't have hesitated to HE until such a time I felt he was ready for school, if ever, if I hadn't found a suitable placement willing to be flexible.

Just typed all this and realised you posted ages ago! Whoops. Oh well. Hope you have made some progress smile

Fluffanstuff Sat 20-Oct-12 19:46:58

Hi Im a special education needs professional. Ruling out special school because of high IQ isn't particularly necessary. Special schools are designed and run in a way that allows children to progress at their own rate and allows for a more tailored approach to learning , they would also have access to a wide range of support services that may become handy in the future , I'm thinking social and emotional support services. Undoubtedly your child is bright , but with HFA it is important to remember the things he may struggle with are the little things in life. A special school as well as tailoring his education to his needs would also look at helping him progress his life skills , learning to do things like coping with going to the shops etc. and dealing with people. In the long run support like that will enable him to have more choice in his future.
Before ruling out state school , you should ensure he has a statement, allowing the school to support him in a way that he needs , a week isnt very long and children with HFA tend to hate change anyway.
When looking at alternative schooling such as Steiner I would encourage you to look at how sustainable this way of schooling is. The problem is many steiner schools stop at 11 . This means children are used to a certain style of schooling then all of a sudden have to adapt to mainstream schooling , this perhaps isn't really a viable option for a child with HFA. Many schools like this are run as independent schools and therefore wouldn't necessarily be able to access services that may help your son.

1950sThrowback Wed 24-Oct-12 18:24:34

Yes unless you are willing to pay for services such as speech therapy, ed psych, autism outreach - try to find out on what basis they are provided in your area - our LEA doesn't provide them for children who aren't in the LEA's schools. I know someone who was unlucky enough to send her dd to a school in another borough - and found that that borough wouldn't provide the support either.

Shellywelly1973 Sat 03-Nov-12 02:20:40

Hi. My ds is similar to your ds. My ds has dx of ASD&ADHD. I.Q 126. He started off in mainstream with 1-1, he was excluded by Yr 1.

He now attends a AS Independant school and is doing much better. He has O.T, SALT, help with social skills, counselling etc. When he was younger i considered H.E but realised i was out of my depth, ds needs are too complex for me to meet.

Each child is so different, there is no right/ wrong answer.

Good luck...

Radiohead1 Sat 12-Jan-13 19:05:31

Hi, Do you have any "non selective" independent schools that would consider him?

WarmAndFuzzy Mon 15-Apr-13 15:14:01

Just so you know the Steiner school I know (Michael Hall) doesn't finish until 18 (I think, please correct me if I'm wrong) but I personally wouldn't want my two HFA kids to go there for a number of reasons.

They did go to a lovely Montessori school for a bit which was fantastic for them but we moved and there are no provisions in the area we moved to for Montessori past nursery age. My eldest has a tested IQ of 140 (on the BAS II scale which I think goes up to about 150), and his brother (untested) is also, we think, very bright.

I think it depends on each individual child though. I try to keep mine in mainstream while I can because there is some evidence I found on medline (I'll try to find the paper) which shows this can help them integrate later on, but I'm keeping an open mind.

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