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Goose and Carrot's open! 30/5/14

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Galena Fri 30-May-14 14:22:44

wine I need wine

Stroppy 5yo. The last couple of days any request from me has resulted in stroppy madam throwing herself on the floor screaming at me. I'm glad she's going back to school on Monday! We had a lovely plan of strawberry picking at the PYO today, instead, we've been to Tesco to buy milk and we've come home and I've mowed the lawns. All because I dared to ask her to go to the toilet before we went to the PYO. If she can do what I ask without screaming at me for the rest of the day, we might go tomorrow.

Anyway, pull up a pew (or a poo? grin ) and drink with me!

zzzzz Fri 30-May-14 14:33:20


My sofa is about to collapse. Have any of you had a sofa bomber and managed to fix the situation? Too broke for a new one for years months. I suspect we can fill the dip with cushions [sigh]

JennyOnTheBlocks Fri 30-May-14 14:40:27

Afternoon everyone

Been waiting for opening time so I could ease myself back in

DD has found this past few weeks increasingly difficult, so we've been on virtual lock-down yesterday and today.

I don't think I'll be fit enough to do the school run next week either, so poor DD will still be out of sorts

I'll get these in, btw

autumnsmum Fri 30-May-14 15:06:32

H&m ds filled in A survey saying the shop was a mess and went up the down escalator

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Fri 30-May-14 15:23:41

zzzzz sofa bomber? as in leaps on the sofa constantly, throwing himself about? If so, yes, I have two of them, but DS1 is extremely enthusiastic about it. We have a new sofa, and I am enforcing the "no shoes on the sofa, sit properly on the sofa, or you have to sit on the uncomfortable chair" rule. grin I think it's reduced the jumping by maybe 25%, which I suppose is progress. hmm

Galena I had to laugh (sorry) about your comment about daring to ask her to use the toilet. It must be the week for meltdowns. Both of mine have been at it all week. I only have one that goes back on Monday, the other goes back on Tuesday. But at least I know they won't be fighting on Monday as they'll be separated. Have to take the joy where we can. grin

I've been weaning DS1 off tech stuff, slowly. The 2DS is limited to weekends and holidays, so he's had some extra time on it this week, but only once per day and limited time. The tablets he tends to nag incessantly to use, and I've had to say "no, you have had time on it already this morning - wait until this evening for more time." And voila! Meltdown. hmm

But all in all, typical week off school. Manic over schedule changes, stressed over unavoidable upsets (car in shop for a few days, changing plans out - can we say "cabin fever"???), and probably tomorrow he'll start settling a bit, just in time to go back to school and fall apart again. grin Never a dull moment, eh?

autumnsmum hope today is going a bit better for you.

Jenny hope things settle for you soon.

autumnsmum Fri 30-May-14 15:27:02

We had to get help from the family fund as ds broke our sofa jumping on it

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Fri 30-May-14 15:33:43

I refuse to get a brand new sofa. We got a perfectly lovely one from local furniture recycling for £35 (plus a tenner delivery). I'm cheap. blush I would get really upset if he broke one that cost £400-500, but for £35, I'd be annoyed, but wouldn't be mentally seeing as much money flying out the window IYSWIM.

RowanMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 30-May-14 15:54:18


We've edited the thread title to include the date now.

wine all round...

zzzzz Fri 30-May-14 16:00:00

Yet another bed salt too......he is just so enthusiastic grin

zzzzz Fri 30-May-14 16:03:18

Slat....a bed SALT would be unusual. grin

zzzzz Fri 30-May-14 16:05:28

Thanks Rowan wine would be very welcome.

Dd3 has been expressing her disappointment for hours. hmm

.....and no it's not anything in particular.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Fri 30-May-14 16:07:44

sigh... another meltdown... over a stupid aquadoodle pen that he didn't put away the other day and now is lost.

zzzzz Fri 30-May-14 16:12:03

alice is wonderful
alice is great
Kill the aqua doodle before it's too late.

Acciosanity Fri 30-May-14 16:13:12

DS bloody hyper today, being very repetitive annoying and we're off to pub for tea so could get interesting!

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Fri 30-May-14 16:16:56

yes, just love being hit and kicked and screamed at... sad

ignoring it is only making it worse today... can't win, what works one day doesn't work the next... it's just exhausting (I know, preaching to the choir here lol)

zzzzz Fri 30-May-14 16:27:29

Eat ice-cream all alone in the bathroom with the door locked

Babieseverywhere Fri 30-May-14 16:33:35

Mmm, ice cream sounds great...If only we had a lock on the bathroom door, lol

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Fri 30-May-14 16:40:55

whew. Crisis (sort of) over. He's not screaming, but still rather edgy. So 50 minutes (it had already been going for awhile when I first posted) worth of screaming. I always expect the police to show up, he's so loud and aggressive and throwing things (which is also loud).

There just doesn't seem to be one particular way to get through to him on meltdowns. It's often just "ride it out" and do damage control.

ouryve Fri 30-May-14 16:50:20

I was worrying about why MNHQ had posted in here, for a moment!

DS1 has spent most of the afternoon asleep. He woke up to have a banana muffin (after I'd vacuumed and DS2 had sat on his head) and a sip of drink and a brief sit on the loo and he's back onthe sofa again, but at least on top of all the cushions.

It's been such a quiet afternoon that I managed to do all
my sums for the tax credits renewal, despite DS2's repeated attempts to slam my laptop shut while I looked a few things up and used the calculator. (Of course, he's just pushed it shut on my hands, as I was typing this.)

Apparently every single book the boys have in their room is now on the bedroom floor. I daren't go and look.

Hi all. I've been stuck in Edinburgh since yesterday afternoon ALONE!!!!

I've had an extremely posh dinner, skipped breakfast in favour of a lie in until 10:30am, done some gift shopping, read my book on the grass under the castle, had my eyebrows threaded <ouch>, wandered aimlessly looking at the architecture and am resigning myself to the fact that this won't be happening again for a LONG long time.

marshmallowSqueeze Fri 30-May-14 17:30:29

evening all passes wine around, ds is being very literal today (more than normal) so its getting on my nerves having to think really hard before i speak to get him to do anything confused on a slightly random note I sent the statement request off on saturday and they have replied shock apparently I need to reply with my information asap (is this a good sign?)

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore Fri 30-May-14 17:33:27

ooooh Starlight how lovely! Glad you had some time to relax and enjoy!

marshmallow fingers crossed it's a good sign!!

DS1 had just calmed down, and DS2 went off at him, screaming that DS1 had his book (he didn't), and so DS1 is in a flood of angry tears again. At least he's calmed enough to sit down and read, rather than screaming. DS2 went to time out. hmm

Galena Fri 30-May-14 17:34:24

Star, that sounds bliss!

DH is out for drinks with the boss tomorrow which means he gets time off and I don't. ho hum.

And sorry for panicking folks about MNHQ posting, but I opened up and realised I'd not put the date. Lovely Rowan added it for me. wine

marshmallowSqueeze Fri 30-May-14 18:03:59

oooo Star that sounds fab smile I miss Edinburgh

signandsingcarols Fri 30-May-14 18:18:41

hi all! star how lovely! good for you!

I am knackered after half term traipsing between swindon and london to support dmil, but 'ta da!' ds had first sleep over last night grin having NT older friend (11) to stay, went wonderfully, (did lots of prep about how thiungs were different when you had someone to stay, and he managed great) friend liked 'looking after him and showing how to do a sleep over, (talking in bed, having a mid night feast, coping with someone in your room) etcetc.

so lovely a real friend who loves ds as he is,

have made the referral to SS for support for dh, had initial conversation with them, which was a bit soul destroying, (like doing a DLA form iyswim) also think we will get caught in adult/children team budget conflict, as it is his support for his parenting (as a disabled parent) with ds, when I am not around, but will fight that when it happens.

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