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Please help me write a letter to the school re holidays

(8 Posts)
Queencat Mon 17-Mar-14 14:35:35

To start with I booked this years holiday last year before the legislation came into place

I want to take the three dc's on hols in June. No exams around that time. Also dd1 has ADHD and ASD therefore taking her on holiday by myself as am a LP during school holidays, with a packed swimming pool and queues as long as your arm would be a logistical, behavioural and emotional bloody nightmare.

I would like to write a letter to the HM asking that this be considered 'exceptional circumstances' but what I have so far just looks like a load of excuses.

How can I word this? Any suggestions would be gratefully recieved.

troutsprout Mon 17-Mar-14 15:48:36

Does your LA give examples of " exceptional circumstances" or any other information you can quote back at them to strengthen your case?
I know some LAs give a list.

boobybum Mon 17-Mar-14 17:49:19

We have just taken DCs out of school for a weeks holiday and had similar reasons in that going during busy holiday time would have been a nightmare. The HM said she didn't have any guidance that covered these circumstances but gave us the ok anyway though did say she couldn't guarantee that we could do so again in the future.
TBH I think that if it is a one-off it will be ok as long as your childrens attendance record is fine. I think it is a problem where kids have already been missing a lot of school. I know of some others who had booked their holiday before the new guidance came in and even though they weren't given authorisation from the HM try took their kids anyway and haven't had any comeback.

Queencat Mon 17-Mar-14 17:52:57

Only things like medical appointments or weddings. Not family holidays!

I was going to go with;

I believe absence should be considered exceptional as you know dd is diagnosed with ADHD and ASD as well as DCD. She becomes highly stressed in crowded social situations? Going on holiday during a peak season is not possible as she is unable to cope in crowds. As a single parent I can't
Manage all three of the children by myself
In this situation therefore, it is preferential to go off
Peak when all resorts are less crowded and therefore less of a danger to her and her siblings.

It just sounds like a crap excuse. But it's true! The thought of me coping with her and two others in a pool with 100 other children would not be something I could
Do alone.

Queencat Mon 17-Mar-14 17:54:08

Booby can I ask what you put on your form?

boobybum Mon 17-Mar-14 19:56:27

Something along the lines of DS's disability (ASD) means that he cannot cope in busy places. I think that if you stress it is the disability that is the reason you are asking to go that they will be more likely to agree.
I think that the reasons you have given are valid and more than adequate.
Good luck!

zzzzz Tue 18-Mar-14 00:26:30

sounds ok to me, though preferable not preferential.
Either they get that it is easier or they don't.

sazale Mon 24-Mar-14 22:03:45

Might be too late but you could emphasise that you are asking the school to make a reasonable adjustment to accommodate your dd's disability as without being able to take a holiday during term time her disability will mean she will be unable to access a holiday unlike children without her disability and therefore placing her at a significant disadvantage.

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