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Goose and Carrot 7th March 2014

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SallyBear Fri 07-Mar-14 18:00:08

Evening all!!
Lovely sunny day, has raised my spirits. I'm looking forward to the weekend. DS4 is out with his carer; cinema and then he's going swimming. The school have kindly opened up the hydrotherapy pool for him tomorrow.
I had my first proper chat about the new Governor role. They are going to send me on an induction course. Lots to read re. Policies and previous minutes.

SummerRain Fri 07-Mar-14 18:09:47

The nice weather has been a welcome relief hasn't it... Everything always seems a bit more manageable with the sun shining.

I hope ds4 has a lovely time tomorrow. Congrats on the governor role btw, I missed that bit of news!

ouryve Fri 07-Mar-14 18:22:33

Well, the weather was a problem for us, today. DS1 didn't even complain about the sun in his eyes (it was quite painful) because he was too busy complaining about the biting wind that we were walking against. Of cours,e he refused to even acknowledge that he had a coat to put on, insisting that his fleece was his only coat even if it wasn't a very warm one. hmm

I had ear ache by the time we got home and it wasn't from the wind.

ouryve Fri 07-Mar-14 18:30:47

DS2's words of the day are bigger, thinner and sheepdog grin

And, now we have starfish grin

Galena Fri 07-Mar-14 18:31:21

Just marking my place - off out in a few minutes to practise a song I'm singing as a steward at a community choir festival at the end of March... Wish me luck!

I went along and volunteered at a parent & baby play session at the children's centre today. There's a puddle of goo where my heart used to be smile

Really starting to build a rapport with the staff and even a couple of the children - loving this! I'm hoping to one day work with children with SN within the early years environment, I think smile

hazeyjane Fri 07-Mar-14 18:33:37

Have just caught up with he other thread

thanks for Moose, Claw and Summer - I am so sorry for the hard times you are all having.

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Ds has just added his contribution ^^

Well done Mini Galena!!!

Weather has been lovely, had a lovely walk with ds today...a slow one after his fall yesterday, he really is a wibbly wobbly walker.

The advisory teacher came in to observe ds and write her report for statement - the senco said she was very impressed with progress ds was making, and just how well he is doing. This of course should be marvellous, except I instantly panic that the report is going to be too positive for the statement. She rang earlier and said ds would not cope in ms, needed to be in the slu and a statement, which is good (well it's not obviously, except in the topsy turvy frame of mind that you end up in, when applying for a statement!)

ouryve Fri 07-Mar-14 18:35:20

Lunchbox, cowboy grin

thirbday! So he does sometimes get it wrong!

ouryve Fri 07-Mar-14 18:39:57

It's great that he's progressing so well with the help he's getting, Hazey. And, if you think about where he was in September, there's no way he would have come so far without the right support. It's good that the advisory teacher is recommending a specialist unit, too - that would hopefully carry a lot of weight.

moosemama Fri 07-Mar-14 18:48:17

Very well said mini-hazey. Couldn't have put it better myself. cake for you. smile

Loving your ds's words of the day ouryve. I have a bigger, thinner sheepdog - he's a part Deerhound Lurcher with a good chunk of Border Collie in his mix! grin (Just tried to add a picture of him, but it's not letting me for some reason. hmm)

I am feeling a completely inappropriate and weird sense of calm after all the phonecalls, emails and chaos today. I know it's probably the calm before the storm and dh and I are in for a stinky weekend of paper pushing and evidence gathering, but I am determined to try and let it go - for this evening at least.

youarewinning Fri 07-Mar-14 18:51:11

Mooses, summer and claw. So sorry everything is some hit ATM. sad

Well done mini galena. That's amazing.

Ouryre - your boys like a walking dictionary ATM!

Hazey - tell your DS Hi and welcome to the thread!

DS ok today - I know he's struggling as he's gone into quiet and passive mode. I'm awaiting the inevitable but really talking ATM whilst he's so receptive.

StarlightMcKingsThree Fri 07-Mar-14 18:52:51

Hi all,

At meeting to vote in my role as SEN Governor, there raised a problem that the SENCO didn't want me as a parent of a child with SEN. Preferred someone 'impartial' apparently.

God knows where we go from here. TBH don't mind either way because I'll always raise SEN as part of anything I do regardless because imo it isn't something separate or an add on.

StarlightMcKingsThree Fri 07-Mar-14 18:53:58

Baby ds finally got his referral to a SALT with a 9 month waiting list hmm

signandsingcarols Fri 07-Mar-14 18:54:07

hi all, well the kitchen is done! the builders left last sat aft and we have spent the week hoovering and wiping brick dust and filling the cupboards, will post a photo if I can organise it.
now got the lounge to re-dec as the new doorway has been cut into one wall and another wall has been built (to change layout) was a bit more than the quote (but we did change a couple of things) so will have to save again for the downstairs loo, sad but then again ds does need some recovery time fromn all the changes, so maybe not such a bad thing....

and today dh's wheelchair arrived... really mixed feelings for him, but it is very snazzy, (well folds down well and is comfy) he is now a danger at church without one, (other people's toddlers are very squishy if you fall them.... sad ) so will get it's first outing on Sun.

claw2 Fri 07-Mar-14 18:55:20

Thanks and sorry guys I cant stick around and offer any support after receiving so much today, ds is kicking off again and I need to go and sort him out.

Thanks again and hopefully I will be able to give a little something back later x

signandsingcarols Fri 07-Mar-14 18:59:15

Hi Star, I am SEN governer too, we are due for OFSTEAD soon so have to be prepared and on the ball, SENCO always looks at me like a mongoose looking at a very big snake anyway... so I'm her worst nightmare, as SEN PG, grin LoL!

homework Fri 07-Mar-14 19:20:29

Well done to little galena quiet an achievement.

Summer try find time this week to just relax and pamper to yourself a bit.

Moose don't know what to say that can help , so not going to say anything other than hugs and sorry there making everything so difficult.

Claw , your poor ds has had such a hard day , plenty of down time with his favourite pastime .

Well my son school trip was excellent he really enjoy it asked loads of question , learned loads of new stuff . Hoping they get invited back and be allowed to participate more . He said he love to do some one to one time working with the scientists. So been really big hit , he's going to ask if school can do some web stuff with CDC in America . Wishful thinking me thinks .

ouryve Fri 07-Mar-14 19:34:05

9 months is outrageous, star sad

moose - the relief is probably having your problems with the school out in the open. And lurchers are beautiful dogs. Is this the one with a beard similar to my DH's? wink

claw - of course you need to support your DS, right now. I don't think anyone would expect anything else, when he needs you so much x

sign - looking forward to seeing your new kitchen. I bet you all need a break from the disruption.

homework - sounds like your DS had a fab day!

marshmallowSqueeze Fri 07-Mar-14 19:38:27

flowers for those having a hard time

We've had a pretty stressful week but compared to others its not that bad, but I came home to a voicemail summoning to a meeting with ss and school Monday (work will love that ),

On a positive note we have found a local playgroup ds can attend on a sat to play with other children with asd which sounds good so hoping the visit goes OK tomorrow

SallyBear Fri 07-Mar-14 19:41:03

Moose your school/transport situation has been unbelievably shit since day one. You have my utmost admiration for how you are tackling it. wine wine wine For tonight.

Star - would that be classed as a conflict of interest then? Pecuniary Interest is I think the term? I'd have thought that you'd have been perfect for that role.

Sign glad the kitchen is complete. Are you still going to old cupboards to get out the mugs? Apparently it's about brain mapping. smile

Loved the words of the day.

ouryve Fri 07-Mar-14 19:46:40

I still open the wrong cupboard, looking for mugs, 4 years after I moved them, when we had the boiler fitted. Thing is, it's often not the right wrong cupboard blush I'm not good in the mornings!

moosemama Fri 07-Mar-14 19:59:09

Ourvye, they both have beards. The Deerhound cross has a grey one and pup is a redhead with a white goatee! grin

Homework, glad the trip went well and ds enjoyed it.

SallyBear, I don't think I'm tackling it well at all. It feels like we're floundering around in the dark and possibly making everything worse. It just does your head in so much when they play their mindgames with you. You know you're right, but then the doubts creep in and you start to question yourself. I keep saying I can't believe the lack of compassion for the child at the centre of it all, how can so many people care about the bottom line, more than the very real trauma of the children involved in these situations. It makes me seriously misanthropic.

"The more I know about people, the better I like my dog." Mark Twain

To be honest, I'm still over the moon about my mum being willing to come and watch Dancing on Ice with me - she's so not into skating but I think she's realised that as I am, and am progressing with it, it's going to be part of our lives grin She's also going to come and watch me compete for the very first time, if she's got competition day off grin

I'm loving my voluntary placement btw - I've made a little friend smile One of the little boys has taken a real shine to me, follows me and wats to play with me all the time. Makes me feel all warm inside, and makes me realise I've made the right choice of college course smile

Jacksterbear Fri 07-Mar-14 20:34:31

claw and moose thanks so sorry things are so very stressful.

ouryve I do the wrong cupboard thing, 6.5 yrs later blush.

Alarming meeting with senco & ct this week. They are insisting he is "fine" (by which they mean he is not causing the same level of disruption with his meltdowns as he was in Sept) and that he doesn't need the level of support he has been getting (they are sending his 1-1 supporter out of the classroom to do other jobs). And starting to make mention of "budget" and that they don't know what level of support they'll be able to provide fine Sept (eg his 1-1 OT sessions with the PE teacher may have to go sad). Shit <stressed, worried face>.

Sorry to ramble on about this stuff when others are having a much tougher time.

wine to all.

HugAndRoll Fri 07-Mar-14 20:40:52

Am I ok to join you? I have ds1 age 5 with hfa/aspergers, hypotonia and slight hypermobility and ds2 age 22 months who is very hypermobile.

I've posted on the boards quite a lot and have had lots of support but never felt confident to join the goose and carrot (I don't know why as you're all lovely).

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