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21.2.14 - Goose and Carrot - Rum and hot chocolate specials

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hazeyjane Fri 21-Feb-14 18:16:35

Have felt chilled to the bone and out of sorts all day, hence the rum and hot chocolate (purely medicinal)

Highlight of my day was ds having his first ever proper haircut! Our lovely hairdresser was over cutting the dds hair and he climbed up on his chair and made his sign for 'chop' - fortunately she is very quick!

Used2bthin Fri 21-Feb-14 20:38:48

Hello all, just came over after seeing a post on the half term thread, hope that's ok. Draughts hello! Been ages!

Hazeyjane we are on the ddd study too and you have just reminded me that we have moved house so i need to let them know our new address. Last I heard was a phone call about nine months ago from a nurse to ask family history etc.

Evening all!

I mad eit through the week alive grin Maybe a few more grey hairs but that's ok as I got dye on sale for £2.75 they will be banished!!

It seems we have a new food on ds list. Spaghetti, yaay. I never thought he'd eat anything like that.

SallyBear Fri 21-Feb-14 21:04:13

Thanks Smallstuff! That's very kind of you. Looking forward to being a school governor, but as it's a special
School there isn't the expectation for good academic results.

Just watching the rugby and being an honorary welsh girl for the night.

Going to a LA SEN information day on Monday, where they will be explaining the EHC plans and their hopes for the new code of practice.

ConstantCraving Fri 21-Feb-14 21:32:27

Please can I have a wine and some cake. Feeling very sad. DD had an observation by an ASD specialist that showed she almost certainly has autism. Reading the report was hard. She said lots of other positive stuff too and has good plans to help her, and this shouldn't be a surprise but it seems very final and very bleak. We won't get an official diagnosis for a year (NHS waiting list!), but I know that this is what it is. I don't want this. I want a way out for us, a magic wand, but of course there isn't one sad.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 21-Feb-14 21:35:27

wine andcake. There is no other way to say it, it is hard especially at first.

[Wine] and cake it's hard even if you know in your heart what it is already.

hazeyjane Fri 21-Feb-14 21:42:10

more wine and cake from me, constant. Seeing things in black and white is always hard. Be kind to yourself.

Daughts, wow to the reading. Good luck with the MRI.

Hello Used2 - things sound tough atm. We struggled to get ds's spit sample for the ddd study, so they want a blood sample instead - ds has to have a general anaesthetic in March, so they are going to take bloods then.

hazeyjane Fri 21-Feb-14 21:44:12

Sally, I'll be interestd to hear what they say about the EHC plans at your meeting - I spoke to the head of central sen in our area the other day, she wants my feedback on our experience of being part of the pilot - which should be interesting!

PolterGoose Fri 21-Feb-14 21:44:22

Constant wine and cake there might not be a magic wand (although ds might suggest eradicating all humans who aren't like him would be a good start, not very practical or ethical though) but the desire to make life as good as it can be, and to strive for progress, doesn't go away with diagnosis. Diagnosis just helps you fine tune what you do. It will be ok.

ConstantCraving Fri 21-Feb-14 21:44:56

Thank you. I'm just going to go and eat lots of cake and wine and then sleep. Will pop back in over the weekend when I'm feeling slightly more balanced.

OneStepForwardTwoBack Fri 21-Feb-14 21:52:43

Constant when it first properly dawned on me about my son I was hysterical. By the time he was having his first assessments I was desperate for confirmation one way or another. By the time the diagnosis came it was purely formality of what I already knew. A year later I am surprised at how happy we are, hugely helped by a statement and special school place. Life moves on and it gets easier to accept. Cake and wine are a good start ;-)

ouryve Fri 21-Feb-14 22:06:23

Waney! Found the wifi password.

Both of mine need haircuts. Ds2 looks like Dougal!

Kicking myself about leaving my medicine box. I'm ok as I had some in my handbag and scrounged the rest off dad who is a couple of decades further than me down the same path of decrepit. Ds1 will be hard though. Might have to leave Sunday morning, instead of afternoon.

PolterGoose Fri 21-Feb-14 22:16:08

Good luck ouryve wine

Have had a message from Galena, she's fine, she's with dd on an intensive personal trainer course for 2 weeks and she will be back, she says hi to everyone

bochead Fri 21-Feb-14 22:17:25

DS also needs a haircut. However he has the sort of curls us girls would kill for so gets away with charming lil old ladies, which means I put off the dreaded cut for months longer than I should every time. Will tackle it at the weekend.

Have sorted the plumbing post the storms and recommenced our house hunt this week. Both DS & I are fed up with the whole dang process, and the three houses we saw today were all awful.

I've recovered from the vomiting bug that knocked me for six last week and have started to get back into homeschooling lessons properly. The LA want to come out and check what I'm up to at some point, so I'll have to get things into some sort of presentable order to show them over the next few weeks me thinks.

Got going again on my OU course, and am loving it! I'm finding it very hard to reengage my brain, after years of slow dumbing down to the level of the caring carrots, so it's the mental equivalent of a cattle prod at the moment. Hopefully in 18 months time it'll pay off with a work at home career. We all need a little hope, and I never adjusted to being forced to leave the workforce emotionally.

We got outbid on a house we liked and the houses we've viewed this week have all been awful. DS is very cross. Once we are finally in our new permanent home I'll never move again as I loathe the whole process!

DontSweatTheSmallStuff Fri 21-Feb-14 22:50:34

{{hugs}} Constant - coming to terms with it is hard. Wish i could wave the magic wand for you. Even though we were expecting a diagnosis it was still hard to come to terms with it and realise that the behaviour wasn't due to other factors and was here to stay. It's an old cliche, but it does get better especially as an official diagnosis get you access to more help and support.

Bilberry Fri 21-Feb-14 23:33:16

One step, your attitude does change doesn't it? A few months ago I would have been horrified at the thought of ds attending a SEN unit, now I am thinking how can I fight my way into one if the speech unit application fails?

Constant - cakewine and chocolate (why is there no symbol for that?)

NoHaudinMaWheest Sat 22-Feb-14 00:00:48

bochead good luck with the house hunting. Not something I relished can't understand why some people make a hobby of it.

Well done for the OU. Answering questions on University Challenge is the most stretching my brain gets these days.

SummerRain Sat 22-Feb-14 02:13:32

Constant... It's hard but honestly ds1s dx was a really positive step for us and despite the label he's made massive leaps behaviour wise in the last year which have given me hope for his future. We've still got ds2's dx to go so another round of horrendous assessment forms and grueling meetings.

Bochead, I'm back at OU work again too, it's tough to get your head in the right gear after being out of education but so worth it isn't it? Best of luck with it smile

youarewinning Sat 22-Feb-14 07:33:49

Constant - it is hard. I'm where you are still waiting the official assessment. I swing between wanting to be told ds fine and wanting a dx because I know he needs the support.

Summer - I evenly had a meeting on EHCP and the new offers instead of SA etc. very interesting.

SwayingBranches Sat 22-Feb-14 07:52:23

Ds has never had a haircut other than me hacking his fringe. We've been too scared, tho he really needs doing as there's loads at one side not at the other.

I'm figuring no one here is going to be judgey about the sausage roll because Yay, it's something he'll eat.

Okay, also just want to share a photo cos I feel like on this board I just mention negatives and here's my little sweetie!

SwayingBranches Sat 22-Feb-14 07:56:31

Bochead and Summerrain I completed my OU degree two weeks before ds was born! Hard going at times but so nice to engage the brain. Good luck!

SallyBear Sat 22-Feb-14 08:09:00

Gorgeous blond curls he has, Swaying! My DS4 had curls when he was little, it's wavy now. As for haircuts, he won't go to the hairdresser as he doesn't like anything around his ears (due to futile attempts to get him to wear hearing aids). So I DH and I tag team. Pop him in the bath, DH blows bubbles and I just cut as quickly as I can. It's not great, but he doesn't look like a woolly mammoth.

PolterGoose Sat 22-Feb-14 08:43:39

Good luck with it all bochead flowers

I've got one more final assignment on my OU course and I'm done. And I love house hunting confused

Swaying he is very gorgeous smile

SwayingBranches Sat 22-Feb-14 09:07:19

His hair was really dark when he was born so he doesn't even look like the same child! I reckon he'll go darker as he grows anyway. It amuses me when people look at dh and me and boggle we produced such a child! Mind, ds1 is copper ginger so...!

I daren't cut more than his fringe I'm terrible. Tho we're thinking of taking him to the local barbers, no hairdryers and they've said before they're used to children unhappy with haircuts. Can't have anyone come to the house as he would freak out much more.

SwayingBranches Sat 22-Feb-14 09:08:02

Poster, grin

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