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Goose and Carrot 7.02.14 - early opening!

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hazeyjane Fri 07-Feb-14 15:44:43

2 appointments - check (opthamology and chest xray)
stress free bus journey x 2 - check
phone call from central SEN to say they will assess ds for statement..................CHECK!

Big glasses of something cold and bubbly all round!

Saving an extra big glass for Bluebird, who needs it after Bluechicks stint in hospital.

autumnsmum Sat 15-Feb-14 16:15:53

Sorry ouryve I hope I didn't come across as pushy about the app . Avoid any fisher price ones if you want to preserve any shred of sanity

ouryve Fri 14-Feb-14 16:18:31

My 10yo likes Peppa Pig, too. As does my 40yo DH grin

stillstandingatthebusstop Fri 14-Feb-14 15:36:53

No email for our CAMHs either - officially - but I have one of the secretaries emails - yippee!!

Glad you're feeling a bit better Moose!

Referring back to earlier autumnsmum (sorry had to go to work) youngest DS is 12 yrs (but likes Peppa Pig) other two are 15yrs and 17yrs. All boys.

stillstandingatthebusstop Fri 14-Feb-14 15:34:44

No email for our CAMHs either - officially - but I have one of the secretaries emails - yippee!!

Glad you're feeling a bit better Moose!

Referring back to earlier autumnsmum (sorry had to go to work) youngest DS is 12 yrs (but likes Peppa Pig) other two are 15yrs and 17yrs. All boys.

zzzzz Fri 14-Feb-14 14:57:42
SummerRain Fri 14-Feb-14 14:54:37

Same here in Ireland, firmly denying the existence of email in all organisations where it would be most useful.

He rang back shock Turns out asd assessment is now under a different branch of the HSE so he's looking into it for me. I really hope he can see him as despite the tricky administration system he's an excellent psyche and was brilliant when Ds1 was going through dx.

ouryve Fri 14-Feb-14 14:19:13

The private OT we use is the only person I can communicate with by email. You'd think we were firmly stuck in the 20th century 'ere up North.

AliceinWinterWonderland Fri 14-Feb-14 14:07:55

I would not be able to retain my sanity if I couldn't communicate with the paed and the OT through email. Makes life so much easier. I think you need to bring them into the present and out of the dark ages.

ouryve Fri 14-Feb-14 14:04:11

Our CAMHS don't do email, either, Summer. They exist behind a firewall of admin staff, who might even tell your psych you've turned up for an appointment, after you've announced yourself over the intercom. You don't evcen get to see them face to face. It's like the Wizard of bloody Oz.

SummerRain Fri 14-Feb-14 13:51:55

Welcome back moose smile

As predicted I had a voicemail from the camhs psyche today so now I'm going to have to ring him again <screams> No email address for any HSE employees, it's the first thing I check for every time. I may just write him a letter as the stress of this constant phoning and waiting wrecks my head.

Its snowing again here too, not landing properly though so we just have slush everywhere sad

hazeyjane Fri 14-Feb-14 13:33:17

v day gets sidelined by dh's birthday, but he did get me a lovely grey shirt and dds made me a very sweet card.

AliceinWinterWonderland Fri 14-Feb-14 13:14:29

Ignoring V day here too. Both DCs mentioned it today, but no cards, not for home or school. I don't want it to be a huge issue. They're all excited that we're having chips with tea tonight. I'm happy with that. grin

ouryve Fri 14-Feb-14 13:04:18

Gad to see oyu back, moose. Crap that you've been so ill and that DS1 is still having such a crappity crap time at school.

And well done, Polter! And zzzzz!

DH is actually working from home for the first time this year, today. I put him on school run duty and saved the exertion involved with pushing the buggy uphill, against the wind for the glamorous task of steam cleaning the bathroom. It needed it, but I've been too physically shattered to manage it.

We're studiously ignoring V day, but I've been enjoying the business-like v day greetings that Lauren Laverne's been reading out grin

AliceinWinterWonderland Fri 14-Feb-14 12:59:05

Oh and EEEEEEEEEEEKKKKK!!! Mooose!!!!!! WELCOME BACK! grin

Glad you're feeling a teeny bit better. So sorry to hear your DS's school is still shitty.

AliceinWinterWonderland Fri 14-Feb-14 12:58:26

Sallybear I'll have to look online for more videos. I struggled with the ones I saw. Patterns are far beyond me. I can knit really well though. grin

Polter Attic24? I will give that a try. I need blankets. Really. hahahaa actually I don't - I have 3 granny square blankets that elderly relatives have made for me, but I want to do my own! <stamps foot>

My intro: I am old. I am tired. I talk a lot. Single mum, mainly due to separation from STBXH. Also have an adult DD who lives nearby and is NT. That's me. Not very exciting, to be honest.

My DCs? 7yo DS1 has ADHD, ASD, dyspraxia, hypermobility, sensory problems, speech and language delay (although at this point it's mostly comprehension that is the issue), asthma, eczema, and if that's not enough, now they're concerned about his blood sugars (enough to mention it repeatedly, but not apparently enough to organise testing - I am THISCLOSE to screaming at them!). He spends his time changing all the settings on every computerised item in the house so that I then have to wade through them and change it all back (which can often be more difficult as he sometimes changes the language as well!). He has recently told me he wants to be a doctor when he grows up. My advice to you all? Stay healthy! grin

4yo DS2 is being monitored for possible dyslexia and seems to have some visual memory problems. He also has asthma and eczema. He cannot stand routine changes or rules being broken At. All. But for all intents and purposes seems to be NT.

Wow. I told you I talk a lot. grin

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 14-Feb-14 12:57:40

Moose welcome back. Sorry ds's school is still so awful.

Polter and zzzzz respect. I should do something about my chocolate addiction.

Dd handed in her GCSE options form today. She should be fine so long as Gove doesn't decide that spelling is more important than content.
I have drafted a letter to the Director of Children's services asking that ds's SW be reinstated as his key worker until he transfers to adult services. Would anyone care to have a shuftie at it for me?

zzzzz Fri 14-Feb-14 12:51:05

Well done polt how very saintly grin

Can I say I have stopped drinking black tea (1 week) and moved on to green (bloody kidney stone sabotaging my cuppa) and feel MUCH better and am a bit embarrassed that half of my exhaustion seems to have been self induced caffeine abuse. blush

autumnsmum Fri 14-Feb-14 12:22:04

Polter well done ! Hazey that's great about the slippers

PolterGoose Fri 14-Feb-14 12:02:35

So pleased you're back moose we missed you smile

Can I just say I haven't had a fag since 8.30am Wednesday, I've joined the realms of the 'vapers' and have been using an e-fag. It is very odd.

hazeyjane Fri 14-Feb-14 11:57:51


<in the style of shouting 'Norm!' in Cheers - bearhugs Moose>

lovely to see you, sorry for tough weeks.

It is the festival of Mr Hazeyjane today (ie his birthday). We are supposed to be going to see the Lego Movie and having lunch out, but ds is hot and snotty and miserable after cutting his lip open yesterday, so he has taken dds, I am watching Tom and Jerry with ds, and they are bring lunch home from MacD's.

I managed to get out last night, but was so late, I ran out of the house in jeans, food schmeared jumper, scruffy old parka and wet hair. Got to the restaurant and realised I was wearing my slippers....

Hello Marshmallow - I have dd1 (7), dd2 (6 - just diagnosed as dyslexic with visual disturbances) and ds (3.7 - genetic condition - gdd, non verbal, hypotonia, health problems). smile

moosemama Fri 14-Feb-14 11:48:47

smile thank you.

It's just business as usual in the Moose household. blush I have been waiting years for a lull in the chaos, but it never seems to arrive. hmm

SallyBear Fri 14-Feb-14 11:35:45

Moose, glad to see you lovely x

autumnsmum Fri 14-Feb-14 11:27:40

Moose lovely to hear from you sorry things have been so tough !

moosemama Fri 14-Feb-14 11:16:31

Hello all

I am up! shock Although admittedly not dressed yet, but I actually feel almost human today. Thank you to everyone who sent me such lovely well-wishes, I am a bit blush about being so noticeably absent - I am obviously on here far too much and talk far too much! blush (Well actually we knew that really didn't we?)

Hello marshmallow so glad you found the G&C thread and decided to join in.

Here's my intro. I have 3 dcs. Ds1 who is 11 and has ASD, some sensory issues, high anxiety and some OCD issues. He is currently in an out of area independent mainstream secondary school, which we thought was the answer to all our problems, but has so far been anything but. I also have ds2 who is 9, has Joint Hypermobility Syndrome and is such a sweetheart, despite often being in pain and exhausted. Then last, but not least, is dd who has just turned 5 and is looking like she also has JHS, probably worse than ds2, given that it's much more noticeable at a younger age.

Then there's me. I am a very unhealthy soul, constantly dropping to bits in one way or another. I have an as-yet unidentified neurological condition which causes all sorts of odd symptoms, but seems to be relapsing/remitting, so I have good and bad times really. I also realised I have JHS when ds2 was diagnosed last year. I am just getting over two weeks in bed with the killer flu from hell (thanks dd for bringing that one home from school) - hence being proud to be actually up and posting, rather than still in bed.

This week has been rough. Ds1 is still having lots of problems with 'transport boy', the latest being him stalking him online, deliberately targetting his Minecraft, then yesterday seeking out and deliberately killing the wolf ds had been raising from a pup in it. He has been told to report every incident to the SEN Manager, which he did, but when he reported that was told "It's only a game" which of course upset him even more. It's not just a game, it's his ASD obsession. His current obsessions are computers/gaming (of course) but also dog-training, as we have a pup and he's doing dog-training as his enrichment activity at school once a week. Now he says there's no point in reporting anything, as they don't do anything about it anyway and transport boy is allowed to get away with doing whatever he wants (this is true, it seems he can do whatever he likes to other pupils no matter how bad, but got a half day suspension for swearing at a couple of teachers hmm angry). So we're back to square one after fighting tooth and nail to get him to tell the school when something happens that upsets him, now he says there's no point and he doesn't trust them anyway.

On top of that one of the teachers reported ds for supposedly playing online on his new laptop during a lesson. So the SEN Manager stalked into his SALT group first thing in the morning and told him he was being disconnected from the school wifi (well actually he didn't have the balls to tell him himself, he got the TA to do it angry). After a week of upset and a very distressed ds (who needs wifi access to email classwork to his teachers after every lesson) we managed to work out from his history that he hadn't been online once in a lesson, other than one time when he had permission to browse for an image to use in his classwork. Ds then went through his history with the SEN Manager who agreed he'd only used it at break and lunchtime, but no-one apologised to him and we don't know which teacher accused him - or why.

His communication book has gone missing in the SEN office, his homework diary (that the TA is supposed to note his homework in) is missing, he came home with another boy's tie after PE last week, gave it back on Monday, but still hasn't had his back and has an entire bag full of just about all my tupperware (all fully named) disappear after cookery.

His anxiety is really bad and he's started getting really OCD about being near flour - resulting in him being removed from both a science and cookery lesson in less than 24 hours last week.

Dh and I are so sick of this bloody school, but at a bit of a loss to know what to do about it. The only thing is that, despite them threatening us with saying they would say they couldn't meet ds's needs if we complained - when we met before Christmas, we now think it's unlikely to be that easy for them to do that, when they clearly can't get rid of transport boy no matter how bad he gets and he is also from our LA.

Anyone get anything for valentines today? My dh left me a sparkly bag, containing a card, bottle of Berberana Riohja and pair of Dartington wine goblets (the same as the the ones we had as a wedding gift, that I loved, but were broken when we moved here). I only got him a card. blush

It's his birthday tomorrow though, so I will make up for it then - although he hasn't got much, as obviously I haven't been able to get much shopping done over the past week or so. Just ordered him a skull and crossbone birthday cake, cupcakes and some bottle conditioned ale from Sainsbury's to surprise him with at teatime tomorrow as I feel so bad about not being able to make him a cake myself.

Anyway, that's my mahoosive post to make up for not being here for a couple of weeks.

autumnsmum Fri 14-Feb-14 11:11:02

Still stAnding that made me chuckle about the chores ! Your boys sound great how old s your youngest?

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