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goose and carrot 24th Jan...

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signandsingcarols Fri 24-Jan-14 15:01:37

Hi everyone, how has the week gone?

Chez sign is currently packing in preparation for the new kitchen, and new walls/door way for the 'odd-little-room-next-to-the-kitchen' work starts in 2 weeks and the odd room is full of dh's books and models, (plan is after moving the door and adding a new wall laterin the year, (once we have saved again) the little room will become downstairs loo and 'rest' room for dh, with a day bed, so he can stay down stairs onece he has managed to get down in the morning,) huge upheaval but been planning and waiting so long am really excited. grin

hoping ds will manage all the stress, hmm

ouryve Fri 31-Jan-14 18:37:42

New Friday, new thread

ouryve Fri 31-Jan-14 16:22:25

Polter sad I'm furious on his behalf.

We've survived today, anyhow. DS1 started off the day grumbling, but once break was over with, he's enjoyed himself and been happily ruffling his friends' hair!

We've been in over half an hour and ds2 has finally removed his outdoor clothes and come down to join us. I think he's been on a mission!

autumnsmum Fri 31-Jan-14 16:18:55

Polter that is dreadful it is disgraceful he was treated that way

zzzzz Fri 31-Jan-14 16:16:10

"You've got to know when to hold them,
Know when to fold them,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.

Never count your money when you're sitting at the table, there'll be time enough for counting when the dealings done."

Should be our theme tune on here

m.youtube.com/watch?v=kn481KcjvMo&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dkn481KcjvMo

PolterGoose Fri 31-Jan-14 16:08:40

It is disgusting. Ds is scoffing in front of Doctor Who and I'm sitting in tears because I have just about had enough. But at the same time I want to gather a bit more evidence before I lay my cards on the table.

zzzzz Fri 31-Jan-14 16:05:26

I would ask (and I DO NOT mean nicely) that they recognise the work your child did and his contribution to the stall. That they explain that they had "called him up" because they thought he wouldn't like it and that they have a certificate/prize/whatever in the office for him.

Gloves off. That is disgusting.

lougle Fri 31-Jan-14 16:00:51

That is a serious oversight, at best, Polter - I'd be enraged too.

PolterGoose Fri 31-Jan-14 15:57:42

I need to rant. I've posted this on my long thread for safekeeping, but need an audience blush

Picked up ds, he was absolutely furious, physically just about holding it together, clenched fists, aggressive tone. Stormed off and refused to hold my hand, walked across a road, I said it wasn't fair him been angry with me as I hadn't done anything wrong, so it must be a school thing, eventually worked out that at assembly a group he was in last year was praised for their good work raising money for charity, 4 of them got called up and he was not. He was in that group through all the planning, design etc of the items they were to sell, the only thing he didn't do was the actual selling at sports day, because he doesn't attend sports day as it is too stressful (whole day affair). I suggested to ds maybe it's because they know he doesn't like being praised, perhaps that was why, but, really, they could and should have spoken to him. He then had an argument with 2 boys after assembly and nobody even noticed. I am fucking fuming.

He has been at school 3 days this week. I got physically attacked on Wednesday and today this. I am going to email the HT when I've calmed down.

AliceinWinterWonderland Fri 31-Jan-14 15:13:48

zzzzz I agree, it's a scary word. I'd say try not to worry at this point, but seriously, I know that's impossible. Make sure you don't spend time googling. Google is never good with stuff like this. Thinking of you.

zzzzz Fri 31-Jan-14 14:15:39

lougle "a little too much" is about right, the emphasis being on the "little". It was nearly 20 years ago and I was far more interested in neonatal hearing tests....a different life. grin

autumnsmum Fri 31-Jan-14 14:09:00

Zzzz I can only agree with everyone else the word oncologist is scary . No Hayden glad to hear you have your appt sorry to hear about the politics with cahms

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 31-Jan-14 14:03:10

zzzzz I say too its natural to be scared especially when dd has other serious issues. Do you have a date for MRI etc?

moose you have had a terrible couple of months. (((hugs))) and hope it improves soon.

Got my appointment for chest pain clinic today for Tuesday.
Discussion with DD's psychologist yesterday suggests that there is a lot of politics going on between CAMHS and SS and Ds is caught in the middle of it. If I don't engage in a lot of prodding and battling it could seriously affect his transition to adult services and he only has 8months to go.

I think I will start a thread in SN children to see if anyone has any wisdom. Now I have to go and retrieve a bag I left in a shop yesterday - that's how on the ball I am at the moment. And its pouring rain.

moosemama Fri 31-Jan-14 13:42:40

Of course you do zzzzz, I would be exactly the same - we all would, I think. As you said, just the word 'oncology' is enough to strike fear into your heart.

lougle Fri 31-Jan-14 13:39:52

I think you're absolutely rational in being scared, too, zzzzz. Especially if you know a little too much about it all. thanks

zzzzz Fri 31-Jan-14 13:35:27

Thank you lougle moose everyone I know all that logically. My MechEng degree was "medical engineering" as apposed to automotive or whatever (this only really means you spend part of your final year in hospital and maths revolves around virus spread and tumour growth). I get it all really, I just feel scared anyway. confused. I think "oncology" is just scary.

moosemama Fri 31-Jan-14 12:46:15

Sorry, took a phonecall before pressing post. Lougle is far more reassuring than I was. I just know from my own neuro issues that if they are seriously worried they find a way to get you in within 24/48 hours for MRIs.

moosemama Fri 31-Jan-14 12:44:25

zzzzz, I had missed this too. Sorry. You must be so worried.

If it helps, I would think if they were at all suspicious after one ultrasound they would go straight to MRI and skip the second ultrasound altogether.

I will be thinking of you and your dd and sending lots of positive vibes. flowers

lougle Fri 31-Jan-14 12:38:33

Oh zzzzz - I can possibly help a little there (used to be a neuro nurse).

Lumps can be cancerous (malignant) or non-cancerous (benign). However, people only hear 'cancer' or 'not cancer' and the trouble is that depending on where the lump is, the presence of a lump itself is a problem, regardless of whether it's 'cancer'.

In brains, lumps are generally unhelpful, no matter the origin, because the skull is a fixed, tight, space, so any lump of any sort will take up valuable 'brain' room.

In abdominal cavities, a benign lump can sit quite happily for some time because there's lots of space and the organs don't mind sharing it with a harmless bit of extra tissue.

Lumps on backs are somewhere in the middle. If they are benign (non-cancerous) then they are often just a nuisance. However, some benign lumps can still cause trouble. If the lump is just sitting in the fat/muscle/flesh and is benign, then it's a cosmetic issue. However, if the lump had originated in or near the spine, its presence can cause nerve compression.

If your DD is only bothered by the lump at night, then that's reassuring. If she doesn't have any nerve symptoms (ie. leg weakness or altered sensation) that's also really reassuring.

However, any surgeon worth their salt will want loads of information about any lump they are thinking of removing - where does it attach, what is it attached to, what sort of lump is it, etc.

Have they biopsied it? If they haven't, that's reassuring that they don't think it's sinister. If they have, then that's also reassuring because you'll get a definitive 'this is what it is...'

If they seriously thought it was sinister, you wouldn't be waiting two weeks for MRI - My niece went to the doctors on Christmas Eve and had a CT the same day, despite everything shutting down for Christmas.

StarlightMcKingsThree Fri 31-Jan-14 12:22:30

Oh zzzzz how worrying for you. Most likely nothing from the sounds of it, but I'd personally rather 'not worry' about no lump than a lump.

zzzzz Fri 31-Jan-14 12:17:58

Sorry so tide up in my own rubbish I forget to give background for those that miss the highlight hmm.

Dd woke up with a lump on her spine Jan2nd, about an inch/2 grapes. Looks benign cyst but she is epileptic and weaning off her meds, so anaesthetic to remove difficult. Doesn't need removing hopefully as they say it won't impact. She is waking multiple times a night because it hurts/tickles/she is sleeping on the lump. We are waiting 2 weeks for ultrasound and MRI, first ultrasound looked "good". The sceptical part of me thinks Drs don't think "more ultrasound and MRI" unless there is a possibility of it not being "good".

sad

She is so beautiful, sometimes I want to run away with my children and stick my hands over my ears and shout "la la la" until the world goes away.

PolterGoose Fri 31-Jan-14 12:10:51

lougle no one is expected to keep up with it all, you can just pop in, rant, and go, or sit around supping brew

lougle Fri 31-Jan-14 12:05:34

I am just so rubbish with general threads like this. I need distinct threads with clear titles blush

Perhaps DD2 is taking after me in some way? shock

StarlightMcKingsThree Fri 31-Jan-14 12:01:28

Oh I missed that too zzzzz. Hope it's just a routine check of some kind.

lougle Fri 31-Jan-14 11:59:24

zzzzz - an oncologist...what have I missed? Are you ok?

(Thanks for all the encouragement, everyone)

StarlightMcKingsThree Fri 31-Jan-14 11:54:59

Moose YOu must have used up your bad luck by now!?

Sorry.

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