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Goose and Carrot, 6 December

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Galena Fri 06-Dec-13 17:09:55

Let me open up!

youarewinning Fri 13-Dec-13 21:13:14

Hi all. Just had a read through.

I'll post properly on Sunday.

Car broke this week, TV Ariel broken and tooth extracted and off out to railway tomorrow for the day. Tired and in pain so need a good sleep before 4 hr round trip tomorrow. Ha ha who am I kidding? We managed a whole 1.5 hrs of anxiety at 2am this morning - a record for DS!

Oh and school have now classed him as MLD on his new IEP - which is a fab IEP and I'm pleased with it. He's done assessments this week - not had literacy or reading back but maths he got a 4B. So now really wondering about secondary because his ability range is ridiculously varied. Wondering if and when we get a DX with this info it may help me get him Indy through lea?

hazeyjane Fri 13-Dec-13 14:03:03

Oh Sallybear, poor ds. It is so difficult when everything is so out of the ordinary and what is special and exciting to their siblings and everyone else is just frightening and overwhelming to them. Sending lots of love your way.

I know it is a different circumstance, but ds is struggling too. His chest is full of gunk, he won't let me do chest physio because he seems to be hyper sensitive to everything (maybe anxiety too?) I am up all night with him, because he is coughing so much, but the girls are in a whirl of excitement because it is Christmas and there are nativities and sheep costumes to make and Christmas parties and presents to buy and it is just all too much.

SallyBear Fri 13-Dec-13 13:52:53

I will be glad when the Christmas madness is over with. Poor DS4 (6yrs) is really struggling this year. He smeared poo all over his bedroom wall last night. Just one of several anxiety related behaviours that he has been showing. Everyone else is mega excited about Christmas. He is sadly a ball of stress. My poor baby.

SummerRain Thu 12-Dec-13 23:21:44

hazey... we used to get a lot of similar comments. One old lady in the bank plucked ds2's dummy from his mouth and told him he was too big for it. He was 14 months and SALT were encouraging its use to build his oral muscles, up til 8/9 months his suck reflex was so poor he couldn't hold a dummy in his mouth. Plenty of other times we had the 'You won't be able to talk with that dummy/ hand in your mouth' or complete strangers prompting him to say please or thank you when he was totally non-verbal hmm

You grow a thick skin fast with a non-talking child, luckily dd gave me 5 years of practice with selective mutism to develop my armored skin wink

I'm glad that nurse was embarrassed at least, she really needs to think more carefully in her profession.

zzzzz Thu 12-Dec-13 23:21:29

I had a similar experience with ds at the self service check out. The assistant trying to help rescue us from the mire that is the "Unidentified item in bagging area". Told ds off for touching the bagging area (which was NOT what caused the problem). He only heard touch not "don't touch"....snow ball of instruction, misunderstanding, irritation, instruction... I had to lay my hand on her arm à la caring carrot and say "he can't understand what you are saying". Poor thing she was so terribley flustered and I really did understand she couldn't have known because ds was behaving so very nt in every other way grin <smug>

hazeyjane Thu 12-Dec-13 23:01:22

Have just finished sewing a sheep costume. Why does my dd have to be the only girl in infants that doesn't want to be a bloody angel!

the nurse doing my blood test this morning was asking ds questions about Thomas the tank engine, he was completely ignoring her, she asked more questions and then said, 'You won't say anything if you don't put that tongue away.'

There was a shock pause then I said, 'um actually he has a genetic condition, he can't speak and his tongue is always out, he can sign though, and he loves helicopters'

I have never seen anyone look so mortified, but I really hadn't said it in any way because I had taken offence, I just didn't want her to dig herself into a hole any more!

She was then lovely, asking what the sign was for helicopter, and finding a Father Christmas sticker for ds, and genuinely talking to him, rather than talking to me about him over his head. It was an oddly lovely moment. She left me with a stonking bruise wher she jabbed me though!

SummerRain Thu 12-Dec-13 22:37:45

Thanks zzzzz, I might try singing that at him tomorrow to see if I can shock him into performing grin He refused today so I'm not too optimistic we're out of the woods yet but at least there's hope.

zzzzz Thu 12-Dec-13 21:18:15

All my best ideas are tres catchy. grin

Jacksterbear Thu 12-Dec-13 21:16:22

Thanks zzzzz, now I have that stuck in my head fgrin

zzzzz Thu 12-Dec-13 20:52:15

summer WOW! I think that calls for the famous zzzzz rendition of the potty training anthem

Ahem...<to the tun of "Vindaloo">

In the loo
In the loo
In the loo, In the loo, In the LOO
Pee pee poo
In the loo
In the loo, In the loo, In the LOO!

Repeat until triumphant feeling is satisfied.

grin

ouryve Thu 12-Dec-13 20:43:57

Well done to your DS, Summer. The pooing is a biggy. Pooing is what kept DS1 in nappies until he was nearly 8.

autumnsmum Thu 12-Dec-13 16:02:51

Poltergoose it was an exhibition of embroidered self portraits a local community group had done .the woman running the exhibition was genuine and friendly as well

PolterGoose Thu 12-Dec-13 15:56:01

autumn sorry about bus girl making you sad, glad dd enjoyed the faces <intrigued>

ouryve and Summer well done those boys grin

Good news here too grin ds described his day variously as epic, awesome and brilliant, who knew he'd enjoy planes so much? I got monologued all the way home about Spitfires, Concord and a helicopter simulator, I feel a new obsession is on the horizon.

SummerRain Thu 12-Dec-13 15:49:32

ds2 pooed in the toilet 2 days running shock I'd been ignoring the issue for fear of him withholding again as we've had a good long run without needing movicol now. Caught him on Tuesday evening squatting in the living room so grabbed him and sat him on he toilet and he actually did it. I chanced my arm asking him to try last night before bed and he did it again shock I'm not getting my hopes up too much as he's gotten this far before and backslid but it's been a while sine we've had any progress at all regarding the toilet so maybe he's finally ready.

He announced today that he's Joseph in the infant room nativity confusedhmm Somehow that seems unlikely as Joseph really isn't the character the teacher would want to risk bursting into tears and refusing to go on stage! I'm intrigued to see what happens next thursday now though, the infants nativity is being kept a big secret, the kids aren't telling us anything about it as apparently the teacher wants it to be a surprise... it could be more surprising than she planned on tbh but at least it'll be a bit of light relief before having to sit through the other two plays grin

autumnsmum Thu 12-Dec-13 15:06:57

Real mixed bag today on the sad side sat on bus and a gorgeous girl who was about dd2s age was having a conversation with her dad which is something with all her progress dd2. Can't do .on the positive side there was an exhibition of embroidered faces in the local park and she dragged me in shouting funny faces .dp remarked its so rAre for her to share anything with us

ouryve Thu 12-Dec-13 14:52:07

DS2 does that with food, too, zzzzz! He can detect a tiny piece of carrot on a forkful of mince and eat around it without even looking!

Anyhow.... DS1 had a wee visit to the Indy school, today and had a fab time! He was keen to negotiate another visit, in the new year and will get to meet the other primary age children. AND HE DID SOME WRITING!!!!!!

moosemama Thu 12-Dec-13 12:02:09

Ah, the accidental pea eh? Still, fantastic that he didn't freak out - ds1 definitely would have done.

Poor old ds1 accidentally put a chocolate in his mouth last weekend and chocolate is his absolute nemesis - he can't even stand the smell of it. He won a cone of sweets at the Christmas fair and it appeared to be white bon-bons, which are gf, so he went to eat one. It wasn't a bon-bon, it was one of those chocolate snowball things that are covered in icing. We are both still totally bunged up and without a sense of smell, so neither of us smelled the chocolate. The look of utter panic on his face, poor kid. Fortunately I realised the second he put it in and we had to do the emergency 'spit it in a tissue' routine. I think not being able to smell saved him, as he said he didn't taste anything at all, although it was still covered in thick icing sugar when he spat it out as well. I was so relieved, because I think he'd have thrown up on the spot if he'd bitten it.

He's not too bad with what he will and won't eat now. He has even started to eat roast potatoes, when potato was an absolute no-no in any form to start with and then only some chips.

I was just saying to dh how much ds1 has changed and developed over the past year or so. It's so nice to see, but at the same time I am constantly worrying if I might be underestimating him, as I'm no longer clear on exactly what he can and can't handle, iyswim. Getting the balance of allowing them to grow, but at the same time keeping them protected is hard enough with nt kids, it's a total minefield with when they have ASD or similar issues.

PolterGoose Thu 12-Dec-13 11:54:16

grin at accidental pea eating.

zzzzz Thu 12-Dec-13 11:49:44

He ate it by accident moose grin Which is actually quite extraordinary in itself given he is of the "inspect your food incase of contaminants" camp rather than the "wolf it down" camp. He didn't freak out though, just announced "I ate a pea" in a mildly amazed voice. He is changing this year, and it is quite wonderful to see him steady and grow.

PolterGoose Thu 12-Dec-13 11:48:47

Well done on the pea eating grin what prompted that? ds ate a pea once, swallowed whole like a tablet, professed that peas were ok and has never touched one since.

moose glad the morning went ok, hope ds enjoys the disco.

moosemama Thu 12-Dec-13 11:43:25

Morning zzzzz - my ds2 is with your dd3. He can't wait to break up and is seriously unimpressed that ds1 breaks up a week before him. Daft thing is, ds1 would rather be at school. hmm

Very impressed with the pea eating - ds2 and dd are big pea fans (inherited that one from dh) but ds1 would run screaming from the room if you tried to get him to eat one.

moosemama Thu 12-Dec-13 11:40:14

Thanks Polter. Late night panic was all my own fault. I was so tired I sat curled up on the sofa and completely forgot the list of things I had to get done until I got up to go to bed. Dh was seriously unimpressed - all this cycling to and from the station every day, plus walking to and from the office the other end is wearing him out and he comes home exhausted and grumpy every night.

He's absolutely loving his new job though, which is all that matters. It's the kind of place he's always wanted to work, with lots of like minded people and as much emphasis on fun and enjoying your job as there is on productivity. I do think a hefty chunk of that is probably down to the fact he joined during the Christmas festivities so it's been one long round of celebratory lunches, secret santas and 'wear your Christmas jumper to work days', but then again, there's an x-box next to his desk for anyone to play with whenever the mood takes them and a pool table in the middle of the room so it doesn't seem like they take things too seriously the rest of the year.

This morning passed without too many bumps and ds1's gone off clutching a box full of dh's mince pies a couple of cakes/treats from the drawer and a bag of sweets I cobbled together from the household sweetie tin. Minor panic over what he would wear for the disco, but sorted fairly easily.

Glad your ds went off for his trip ok. Hope he has a really good day out. I'm loving his sense of humour by the way. grin

zzzzz Thu 12-Dec-13 11:39:55

grin morning all. One more week of term. Dd3 is struggling. She says she "hates school it's so boring and so long" I feel like putting my fingers in my ears and shouting "lalalalala"

Ds1 ate a pea yesterday <faints>. He says it was "yucky" grin but seems quite at one with the experience. I asked him if he would like another.......the child said "no" and very obviously thinks I am very limited. grin

PolterGoose Thu 12-Dec-13 10:20:35

Hope the morning went okay moose

Triggles she sounds like my sort of person grin

Ds was fine this morning, he's gone to the Fleet Air Arm Museum so we had a joke about not hitting any bombs and not pressing any buttons, he retorted "and I won't have a meltdown in the bomb room" (I don't think there actually is a bomb room but it was a surprise he got into the spirit of things) and he went into class quite happily. Fingers crossed for hometime.

moosemama Wed 11-Dec-13 23:07:47

Triggles, I like the sound of your school-run friend.

The extra week at home with ds1 will be nice, but it's totally thrown me. I got into a right panic this morning thinking it was ds2's teacher's last day before they break up (job share and she does Monday to Wednesday). It was only when I was talking to his friend's Grandma while we waited for them to come out that the penny dropped. blush

Ds1 has a 'disco' at school tomorrow afternoon - can't say I think it's the best idea with such a high proportion of pupils having ASD, but hey - what would I know? Such a palaver, he has to take his own snacks, cakes and sweets to be sure they're gf and despite my asking dh every day since the beginning of last week he still hadn't gone to Tesco to buy gf mince pies and christmas cake (can't face baking this year). I got my own back though - gave him a jar of mincemeat and some gf pastry and he ended up having to bake some instead! grin

Forgot to get ds to pick an outfit to wear as well (they can change at lunchtime and I can just feel the chaos that's going to result already) so he's going to have a total panic over that in the morning.

Just found a card and present in his bag from his new best friend. smile It's really lovely of him, but am now worried as we haven't bought him anything and I don't know enough about him to get something tomorrow.

... and oh bugger - I just remembered I haven't wrapped his taxi driver and escorts' gifts and I want dh to take them out tomorrow morning, so he can double check they know the school breaks up at lunch time on Friday.

I was just off to bed too ...

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