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Goose and Carrot - 22nd November

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Good morning all.

It's ds' 7th birthday today. He has been packed off to school with a Minecraft Manual and a badge with 7 on it. He is especially please he is now an odd number hmm

GP this morning referred baby Starlight to a Paediatrician which is a relief and allows me to not worry that something is being missed and safely assume there are probably no issues.

I'm writing a Parent Governor statement which is coming together well. It's an interesting exercise for someone with a child who has been failed by the education system and has a history of bad relations with educational professionals. I've really had to turn some of my thinking around. Whether I get the role or not I think it is worthwhile and would recommend everyone has a go at writing their own statement.

autumnsmum Thu 28-Nov-13 15:39:49

Just got grabbed by senco someone from dd2s sp sch is going into observe ds pnmonday should be interesting

ouryve Thu 28-Nov-13 15:48:02

autumn - yes, they provided a letter setting out DS1's MH difficulties, which proved to be very useful. It nicely filled in the gaps in other reports and very clearly stated the probable long term consequences of his needs not being met.

ouryve Thu 28-Nov-13 15:56:07

DS1 despises classical music, unless he can actually see the musicians. Not live though. That's too loud for him! Best on TV when he can control the volume.

However they're played, he absolutely detests higher register singing voices, though. He even finds it uncomfortable if I go into a sing songy voice to talk to DS2.

And never mind finger knitting (changing the subject, slightly), someone's tangled up DS2's collection of laces and undoing the mess is actually keeping him quiet and in one place. Though he's found a bit that might just make him scream in a minute.

SummerRain Thu 28-Nov-13 16:37:57

I don't know what's wrong with my kids this week but the constant whining and shouting and squabbling and crying is making me crazy confused I got finished nice and early today and wanted to leave again 10 seconds after walking in the door due to the barrage of shouting and complaining that hit me!

Polter, I swear I wrote similes! Can I blame my iPad? Just something like, cold like a frosty morning or as white as a polar bear! grin

PolterGoose Thu 28-Nov-13 17:15:11

Ellen grin I shall recommend similes but homework and ds are not a good combination and he's not in the mood for finger knitting tonight ("Just because I like finger knitting, doesn't mean I want to do it every day") so am fully prepared for angst.

ouryve Thu 28-Nov-13 18:39:33

Let me guess, Polter. He's realised that you like the effect of finger knitting on him, so now perceives it as a demand? grin

PolterGoose Thu 28-Nov-13 18:47:58

Probably grin

Homework done, not without drama and second verse not as good, but will share anyway:

^Winter, a time when the deer stop rutting,
and the hedgehogs go to sleep.
Winter, a time when the birds migrate,
and the pond fish hide in the deep.
Winter, a time when pollination stops,
and thick coats warm the sheep.^

^Winter ends with the first signs of spring,
and life bursts forth with a leap.^

youarewinning Thu 28-Nov-13 21:10:04

polter fab poem - he's a talented boy grin

ouryve good job on the shoes front.

ellen no advice really on what to say. Just empathy as my DS takes what he sees and reads as gospel.

moose oh dear - but text did make me laugh. Hope your DS feels better soon too.

zzzz sounds like your boy had a lovely morning.

autumn welcome to Minecraft wink

hazey hope you and DS are feeling better soon.

suga hope the visit went ok!

DS was in a funny mood tonight so I sent him to his room with iPad to 'chill out' for half hour. Went to check on him after 5 minutes and he was curled up under double duvet on floor watching Minecraft. Very pleased he calmed himself down!

ouryve Thu 28-Nov-13 21:13:55

I wish mine could do that when they're in a "funny mood" youare. He just heckle's whatever electronic media he's attached himself to, to th epoint when I sometimes have to threaten to turn it off because he's supposed to be damned well enjoying himself!

ouryve Thu 28-Nov-13 21:14:42

where the hell did that apostrophe come from?

youarewinning Thu 28-Nov-13 21:14:51

My DS is funny with films too as he worries what 'might' happen. Although he's getting better and will watch Disney cartoons.

Planes is very funny for those looking for ideas.

youarewinning Thu 28-Nov-13 21:23:10

By funny 'ouryve' it wasn't his usual crossness but eyes welling up in tears and him trying not to cry - he said nothing wrong, nothing happened. Felt useless sad

moosemama Thu 28-Nov-13 21:59:14

Youare, I am very impressed at your ability to read and retain so much of the thread. I can only do a maximum of 4 posts up before I forget everything and have to read it all again - and that's only if they're short posts. blush

Well done to your ds for managing to calm himself down, especially as he was feeling so emotional. Ds1 gets like that sometimes, all upset but hasn't a clue why and insists nothing's happened to cause it. The feelings diary really helped us to backtrack on his day and work it out, but he refuses to do one now he's in secondary.

Dd has been a complete nightmare this evening. She's beyond excited because she's start of the week and I'm going to see her receiving her certificate tomorrow morning. I am of course delighted for her, but also really relieved she was picked when my dsis is visiting and has offered to sit with ds1 while I go to the assembly, which has the happy byproduct of meaning I don't have to worry about the puppy disturbing the neighbours.

autumnsmum Fri 29-Nov-13 08:21:41

Moose we need to return to our back to the planet watching free festival days . You are I took ds to see planes at the cinema this summer and he really enjoyed it

PolterGoose Fri 29-Nov-13 09:35:19

I am impressed with your recall too youare grin

Ds was proper grumpy this morning and full of the joys of doom, they are having another bloody 'dress up and bring money' day, it is only 2 weeks since children in need. Ridiculous.

ouryve Fri 29-Nov-13 09:45:38

Ugh. At least the boys' school doesn't go overboard on the dress up days.

All the same, DS1 was insisting he didn't want tuck shop money, today. Rather unusual for him.

SummerRain Fri 29-Nov-13 10:08:15

It's funny how things hit you some days isn't it. This happened over here earlier this week and reading the article this morning has completely floored me. That could be my son, either of them. I struggle to control their rages now and they're tiny, at 19, full grown and carrying a weapon... I won't have a hope. That woman loved her son and fought for him just like we do, she fought all the way to 19 years of age. Now she's dead and the one person who'd fight for that boy is gone and he's going to end up rotting in some prison, abused and damaged beyond all recognition. And the over-riding impact this case will have on most people isn't the years of fundraising she did, the incredible mother she was... it'll be 'Autistic people are dangerous' sad

PolterGoose Fri 29-Nov-13 10:20:46

Summer that sent a shiver sad so very sad, I just hope he gets understanding and decent advocacy while he serves his sentence.

SummerRain Fri 29-Nov-13 10:40:02

He won't, not over here. He'd probably get more sympathy if he was nt in this country sad We've come a long way in the last 20 years but there's still huge stigma and fear especially surrounding adults with SN.

Thepoodoctor Fri 29-Nov-13 11:03:59

Summer that is indeed a very sad and scary story. Let's hope that all his mum did for him helps to get his needs understood now. I see he's only been charged as yet so there is a lot of scope for him to be helped during the trial and sentencing process. DH has fought very hard in his time for one or two young men with ASD and/or LD to get appropriate support as opposed to a custodial sentence. It can be done, not that it will bring the poor family their mum back.

Polter we have non uniform again today. Fortunately the pre agreement for him to wear uniform and the quick and dirty social story last night have done the trick!

Upsetting news at school which makes me realise that I still seem to be as crap as the next person at knowing what to say. There is a boy in DS class with MLD who is a delight. It looks this week as if his family may have a difficult diagnosis for him and his baby sister. And despite having DS, despite the baby we lost and all the miscarriages en route to having him, I still don't seem to have any of the right words. Perhaps sometimes there just are no bloody words hmm

ouryve Fri 29-Nov-13 11:30:44

You're probably right about there sometimes being no words, poo. No words that are adequate, anyhow. it's situations like the one you describe where it's people's actions that really matter.

I'm supposed to be working on re-filling the cake drawer in my freezer, but made the mistake of snaffling some chocolate out of my baking cupboard. Just had to sit down with a hunk of cheese - hands are freezing cold and I have the shakes. I should have known better than to have something sweet before lunch.

SummerRain Fri 29-Nov-13 11:36:23

Poo sad Sometimes there are no words appropriate and all we can do is offer quiet support and a lack of inappropriate words.

youarewinning Sat 30-Nov-13 09:41:02

Confession re memory recall grin I am dyslexic and have extremely poor recall from visual memory - so reading! So I have strategies that I've learnt. One of which I apply to here. I read and then type a bit of a reply and then carry on reading and reply again. When I've completed my reply I press send! Everybody has been so supportive to me over the past few months I want to try and recognise everybody else's struggles, advice, achievements etc.
although sometimes I come here have my rant and bugger off!

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