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Goose & Carrot 8th November

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SallyBear Fri 08-Nov-13 16:06:41

I'm looking out at the rain lashing against the windows and seriously wondering if its too early for a warming and soothing glass of Shiraz....?

DS3 will be 8 on Sunday and I have my DM and MIL over to have lunch. Wondering how long before they both adopt their pseudo posh telephone voices and talk earnestly about the state of the nation. confused I will be mashing the life out of potatoes trying to envisage that its their heads in the pan! More wine. wine

Firsttimer7259 Fri 08-Nov-13 20:04:09

Hi everyone - hope its been good weeks all round. We had a good day, friday is dd's day with me. Only one tantrum - counts as s good one and ee even did the dreaded soft play (a quiet one)
Big hurrah galena

Handywoman Fri 08-Nov-13 20:28:35

Hi all, good first week back here, welcome home Galena and your dd is amazing! You must be shattered though, have some wine to get you through the weekend. Happy birthday to miniSallybear cake

Have NHS ASD assessment next week for dd2. Specialist SALT she is doing in-school observation on Mon. Then we have MDT assessment involving ADOS and 3di. Just got to dig out all my reports from over the years and collate them into something resembling an orderly fashion just for my own sake, I know we won't need or have time for them. My brain is feeling far from orderly though confused. Don't know how to explain the assessment to dd2, any ideas gratefully received.

In the meantime I'm a gibbering wreck in the corner nursing a bottle of wine cheers all.....

Galena Fri 08-Nov-13 20:36:48

It's so good to be home. DD is in bed, I have wine (well, rum and coke, but there isn't an icon for that... and it would have been wine except DH froze it!) and I'm about to watch TV.

DD found it rather hard to settle in her own bed because for the past 3 weeks we've been in with her. Hopefully she's getting the idea though...

youarewinning Fri 08-Nov-13 20:44:18

Galena - that's amazing shes up and walking like that already. Enjoy the rum and coke and your own bed!

PolterGoose Fri 08-Nov-13 20:54:10

Galena she's doing fab, such determination grin

Handy good luck for assessments flowers I mostly just presented assessment appointments as matter of fact, no real detail.

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission Fri 08-Nov-13 20:54:13

ouryve is famous grin

galena, she's doing brilliantly!

Thepoodoctor Fri 08-Nov-13 21:03:59

Good evening all.

Happy birthday Sally's DS!

Galena, that video is lovely and so glad to hear she's doing well and already seeing the benefits from the op.

People within striking distance of York might be interested to know that Ross Greene is doing a training day on the whole Explosive Child thing for parents, professionals et al on 12th December at the university. Googlable. DS head teacher and SENCO are both going grin I hope to go, but have a superb 3 way clash between a team building event for my collapsing team at work, the Explosive Child thing, and DDs first ever nativity play at school. In an ideal world in fact I'd send DH as he and DS together tend to be beyond explosive and into nuclear meltdown territory.

DS got a head teachers award yesterday for doing Y6 level work with co ordinates, and then got himself in a compete tizzy about having it presented in front of everyone and couldn't go through with it. Poor lamb - but at least he can now articulate to us that standing in front of the whole school at assembly is his idea of hell!

ouryve Fri 08-Nov-13 21:07:04

Pah, it's not loading, Ninja. I think it's a Javascript link.

Galena, that's quite remarkable smile

Thepoodoctor Fri 08-Nov-13 21:08:37

Also just wondered. Can anyone recommend a good educational psychologist we could see privately in the North of England?

DS has, I suspect, the spikiest of spiky profiles - advanced reading age, real flair and talent for literacy, aforesaid Y6 level work with coordinates, thought to be bright by most who encounter him, but really struggling with some basics in maths like times tables and telling time.

I can see its unlikely we will get more than the basics we've had on the state, but I would really like a more detailed understanding of what his potential is (do they do IQ these days?), and what the specific learning issues might be - working memory et al?

I don't want to piss school or the state EP off, but would like more detail for me as much as anything, does that sound unreasonable?

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission Fri 08-Nov-13 21:11:12

gah, just c&p grin
Meanwhile, back on Planet Parent… "Pompoms. I ask you. What grown woman wants pompoms on her clothing?"

RevelsRoulette is having one of those days. "I am now the proud owner of a lovely warm ankle-length fleece nightie.

With pompoms.

I didn't notice them when I ordered it, but what the hell? Am I supposed to look cute? A grown woman with dangly pompoms? Pompoms.."

Ouryve, clearly a cat-lover, has a thought.. "Perhaps the nightie is intended for cat lovers who want to entertain their pussies in the evening?"

ouryve Fri 08-Nov-13 21:17:21

Ooh, that looks good, poodoctor. I'd probably go for it, in the summer, but not in December, as I'd have to use public transport and our buses stop rather early in the evening.

ouryve Fri 08-Nov-13 21:18:33


CloakAndDagger2 Fri 08-Nov-13 21:21:42

Evening all

Nice to see some good news grin and sorry for those with dodgy weeks
I am a regular (very much) but don't want to out myself to LA

Am asking upper tribunal to permit appeal re our tribunal, it was a bit like Star's first one. Judge who reviewed decision disnt seem ti have read what i write. Wanted specific barrister, found brill one at hardwickes, but now can't get him as he's busy. Just as well really as we would gave really struggled witb the bill- we spent more than we had on the first tier tribunal despite no lawyer. But... too late Not ready to quit yet though. Bought amazing law book & will try last ditch DIY job.

So (sorry long screed) anyone been to upper tribunal? And if I tell you who I really am, any chance at all of seeing your statement of reasons? Cos I need to cobble it together so it isn't set out all wrong.

PolterGoose Fri 08-Nov-13 21:23:29

poo very envy RG is my hero but too far for me sad if anyone goes I would love a copy of any notes etc flowers

grin at ouryve and her pussy pompoms

zzzzz Fri 08-Nov-13 21:28:14

Galena Hooray! You're home grin

moosemama Fri 08-Nov-13 21:48:54

Happy Birthday Sally's Ds! grin

NameChange, I am exactly the same about the school ds2 and dd are at. In fact I've been having huge anxiety issues about even doing the school run and it seems to be getting worse.

I had to go in to see dd's teacher yesterday, as she's been anxious, tearful and having nightmares since she went back this week. I spent half the day on the toilet with an upset stomach and ended up with a migraine - which I still have now.

I haven't spoken to ds2's teachers at all so far this year. One of them is the teacher ds1 had when he was going through his assessment - the one that used to march into the playground after school every day and tell me how awful he'd been and "... it wasn't due to his autism, because he knows full well what he's doing - he's doing it deliberately to goad me." angry The other one (job share) is the one that stopped me as I started to speak in a meeting about ds2's JHS (that she shouldn't even have been at, as she only had him for maths twice a week - she saw me in the room with his form tutor and invited herself angry). She walked in, sat down and said "Before you begin Mrs Moosemama I feel I have to point out that ds2 isn't ds1 and he doesn't have autism - just so we all know where we stand". shock angry

Honestly they are both vile, bullying, shouty women who seem to enjoy making children feel scared and vulnerable. Ds2 is terrified of the pair of them, hating school and constantly on edge and sad and I feel powerless to do anything about it, as they are usually careful to stay just inside the bounds of what's allowable for teachers to get away with. (I say usually, as the first of the two has a real temper and when he had her in y3 - yes he's unlucky enough to have got them twice in 3 years - started throwing things at pupils that weren't paying attention. She threw a hard-backed whiteboard rubber at one child, missed and hit another - but none of them was brave enough to tell anyone until they found out they were having her again this year. I have told ds that he is to tell me the very first time she throws something and I will be in the HT's office like a rat up a drainpipe. hmm angry

The good news is that dd's teacher is lovely. She was so nice to me and acted immediately to support dd and reassure her. smile There is a total division of opinion of me between the infants and the juniors. I used to help out regularly when ds1 was in the infants and got to know some teachers and ta's quite well (although dd's teacher is new). I was worried that staff-room gossip may have poisoned their opinion of me - but it seems there may be a chance I was wrong.

We have our meeting with ds1's secondary about failure to provide his statement provision on Monday. It's taken almost three weeks to get them to respond to our emails and endless phone messages - and that's without them even knowing what it's about. angry

Galena so pleased to hear you are home and dd is doing so well. The video didn't play properly for me unfortunately, but from your descriptions it sounds like she's doing brilliantly.

ouryve Fri 08-Nov-13 22:23:29

moose you seem to have had so many migraines, lately - and is there any wonder sad

moosemama Fri 08-Nov-13 22:43:45

Yes, I am unfortunately ouryve. The only good thing about it is that what we thought was seizures initially does now seem more likely to be some sort of complex migraine. Unfortunately, I can't take any of the usual migraine meds, as I have had bad reactions to them in the past.

Having said that, neurology completely screwed up my appointments. Ordered me a week long EEG, then decided I didn't fit the criteria and cancelled it. Sent me a letter telling me not to attend the 5/6 appointments involved - then sent 6 more berating me for not attending and telling me I was being discharged for non-attendance. Spoke to them and explained, they agreed it was there fault, but I still haven't been sent a follow up appointment and that was sometime in March I think. hmm

I have had enough appointments and tests to last me a lifetime now though, so don't intend to follow it up - particularly as they don't seem to be able to tell their arse from their elbow - let alone what a brain should look like! hmm

Bit of a nuisance losing half of every week to it though - my poor dogs missed out on their walks twice this week between my head and dh having other commitments. I feel awful about it, as if I'd known I was going to be this bad I'd have thought twice about taking on a pup - it's not fair on him if I can't walk him daily and I can't employ someone else to do it, because I am doing a behavioural programme to help him through his fear of other dogs. sad

SallyBear Fri 08-Nov-13 23:16:29

Yay Galena!!!!!!! Glad that you're all home smilesmilesmilesmilesmile

2boysnamedR Fri 08-Nov-13 23:20:57

I will join you for a late tipple as I'm half zoombified. I am not having a bad week - pretty boring in my terms. Got cornered by the school out reach worker. I think I feel so numb that some emotional part of me has died from over use - like a burnt out clutch. It's quite nice actually to feel numb for a change. I hope this the last stage of my grief process. I have a support group tomorrow so if i can get through that without tears I'm officially emotional frigid!

Wouldnt it be lovely - I can spend my Fridays posting on aibu being most pissed off that someone parked in my fave parking space at work like everyone else and not because my pead has asked what I think is up with ds after studying him for four years.

ouryve Sat 09-Nov-13 08:27:57

I find sniping at stuff on AIBU quite cathartic, sometimes, 2boys. When I'm having a stressful week, I'll spend quite a lot of time on the main boards, because it requires so little emotional investment, on my part.

We're off Shopping, this morning. DS1 is a bit shirty because he's not having his pocket money until we're all dressed and we're not rushing to get dressed, just for his benefit. Just measured his feet, since his school shoes are falling apart. Brantano, here we come. Please have something acceptable in 3.5G in stock!

He'd actually be better off in Startrite than Clarks, but the only place I know in the area that sells them carries only 2 or 3 styles and he really likes to choose for himself, rather than feel dictated to by a shop assistant.

SallyBear Sat 09-Nov-13 08:30:38

Ouryve I have always been tough about shoes. I've always told them that we buy what fits. All four of mine have very slim feet which makes shoe shopping a long and protracted experience confused I also only ever do two dc at a time as I lose the will to live!!

ouryve Sat 09-Nov-13 08:48:40

He finds shoe shopping extremely difficult. He's already digging his heels in and threatening to refuse to go out. If he's gone past the point when he can cope, an assistant coild bring out 10 pairs and he'd insist he likes none of them

PolterGoose Sat 09-Nov-13 08:59:35

moose so sorry you've got so much to deal with, hope it all gets better soon flowers

Good luck shoe shopping, ds hates it too but was much better last time, it's only taken 10 years.

hazeyjane Sat 09-Nov-13 09:33:31


a quick one as dh has taken all 3 dcs out to give me time to fill out a form (which for me is like writing a thesis).

Sorry to hear you are having such a tough time, Moose. All i can do is honk for you.

Galena, great to hear you and dd are back and that she is doing so well.

Waves and honks to everyone else.

Still feeling knackered from our holiday here.

Dd2 has 1 of 2 assessments wrt possible dyslexia on Monday, with the senco at her school, she said each one would look at reading, spelling, visual and auditory processing and last about an hour, plus a questionnaire for me. Does this sound about standard. I have been looking at behavioural optometrists in the area, and the nearest one is in Cheletnham and costs £375 for the initial 4 hour assessment (eek!)

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