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WWYD? - Going out tonight dilemma

(8 Posts)
bigbluebus Fri 01-Nov-13 15:27:31

DH & I got tickets about 6 weeks ago for an event that is on locally tonight. We had respite booked and confirmed for DD but the nurse has just phoned in sick, so respite has been cancelled sad

DH says I should go out by myself and he will stay at home and look after DD. I am happy for him to go and I will stay at home. Or we could both stay in hmm

It is an event that we would both enjoy and we would both know other people there - my only reservation is about walking home alone afterwards (there is an unlit footpath with a bend in it) which is completely irrational as this is a relatively safe place to live. I think DH is happy to bow out as he cannot keep up with the 'professional' drinkers that we will be mixing with grin

I know lots of you don't get respite at all, so when you are invited to go out or there is something you want to go to, how do you decide who gets to go? Or do you just decline invitations on the basis you know you won't have anyone who can take care of your DC.

whenwilligetsomesleep Fri 01-Nov-13 16:19:07

You should go and then maybe plan for your husband to have a night out with a friend soon. Can you get a taxi back? Better than one enjoys the event than none. smile

bigbluebus Fri 01-Nov-13 16:26:26

No taxi firms within 5 miles of here and it's actually only a 5-10 min walk. It's just the footpath in the middle that freaks me a little.

I could drive there, but then I wouldn't be able to drink and that would make for a miserable evening grin.

DH was out last night - but only at a friends house, but I think that is another reason he is happy to let me go apart from the fact he is a lightweight where beer is concerned

PolterGoose Fri 01-Nov-13 16:44:53

Just go, we have to take the opportunities when they come, have fun grin

cardboardcactus Fri 01-Nov-13 17:15:05

Probably bonkers idea but any chance you could go for half the night each?! grin

bigbluebus Fri 01-Nov-13 17:36:13

We have thought about doing that in the past cardboard so not as bonkers as you think grin.
But tonight is a 3 act show - no idea what order the acts are on or when the intervals will be - so probably more trouble than it's worth plus it's likely to be pissing it down so once one of us is cosy in the house there is no way we would be dragged out into the cold and rain

cardboardcactus Fri 01-Nov-13 17:40:04

Ah, a three act show- not an easy thing to divvy up!!

Firsttimer7259 Fri 01-Nov-13 18:33:07

Can someone walk the scary bit with you? Id go simply because chances to go out are few and far between

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