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Goose and Carrot open for all!

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Galena Fri 18-Oct-13 17:49:24

Oh look, no new thread! I'll make one as I have a rum and coke next to me as I type!

Variable week here. DD has stopped going to bed nicely again. I'm beginning to panic about the op which is on Tuesday. She's still a bit coughy and snuffly so I'm hoping they aren't going to postpone it. She's beengood with not going to school this week and the week hasn't dragged too much.

This weekend will be packing clothes and 'stuff to keep madam occupied'.

Pull up a seat, grab brew wine cake and biscuit as appropriate and unload your troubles...

hazeyjane Fri 01-Nov-13 09:30:06

Thankyou ladies, am consoling myself with coffee, trick or trea chocolate and a scooby doo fest.

Off to the spa now!

SallyBear Fri 01-Nov-13 09:04:52

Crap crap crap. Sorry Hazey hmm

PolterGoose Fri 01-Nov-13 09:01:28

Oh hazey sad hope tonight is better

I've opened a Goose and Carrot Spa for this week, thought we all needed it smile

hazeyjane Fri 01-Nov-13 08:54:28

Have had to postpone holiday, hopefully just for today, after an awful night with ds. Not sure what was going on, but he woke everyone up and woke up screaming and punching, he was in our bed, so feeling a little black and blue this morning! We were supposed to be going to stay with fil tonight after dh finished work, but dh thinks driving down after no sleep and then a day at work is a bad idea and a night like last nights at his house would be horrendous.

Good news is that dh has perked up a bit. It is hard, he knows that were he to leave we would have to up sticks and move to a different town, and that would be so difficult for everyone.

Sorry to hear that you want to leave Triggles, there has been a rash of disabilist stuff on the main boards, it is depressing. Hope you still pop into the Goose and Carrot.

Polt, well done your ds on his playdate!

childrendriveumad Thu 31-Oct-13 21:26:05

woo hoo polter

hugs to trigs I lurk on the main board occasionally, but it makes me too mad so I leave as quickly as I arrive.

My ds went to a friend's house today (always a concern!) and survived with flying colours.......... he's been told he's welcome anytime!

I on the other hand have had such a stressful day at work that I now can't see straight!

Must be wine time
xx

PolterGoose Thu 31-Oct-13 21:04:49

Revolt very impressed with anyone doing the science museum in half term, very brave! glad ds found a way to cope smile

RevoltInParadise Thu 31-Oct-13 21:00:45

Triggles, I know I am new here and I don't know your back story, but you sound in sad place right now and I do hope that things look up and you are feeling better soon. Sometimes life is just shit! There are a lot of people out there who don't realise what it is like. I said on the friendship thread the other day that you either don't tell people what goes on and you feel like you are holding back, or you do tell people and then all the judgements come out. I think some people honestly don't realise what they are saying. Even people I consider my best friends have said some hmm things about sen kids since we got our dx, and I have been offended or upset and then think, ami being sensitive? Then think, actually no, I am not, it isn't ok today those things and show would they feel if we said those things about their kids?

Anyway, sorry for the ramble!!

Have nice holidays Hazey.

Well done to your ds on his play date polter!

Summer, they sounds like horrendous hours!

Ellen, hope you get some time to rest!

Sorry to anyone I have missed, on phones I struggling to scroll back up!

W went to the science museum today. I forgot how ds was when we went last time, before the dx, but remembered when we walked through the door! Last time I had dh with me, so had someone to take ds if needed, but this time it was my friend and I and she got dumped with my other two whilst I sorted out ds! She is a star! Luckily we have a few strategies that are starting to work, so I was able to calm him down a bit. He then plugged himself into his Nintendo ds and walked around playing that and ignored the museum! hmm oh well at least it calmed him and prevented him hurting and attacking anyone any further!

Tired tonight so a going to curl up with my dr green ADHD book that arrived in the mail today. smile

PolterGoose Thu 31-Oct-13 17:42:05

brew and cake and (((hugs))) hoping for a peaceful evening for you flowers

Ds managed 7 hours of play date and gave his day 9 out of 10 shock grin

Trigglesx Thu 31-Oct-13 17:28:58

oh, and pardon my language.

Trigglesx Thu 31-Oct-13 17:25:31

had a 2 hour fucking meltdown this morning I had to deal with, and shit piled on me all day. I am sick to death of fuckwits and shit. I really am. Now I get to spend the evening worrying that some idiot fucking parent will escort their child to my door, even though all the front lights are off and knock repeatedly because "there's a car here, someone should be home" so their child can fucking trick or treat. Then DS1 has a complete and utter meltdown each and every fucking time.

We went through that last year and it was a nightmare.

Sorry. I am not in a good place right now and I can't cope with all this stupid shit anymore. (not you guys, of course)

Trigglesx Thu 31-Oct-13 17:21:55

Nope. Massive bullying on a thread. Reported a number of times (and I wasn't the only one) and ignored. MNHQ saying "oh they have a right to post." Then on two other threads, they followed and did the same thing kind of thing again.

Sick of MNHQ not supporting the rules and letting bullying run rampant. This place is just not the place it used to be.

PolterGoose Thu 31-Oct-13 15:19:52

For me it's worth the occasional battling with arseholes for all the good that comes from MN, especially these SN boards.

Well, we are over 5 hours into play date and it's all going well...

Trigglesx Thu 31-Oct-13 13:11:01

I've always struggled with the lack of action on disablist posts and threads tbh. I find the whole idea that MN floats that we should be educating people just highly offensive. You don't ever see them telling someone to educate people regarding a racist comment. It's NO DIFFERENT FFS.

So, yes, the fact that some days MN (not this board but the whole rest of the place) makes me want to pluck out my eyeballs and scream at everyone in the street kind of tells me I need a break.

PolterGoose Thu 31-Oct-13 13:00:21

zzzzz the grammar thread was weird, I'm staying away from part 2.

zzzzz Thu 31-Oct-13 12:58:30

To be honest that thread was weird anyway. I felt I was coming out very pro grammar when I haven't decided either way yet. I am pro specialist schools for those that need them really. I wasn't aware how controversial an idea that was. But the MNHQ response was a shocker for me. I replied to the post saying the language was NOT ok regardless of the extenuating context they refered to. It is hard to change what you say/tolerate/think but that is the whole point of This Is My Child. sad

PolterGoose Thu 31-Oct-13 12:57:08

Triggles sad I'm sorry you feel you have to go for a bit, can you not just hide most of the main board, I'm getting better at hiding threads that make me angry

Summer I didn't expect you to actually tell me, was more an aghast omg sort of response, it's a very long day though, I work 2 days a week and usually one of those I'm out the house at least 12 hours and it's exhausting.

Boys have eaten a pile of sugary crap, now ds is showing off his gaming prowess... camcorder seems bust which is a bloody nuisance as they had plans to continue with the never-ending film they're making.

SummerRain Thu 31-Oct-13 12:46:53

Triggles, I've been posting very little lately as it's all gone a bit weird on here lately. Don't abandon us altogether, pop in and let us know how you are x

Polter... Stocktaking. We go to supermarkets and do the stocktaking for them, lots of travelling and hanging about.

SallyBear Thu 31-Oct-13 12:03:28

Trigglesx I'm sorry that you're going off the grid. I will miss you. I posted a thread here yesterday about exams and dyslexia, because in all honestly I thought I'd get a mauling on the main boards. Its shit that you have to justify your very existence on some threads and that people think its perfectly acceptable to be insulting and down right rude. I was always brought up to treat people the way you wish to be treated and I stick to that (with the exception if zzzzz's psychotic neighbour who needs taking out!). Its a shame others can't be the same.

Trigglesx Thu 31-Oct-13 12:01:15

Yes zzzzz that was one of the many straws tbh, that whole nonsense.

I'll try to pop back in a bit closer to Christmas to see how everyone is.

zzzzz Thu 31-Oct-13 11:52:17

No signal. Am removing dc to my sisters while Dh works, so can send from the motorway as I pass hazey . Gosh how dramatic, it's like I'm flying the county in case of reprisal. grin

No I've been steeling back my shower time and am now clean and determined to control my life.

Triggles I have been feeling a little like that, since MNHQ told me that "wheelchair kid" and "speckle" were ok because of context and that the poster had someone with a chair in the family/was only quoting their children. It doesn't sit well with the campaign myths does it? It fucks me off if I'm honest. Pop in now and then won't you?

Trigglesx Thu 31-Oct-13 11:30:24

I'm going to be taking a break from MN for awhile.

MN seems to falling down around it's ears lately. Bullying on threads. people thinking they can decide what others can and can't talk about and MN allowing it. Very little monitoring or action on disablist posts. Can't even do a stupid Christmas thing (the whole nominate and donate one) without it kicking off.

I for one don't need the aggravation.

Hope everyone is doing well and has a lovely Christmas season.

PolterGoose Thu 31-Oct-13 11:16:56

Bloody hell Summer what on earth is your job? shock

Good luck with the pumpkins, ds 'can't see the point of pumpkins' so we've escaped that one.

Sorry about your mum Ellen hope the visit is ok, hope too that ds3 has fun at camp.

Friend has been here over an hour, ds is screechy, friend is a bit subdued (going through a hard time at the moment) but seems to be livening up. It's such a lovely friendship and they are so good for each other smile

Where's zzzzz? Have you sent the text? Sending assertive HONKS

SummerRain Thu 31-Oct-13 10:52:52

Morning all. Started the job yesterday... Left the house at 10am and didn't get back til gone midnight, I'm knackered now. Have to be out the door at 5 a.m. Tomorrow <yuk>

I'm also eying up a pumpkin wondering if I can be arsed carving it, it's a little one... I hate carving the small ones.

SallyBear Thu 31-Oct-13 10:04:17

I have kept on looking at the pumpkin waiting to be carved, that is sat on the kitchen work top. DS4 has also looked at the pumpkin, unusually for him has decided not to flush it down the loo, and has decided that it does indeed need carving. Lots of stab marks all over the pumpkin now. confused

I may be going back out to buy another pumpkin!

Ninja - you mad woman! Could DD2 keep an eye on DD3 for you while you rush off to the GP Surgery?

Hazey - it's normally a work related thing with my DH's grumps. Never pleasant trying to remain civil. Hope that Devon blows the grumps away and that you all have fun.

Ooo, a playdate, Polter? Good luck with that. Now must get sandwiches ready for trip to Nana's.

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