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zzzzz Fri 11-Oct-13 16:59:16

Hope no one has started up for the week. Gosh it's been a bit fatiguing on the main boards.

cake wine brew for some or all.

We have had a power cut all afternoon.....it is cold.

Trigglesx Fri 11-Oct-13 18:19:00

moosemama exactly. But he refused to come out, and I think that's what they're looking at. Personally I think it could have been handled better on their part. I'm still a bit hmm from the other day when he dropped his snack (apple) on the ground and then got upset because they made him throw it away. He apparently had a 45 minute meltdown over it. So I asked the teacher "why didn't you just wash off the apple in water and give it back to him?" I mean seriously. That's what we would have done at home. But she looked surprised - it obviously never crossed her mind. hmm So he got in trouble for the meltdown because "he should have calmed down sooner."

He did really well last year, but I'm struggling with some of their "punishments" this year and I'm wondering if it's an issue with the teacher or what the blazes is going on....

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:19:07

Triggles, it's me that's overcompensated with our dcs. Dh is much stricter in terms of expenditure and gifts. So I only have myself to blame. We have wildly different childhoods and suffice to say mine is at the root of my need to make sure my children never feel less-than their peers.

Daft thing is, I strongly believe 'things' don't matter, people do. Unfortunately I seem to have monumentally failed to engender the same belief in my children. sad

Trigglesx Fri 11-Oct-13 18:19:55

hazeyjane hahahaha "Never do washing up." Love it.

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:22:28

"So he got in trouble for a meltdown because he should have calmed down sooner" shock

Do you have an ASD advisory/inclusion teacher that could go in and advise the teachers. It does sound like they are very similar to ds2's teacher this year - overly focussed on punishment rather than trying to get the best out of the kids in the first place.

Trigglesx Fri 11-Oct-13 18:22:43

Found ds1's old alarm clock (doesn't work, but he can't part with it) wound up in my curtains, which were then stuffed behind the radiator. Apparently he put it there because the mess in his room was upsetting him.

I had a vision of you ringing police and a bomb squad taking apart your room only to emerge with an alarm clock. grin

Trigglesx Fri 11-Oct-13 18:23:17

moosemama This is a SS, so they're supposed to ALL be well versed in this.

Trigglesx Fri 11-Oct-13 18:24:03

I was just shock that they didn't think to just wash the damn apple off and give it back to him. A good lesson about wasting food as well. hmm

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:24:33

grin It was more like me thinking I had finally lost the plot - especially with dh not being able to hear it. I seriously thought I was imagining it at first. blush

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:25:52

They will probably cite Elf and Safety as the reason they couldn't possibly wash and return it. Schools these days seem to use it as an excuse for just about everything. hmm

PolterGoose Fri 11-Oct-13 18:26:47

moose I do the same with ds, probably for similar reasons. We've also had the same thing with getting rid of stuff, so agreed we would box up everything he doesn't play with and put it in the loft. We did this about a year ago and since then he has got better and we've got rid of loads of stuff. Similar issue with decorating, but he has now chosen paint for doing his room so once I'm up to it I will do it (although it's a mahusive job so I'm dreading it!)

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 11-Oct-13 18:27:02

I think hot chocolate and hot water bottles needed all round tonight.

Ds has been stuck on the loo all day. He has missed 2 days of school this week. School makes understanding noises but I don't think they really get that just because he is fine in some contexts doesn't mean he will always be fine.
MiL is in hospital. She had a fairly minor operation about a month ago but has since gone downhill quite rapidly. Dh is worried and spending part of the weekends up there. His family tend to be melodramatic about illness so I'm not sure how bad it actually is.

And dd's transport still isn't sorted. They told us at the appeal hearing what the options were so I don't understand why it still hasn't been organised. My cynical head says it's a delaying tactic to save money.

PolterGoose Fri 11-Oct-13 18:28:20

That doesn't sound good Triggles sad

capticorn1 Fri 11-Oct-13 18:29:55

Moose, we have the toy thing as well, I need a bigger house lol. We did get around it by asking ds if we could give some toys to other children who had no toys he agreed in theory sorting out the toys was a different matter though so I bribed him with a new game (now I'm out of pocket to the tune of. £45) still I have space in the conservatory.

SallyBear Fri 11-Oct-13 18:30:40

Sometimes you just have to spell it out for them Triggs.

Hazey poor DS! Windows are my nightmare. DS4 has climbed out of the lounge window and run off before (he was 3 at the time), used to fall asleep often on the window sill on his bedroom and would often scale tall bits of furniture. This is obviously the perfect excuse to get a dishwasher! Hope you both get better soon.

Moose........ Early night and earplugs. winewinewine

zzzzz I'm really into my crocheting now. Ninjagoose inspired me.

ouryve Fri 11-Oct-13 18:33:16

Just had a big wodge of chocolate cake - thanks for all the birthday wishes on the other threads. Had a very grown up civilised afternoon, even with the professional committee member types who derail everything with the benefit of their wisdom, leaving poor young researchers looking like a rabbit caught in the headlights.

Our heating's going hell for leather, so I bet you are freezing, zzzzz. Hope it's back on, now it's dark. Ours was due to be off all day, yesterday, but we escaped. They probably chickened out of climbing up the utility poles in the wet, freezing wind.

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:35:56

Polter, we've always done the 'putting it in the loft' thing, but the loft is actually tiny in this house and we're out of room. He was seriously unable to even entertain the idea before, but I do think he's reached a point where he might not be comfortable with it, but he will survive it and come to appreciate it once it's done.

We will have a deal where he can keep a certain amount, say one box full of things he absolutely can't part with, but the rest has to go. Some of it can go to dd now too, which will make it a little easier for him.

Biggest bugbear is mountains of Ds games and years and years worth of Official Nintendo Magazine and Beano comics. I really want to get binders for the magazines, but they're £10.00 each and we'd need loads.

We need to reorganise his room to fit both beds when they're fully extended and get in a desk he can do his homework at. He has a desk now, but it's in a position where he can't actually sit at it and is used to store the aforementioned piles of magazines and games.

marchduck Fri 11-Oct-13 18:39:17

Hi all, I read more than I post so hope you don't mind me joining in.
So sorry to hear it's been a hard week for some us; and I include myself in that. Normally I am flippin" Pollyanna, trying to see the positive in everything. Nothing big has happened this week, more a series of small drip, drips, drips; which have just made me realise that DD's difficulties are here to stay. I knew that in my head, but not in my heart, until this week.
Anyway, got some Cava chilling so it's not all bad! Hope everyone has a lovely weekend smile

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:40:36

Oo, missed that. HAPPY BIRTHDAY OURYVE! cake flowers

NoHaudin, sorry ds is struggling. Can't believe they haven't got your dd's transport sorted yet. We basically flooded our LA transport people with emails and phonecalls until they sorted it out. Now ds finally has a single driver and a lovely new escort who gets out of the taxi, carries his bag to the front door for him and hands him over to me with a polite chat and a big smile every afternoon - a million miles away from the surly non-speaking, punk teenager we had previously.

PolterGoose Fri 11-Oct-13 18:41:24

moose ds's room is just full of Really Useful Boxes, thankfully they stay stable even when you stack them really high.

youarewinning Fri 11-Oct-13 18:43:35

POsted this on other thread then realised theres a new one.

My AS level was psychology grin the only A I've ever got!

Criminology sounds fascinating.

I started my OU degree in psychology but that and dyslexia did not agree and spent most of my time trying to figure out what the definitions of words meant grin

I'm doing a B(Sc) open degree in maths and education. Current module is equality, inclusion and participation. Felt it important and very close to my heart too which is motivating! says she who's only read the introduction so far!

Now to go and catch up with you all!

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:43:46

wine cake marchduck. Sometimes it just hits you doesn't it.

I often find drip, drip, drip weeks harder than huge crises. I think you go into battle mode for the big stuff and steel yourself against the crap you're going to have to face. Whereas the relentless small stuff just weighs heavier and heavier, making it harder to deal with.

flowers

SallyBear Fri 11-Oct-13 18:44:15

Moose DS1's room is dreadful. Hangs onto everything and tbh I just go through it periodically and clear stuff out. I deal with the meltdowns later. He is nearly 14 and has AS. He is now coming to understand that we don't have room anymore - 5 bedrooms full to bursting as we had a loft conversion done 2 years ago. So no loft. I just grit my teeth and deal with the fallout.
Have you considered a high sleeper with a desk/storage underneath?

SallyBear Fri 11-Oct-13 18:45:30

March I think that once you've truly accepted that, it gets easier to deal with as your expectations have changed. winewine

moosemama Fri 11-Oct-13 18:46:27

youarewinning, did you see the maths thread in 'discussion of the day'? I thought I'd got the answer right, but there were so many arguments about it I lost track in the end. blush

Galena Fri 11-Oct-13 18:47:42

My computer is being monumentally slow, but once it has uploaded, I will share a video with you that should make you smile smile

DD's Reception class have been looking at 'We're going on a Bear Hunt' as part of their Teddy Bear topic. She's done a story map for her own version and they've suggested that she might like to write the story next week when she's off school. She has told me what she wants to write, completely based on Bear Hunt, but I think, seeing as she's 4, she may have to write a simplified version! But the spoken version was so cute, I will share it with you once it's bloody uploaded to photobucket!

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