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Goose and Carrot - 4th October

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Bluebirdonmyshoulder Fri 04-Oct-13 15:44:57

Afternoon all, bluechick is having a nap so I thought I'd open up and enjoy a swift half!

The fire is lit, the jukebox is on, the sofa is plumped, help yourselves to crisps and peanuts and pork scratchings.

Here's to another week survived, anyone got any nice plans for the weekend?

wine Cheers

PolterGoose Fri 04-Oct-13 16:04:20

Cheers Bluebird wine

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 04-Oct-13 16:07:18

Cheers!
I have some good news to share.

We won dd's transport appeal smile.

Ds managed the planned 3 days of his residential and seems to have enjoyed it.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Fri 04-Oct-13 16:09:41

ooh well done mini-NoHaudins!

Think we can break out the Bolly for that!

ouryve Fri 04-Oct-13 16:17:21

Mmmm! Peanuts!

MmffmmNohaudimmmfffgreampffffnewfff.

Sorry blush

DS1's finished the week at school much better than he started it, though he was unimpressed with a photo and thank you note they were all given at the end of school. Had to hide it in DS2's lunchbag!

RippingYarns Fri 04-Oct-13 16:39:13

<sneaks into corner for a cry>

sorry i've been Quite Shit at supporting folks here, there is so much going on for everyone sad

looks like we're looking for another school for DD - i don't know if i can take much more of this tbh.

since it's turned academy the caring attitude that drew us in has gone. DD has to change classrooms every day for some lessons, on one day 3 times shock

no wonder she's a mess (and so am i)

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 04-Oct-13 16:44:03

Thanks glad the end of the week was better ouryve.

Oh ripping sorry it's so bad. Do you have any other schools in mind?

PolterGoose Fri 04-Oct-13 16:48:02

Oh Ripping <passes tissues> it's shit isn't it? I was talking to one of the few mums that speaks to me another mum at home time, her older child finished primary last year, she's noticed a huge change in the amount of pressure in ds's year this year to get better SATs results now they're an academy, her ds is really struggling (I suspect he has OCD from her talk about his rituals and maybe some SPD too) it's just so fucking hard.

RippingYarns Fri 04-Oct-13 16:49:18

NoHaudin

no sad

infant places are like hens teeth here, had to HE waiting for this one

no wonder DD is so uptight

and it's taken me from the beginning of term to get them to admit they are shifting classes so frequently

autumnsmum Fri 04-Oct-13 16:53:48

Good week here dd2 said she loves her school bus so I'm very happy

RippingYarns Fri 04-Oct-13 16:59:29

<i might already have a small snifter in my hot drink btw>

if i get lary, tell me to lie down blush

SummerRain Fri 04-Oct-13 17:11:19

Hi all, just marking my spot for later. Kid's were home from school all day so my head's ready to crack and I've barely done a thing all day

FrussoNeedsGin Fri 04-Oct-13 17:11:26

Evening <helps self to pork scratchings, plonks large arse on sofa, pokes the fire> it's cozy in here. Can I have a bottle of gin please? grin
DLA renewal form is sent off. Yay. Only took 4weeks. And a phone call from galena flowers.

Yay! nohaudin that's great news!

((Hugs)) ripping and rippingdd I have no advice I'm afraid. [gin]

The weekend has definately hit.
Dd1 is stropping loudly in her room. Because I told her to wait for tea.
Dd2s temp PA handed over dds radio aid transmitter and said dd didn't want to wear it. I tried to keep a straight face as I explained she wouldn't as the adult wears the transmitter and she already has the receiver on.
Not the PAs fault, the school just handed it over and didn't explain what it was. <rolls eyes>
And do they not think that maybe dd doesn't want to listen to the PA (and that's why she's trying to position herself in the taxi so she can't hear her)?
But on the plus side meltdown over demanding to go in my car was avoided by phoning "gwam-marr" dm and after counting down days to half term.

Galena Fri 04-Oct-13 17:19:57

Ripping, that's crap. sad

NoHaudin, that's decidedly not crap! grin

All fine here. DD all recovered, still enjoying school. Has her pre-op on Monday - 4 appointments in one day! Should be interesting.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Fri 04-Oct-13 17:49:34

Sorry to hear that Ripping. Why don't schools get it? Unbelievable. At least you can talk to us.

<flips bottle of gin to Frusso in Tom Cruise in Cocktail style>

Handywoman Fri 04-Oct-13 18:17:00

Oh Ripping that's shite <sigh>

Yey for miniNoHaudin!

Can I choose to anesthetise myself please with lemsip&gin please?

dd2 has had major breakthrough with SALT. Amazing!!!

I on the other hand have had a totally non stop week. Teaching in the evenings, sleeping terribly (incl up at 4am with chills and temp of 38degrees last night) liaising with mortgage people and solicitor re divorce, crazy run up to dd1 dance performance in London tomorrow (got to be up at 6:45 tomorrow!!!) and now slid into a state of exhaustion with throat infection and zero energy or time to go to GP. GAH!!!!! Actually hold the lemsip, gin will suffice.

moosemama Fri 04-Oct-13 18:42:48

Haven't read anything else yet, but wanted to say FANBLOODYTASTIC! to NoHaudin, I am so pleased for you and both your dcs. grin

Off to read the rest of the thread now ...

moosemama Fri 04-Oct-13 18:53:27

Ripping, poor dd, that's really crap. sad

Handywoman - I'm exhausted just reading about your week. wine

After a bit of good news yesterday when the school finally sorted the transport boy issue and dh came home happier, he's come home a mess today.

Had to take in heavy backpack, pe kit and cookery stuff today. Told him to put PE kit in the locker he finally got the key for this week, but he refused saying he'd reported that his locker had a horrible yellow gunky liquid in it and although they said they'd clean it, they did, but missed the gunk. I gave him a pack of antibacterial surface wipes and a bag to put the used ones in, told him to clean up the gunk, then put his pe kit in the locker. Of course he didn't and as a result managed to lose his entire PE kit. hmm Then he was really upset, as he and his TA spent half the PE lesson looking for it, then he had to stand and watch for the rest of the lesson because he didn't find it and it was dodgeball, which is just about the only type of PE he likes, other than cricket.

He also banged his head twice at school, then got hit in the head by the metal part of another boy's seatbelt just before he got home and judging by the worried look on today's escort's face (who actually did come to the door and hand him over - there's a first hmm) when she told me (poor woman was grey) I assume he must have had quite a spectacular reaction when it hit him.

Also, his form tutor asked him to point out that he has a bruised eye that looks quite nasty - he doesn't - he has big black circles under his eyes as a result of daily middle of the night meltdowns to do with school stress. hmm

Still, despite all that and being ill yet again, I'm in an OK mood and looking forward to the weekend.

youarewinning Fri 04-Oct-13 18:59:02

ripping that's ridiculous.

Ref DLA - Completed my claim in July and have just got award this week. Now on process of sorting out bits and bobs DS needs. Thinking of seeing a private sensory OT - anyone have any ideas of costs for this?

Anywhere that does hygiene lessons I can book him into? grin

AtYourCervix Fri 04-Oct-13 19:04:22

evening all from a very hot place.

I have no idea what's been going on but thought i'd join you for wine.

I miss wine. I haven't had any for an entire month.

god only knows what's been going on at home. I think it's best not to think about it.

anyway wine for everyone.

RippingYarns Fri 04-Oct-13 19:20:45

AYC you did it though grin

will join you for a wine in a bit, just wrestling with an eel going to brush DDs teeth

hazeyjane Fri 04-Oct-13 19:33:08

Gah, couldn't work out why ds was rolling on floor, fighting sleep despite being up in the night and starting the day at 5, and have just found a syringeful of melatonin hidden under a cushion.......

will go back and read thread!

Hello, all.

NoHaudin, fabulous to have some good news, and such good news!

Sorry for people's shit weeks. Mine has been ok.

Talked to the one other parent from DS2's year at school that I know to ask about the 'peer awareness' assembly they did last week. Her DD was dismissive, she already knows 'all about DS2' hmm from primary school and couldn't understand why they had an assembly for the whole year group (240 odd) due to the actions of a handful of boys. From my point of view, if other, kinder DC now understand more about DS2, hopefully the peer pressure to be more tolerant may have some effect.

Anyway, still tired from my job but coping.

It's DS2's 14th birthday on Sunday and his old only friend from primary school who moved away at the end of Y4 is coming for the day. smile

Hey, AYC, you whooping it up in Africa? Proud of you. X

MariaBoredOfLurking Fri 04-Oct-13 20:21:21

Evening all. moose, the locker sounds rancid. Frusso and ripping, <sigh> at general idiocy of school types. Handy- try a generous tot of Irish whiskey in a nice hot honey &lemon mixture (might be a bit dodgy in the lemsip itself grin) Glad that plenty of posters have good news. Have had a <meh> week with school/LA/various other officialdom bods, but am going to relax into the weekend safe in the knowledge they can't bother me till mon 9am at the earliest and my phone will be on silent grin

moosemama Fri 04-Oct-13 20:57:01

Honestly, I've just read the school newsletter and am steaming mad.

They have a big picture of a dog with cross through it and have written a piece telling people they are not allowed to bring their dogs down the close that the school is at the end of. How fucking dare they tell me where I can and can't take my dogs. I don't actually take my dogs down there, because I have no-one to leave them with while I go to pick up ds2 and dd, but if I did want to they have absolultely no right to tell me I can't. It's a public street and they don't bloody own it! angry

People with dogs walk on the opposite side of the road to the pupils, as it's just grass verge and doesn't lead anywhere except the bottom of the close. There is even a small piece of land just opposite the school entrance where anyone that brings a dog down to the school (and there's literally only a couple that do) waits with their dogs. The way it's positioned is that no-one passes it, as it's across the far side of the entrance, which has a road running through it. Pupils don't walk past it, so there's no danger of a child getting nipped and the dogs are far enough away that they don't bother any pupils that might be wary of dogs. Dogs have always been held there while parents wait for their dcs to come out and there has never been a problem.

I am so sick of that bloody school thinking it has the right to control our lives outside of school hours - who the bloody hell do they think they are. I've half a mind to get my pup's entire puppy class to go and wait there one afternoon now, just to see what the HT is going to do about it. angry

On top of that I've just received an email from them telling me how fantastic it is that ds2's year has been selected to be involved the launch of some national cricket thing and how great it's going to be for the pupils. Only it's not is it. If you read the rest of the letter it says that 'some selected pupils will be being coached and photographed for the press' - so that won't be my ds then, as having hypermobility he's not very likely to be picked to show off in front of national cricket coaches. hmm I just know they're going to hype it up to the kids and then he's going to end up hurt disappointed. angry

Bloody school. I thought I'd relax a bit and feel better about it once ds1 had moved on, but it seems to be the opposite. I am getting more and more angry on a daily basis at the crap they keep slinging our way, whilst simultaneously employing crap teachers, who are either off sick at least one day a week (dd's teacher - reception, a repeat performance of ds2's reception year but with a different teacher) or who are so incapable of controlling a class that they scream and yell so much at the pupils that my normally happy, nt, 9 year old has started scratching holes in his face from the stress of it. angry This class that is being continually shouted at, is the same class that had the calmest, softest spoken teacher in the school last year. She is absolutely lovely and never once raised her voice to them - so it's not the pupils that have the problem is it? <<head explodes>>

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