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Goose and Carrot - Sept 20th

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Oh good. Wine!

PolterGoose Fri 20-Sep-13 18:32:58

Ripping vats of wine and mountains of cake

RippingYarns Fri 20-Sep-13 18:33:20

thanks ouryve

i told my RL best friend last night i was going to school to drag the WellBeing manager out into the playground and make a hat out of her arse-skin

that's how mad i was

i'm giggling about that now, but last night i believed it blush

Enjoyed the concert, thanks. Does anyone know the Elements by Tom Lehrer? I don't seem to be able to find a way to link from my You Tube app. Lemon Drizzle Cake lady is a modern MN classic, BTW. smile

Having a rough week. DS2 (13) is being teased/bullied at school and has been retaliating by hitting and kicking. The teasing is strange, they have worked out a few harmless sounding phrases which they repeat virtually daily which is winding DS2 up. But teachers hearing them don't understand why DS2 is getting so upset because they sound so innocuous. The SENCo is good, though and has pinpointed the instigators and suggested a peer assembly with help from the advisory teaching service to explain about autism for next week.

My mum's dementia is getting worse. She's started wandering out of the house and had to be brought home by a neighbour the other day. She's also imagining conversations and events going on around her. We think it's time to increase her care package, but she's very resistant to going into any sort of residential home. Perhaps an overnight sleeping carer and three visits in the day. This will use all her savings but may protect her house. But it may not be enough to keep her safe. sad

It's very strange, I'm so used to caring for my DS and thinking about long term care for him, having to care for my mum seems all wrong.

hazeyjane Fri 20-Sep-13 21:07:16

Hello

I will have an ice cold glass of prosecco and something savoury please - me and dds held a cake sale at their school today for Jeans For Genes day and raised £340, it was a frenzy of children hurling money and grabbing cakes. And there wasn't a lemon drizzle in sight.

Just going back to read thread, and catch up.

Hope everyone is ok.

pannetone Fri 20-Sep-13 23:14:22

wine and cake to all those (well not caked-out hazeyjane) who are in Friday night need.

DS2 (HFA) has nearly been at uni for a week! He's living on campus in a hall of residence in a 'flat' with 6 bed-sit rooms and a shared kitchen. Am pleased to report he knows his flatmates names and what they are studying. He has not (as expected) done any Freshers week socialising - hopefully when lectures start next week he will start to get to know some people on his course. He remembered to enrol (phew!) and has had a session with his peer mentor. He was grumpy with me on the phone this evening but that is because I ask too many questions!

DS3 (also HFA) has had a relatively smooth week as a new-ish Y7 at secondary having found a geography book he mislaid and learning that he didn't get detention for a 'first time offence' of not having his book. He is enjoying choir (the only boy there!) and drama club.

Not a good day for DD with ASD and selective mutism. The TA who does a group reading session with her told her she was 'rude' for not taking her turn at reading today angry and that she must read on Mon. The NHS SALT is coming in this term to set up a programme for DD, but the TA should already know that DD shouldn't be put under pressure to talk. DD came out of school tearful and is already anxious about Monday. She doesn't know why she didn't manage to read today but she knows that the TA being cross with her made it worse....sad

senmerrygoround Sat 21-Sep-13 05:37:59

Ripping a WellBeing Manager - what sort of creature is that???

zzzzz Sat 21-Sep-13 06:26:42

Morning all. The day starts bright and early.

SallyBear Sat 21-Sep-13 07:32:41

Morning zzzzz. Knackered this morning. Woke up early and then took an age to go back to sleep. Now I just feel old.

Thepoodoctor Sat 21-Sep-13 07:46:05

Yup ... DS up at 6.30 and by 7 we'd had at least one major and several minor meltdowns ... Not a good start! Now in the bath, hoping trampolining and rock climbing will sort him out.

[tea][tea][tea] smilegrinwinkshockhmmconfused

(DD saw me doing this and wanted to press ALL the faces)

hazeyjane Sat 21-Sep-13 08:03:03

Wha'happened!!

Woke at 7.30, best lie in I have had in about 7 years!

<apologies and coffee/tea to sleepyheads>

Unfortunately up for 2 hours in the night with chesty ds and dd1 who has a horrible cough.

SummerRain Sat 21-Sep-13 09:00:32

Ugh. Was woken in the middle of the night by ds2 screaming and the other two yelling at each other. Ds1 had slammed ds2s hand in a door. The only one who was asleep and not shouting was dds bf who was sleeping over but despite being told to go back to bed dd had her up and they were tramping downstairs 5 minutes later.

Ds1 has a match this morning that I have to drive an hour to get to and I'm zombified [ yawn]

PolterGoose Sat 21-Sep-13 09:08:24

brew all round

Trigglesx Sat 21-Sep-13 09:56:50

argh. H messing with my head. I cannot deal with this. He did something stupid, got defensive and tried to blame me, and then was going to cancel visiting the boys today after he promised to spend the day with them. Like hell am I going to have him let the boys down, even if it means having him here today. I will just deal with it for the boys' sake, but dammit I don't need this stress. angry If I had let him cancel, then DS2 would have been upset, but DS1 would have been upset on a nuclear level. No thanks.

Trigglesx Sat 21-Sep-13 09:58:06

hazey hope your DS and DD1 are feeling better soon.

PolterGoose Sat 21-Sep-13 10:44:47

Triggles flowers

FrussoHathor Sat 21-Sep-13 11:23:10

I need manual handling training. I've just put my back out again trying to lift dd. ouch. Where do I get training?

flowers triggles brew and [matchsticks] summer and [tea] for poodoctor

bigbluebus Sat 21-Sep-13 11:35:19

You'll be lucky Frusso Manual handling training is only given to those employed to care for our DCs - not mere unpaid carers like us sad.

You could try asking your DDs OT or Physio for advice if she has one.

I did my back in a few years ago whilst on holiday lifting DD and bending to get her dressed on a standard divan bed (we have hoists and a hospital bed at home). It was not pleasant and required Co-Codamol to cope with the pain. Hope your back gets better soon.

FrussoHathor Sat 21-Sep-13 11:42:54

Will speak with her OT. Or whinge to my dd for stronger pain relief.
Think my back may be well and truly stuffed this time.

youarewinning Sat 21-Sep-13 13:13:10

After a long tiring week I woke at 6.30am today, made a coffee, laid on sofa and fell back to sleep. Vaguely heard DS get up. Woke up eventually to see him standing right in front of the TV - said good morning DS, he turned round thrust his watch under my nose - which he's obviously been holding for reference - and said "I can't believe you've slept until this time, it's 9 15!" grin

I did laugh but secretly I'm thrilled our work on not waking up others as people may be tired even if your not has actually worked today !

Galena Sat 21-Sep-13 13:35:14

Glad some of you have had a lie in - sorry others of you haven't! I woke up with a really sore throat. DH kept wanting cuddles and, feeling like poo, I didn't... Pushing him away wasn't working so I grumpily got up. 10 minutes later DD got up and as it was 8:00 (the time she's allowed to get up) DH just opened the stair gate and let her come downstairs, while he continued to lie in bed. angry

I think he got the message, got up, cleaned the kitchen (and used the dishwasher which worked without smoking today) and then cooked us all brunch. smile

Still feeling rough, but not so rough.

FrussoHathor Sat 21-Sep-13 14:09:51

grin that's a start youarewinning

I think I've finally made a dent in dds DLA renewal form. Just have the list investigations/tests bit (how many extra sheets do I want) and then I have the ton of photocopying "evidence" (and the form) before I send it off. Ugh, they don't make it easy do they? and judgy nt people complain when we get DLA. Have that actually tried to fill one of these forms out?

SallyBear Sat 21-Sep-13 14:48:01

Bought a lottery ticket. The forecast was for a sunny warm weekend but not in Buckinghamshire apparently. Grrrr. I'd squirrelled away birthday and Christmas vouchers from last year and I will be buying myself a new tumble dryer. Whoopee doo. confused

SummerRain Sat 21-Sep-13 15:10:37

I have a lottery ticket for the euromilliins last night that I haven't checked yet. Villa in the canaries with a team of staff, fully stocked bar and fleets of SN nannies if I've won, you're all invited wink

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Sat 21-Sep-13 15:13:45

Ellen - so sorry to hear about your m. Another horrible situation often made worse by how things are. thanks

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