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Friday the thirteenth at the Goose and Carrot

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PolterGoose Fri 13-Sep-13 15:48:53

wine all round I think

Trigglesx Fri 13-Sep-13 17:34:43

moosemama let's see.. the LA is ultimately responsible for the transportation, right? So if they cannot provide adequate (safe and reliable) transportation for him, then they need to provide for a tutor at home then? Maybe send them a letter asking what their backup plan is, since their primary plan is clearly not working.

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 18:06:28

Well done MiniTriggles for winning the job of Class Rep. grin Thank heavens he was barking up the wrong tree at the idea of wandering around the school unaccompanied!

I don't know what to do about refusing to let him go. Will have to have a frank discussion with dh tonight about it I think.

Ds1 has just arrive home (well about 10 minutes ago). Escort didn't bother getting out of the car - driver did, but was failing dismally to communicated with him through the boot, as he didn't bother opening ds's door or telling him to get out. hmm I really couldn't be arsed to let rip again, so I just grabbed him and took him inside. Apparently the escort didn't get out at the school either, but today they had two LSA's accompany them to the taxi.

Found out today that they are contracted to pick him up from our door and drop hand him over to school. Escort is supposed to get out and accompany him both ends. LEA was furious when they found out the bloody van has been dropping him 3 doors up and just letting him out there to walk up the road on his own. Fortunately, each time this has happened I've been hanging around by the front window and have gone out to meet him, but according to LA it's another way they've breached their contract. Ridiculous thing is we have the widest expanse of drive on the street, loads of room for the minibus, even enough for them to turn around if they need to. confused

SallyBear Fri 13-Sep-13 18:18:32

Just a quick update on DD and her TA saga plus being chased through school and the personal remarks about her face (she's just has plastic surgery and is extremely sensitive right now).

Our meeting this morning went well. School admitted that whoever had made the TA decision had no understanding of DD's situation. The girl has been spoken to by the school. It was allegedly a huge misunderstanding.... Hmmmm. Not sure about that. Anyway, she will be having a mentor session every two weeks with a member of staff, and they are going to start up peer group sessions which she will join plus they're looking at activities that are dance and music orientated so that she can make new friends. The TA will hopefully be reinstated and used until half term with a gradual withdrawal in favour of a different TA that DD will help choose from the ones assigned to her. So in summary, I think the school have got the message.

SallyBear Fri 13-Sep-13 18:20:53

Oh and I meant to add that I got the distinct impression that the Asst Senco was delighted to drop whoever in the shit about taking the TA away, as she'd obviously said at the time that it was a bad idea and had been out voted.

PolterGoose Fri 13-Sep-13 18:26:08

That sounds like a good outcome Sally smile

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 18:38:59

Well done Sally. Here's hoping things improve rapidly for dd now.

Good to know that the Asst Senco is on your side too.

zzzzz Fri 13-Sep-13 18:46:56

Hi all! Goodness aren't you all keen for drink this week? Wouldn't it be blissful if we really could all meet in a pub?

Everything is about to get better here as the kidney stone/stent disaster is finally over. I've promised myself to be inert till tomorrow, but fingers are itching to get out to my garden/back to training the dog/haircut/greenhouse.....grin you get the picture. Hooooooooray. [embarrassingly over enthusiastic emoticon]

Have been finding this

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1851616-If-an-11-year-old-child-mimicked-another-11-year-old-child-for-their-disability-in-school-what-do-you-think-should-happen?msgid=41541951#41541951

A little hard going. It's weird to be criticising a sn mum, but I feel really shocked and sad for the other child.

Small miracle of the week, ds offered me a glass of water and made it for me today!!!!! shock. Dd2 whispered "Mum! Mum ds1 volunteered for a job". grin. I caught her giving him a kiss and saying "well done for being kind to Mummy." My cup runneth over.

PolterGoose Fri 13-Sep-13 18:58:15

Glad you're getting well zzzzz and a huge WOW for ds grin

I read some of that thread earlier sad

SummerRain Fri 13-Sep-13 19:06:34

Irish teachers won't change a wet child. Even the SNA is just supposed to wait with him til I get there (I am literally across the road so its just a couple of minutes) but for whatever reason she wasn't free (she's shared between 3 kids in 2 rooms) so the receptionist (who he knows well) kept him with her.

I'm not pushed about that, its the agreed course of action if he has an accident, the kids don't have pe kit... In fact he was already in track pants as the uniform is so relaxed its barely uniform. I just know him well enough to know that hes now thinking 'I peed in school and not only did nothing bad happen, I got to play with a stopwatch. I wonder do I get to play with the stopwatch every time I wet myself? I should do it again and see!' [we so need an eye rolling emoticon]

Sally, I'm glad to hear it went so smoothly cake

SummerRain Fri 13-Sep-13 19:11:12

God I missed loads of posts while I was writing that (dinner time chaos!)

It sounds like there's a lot of us in need of the vino tonight wine

SallyBear Fri 13-Sep-13 19:27:04

zzzzz I read a couple of pages about the post. Difficult really. There's the protective instinct that kicks in to protect your vulnerable child, but then there's the doubt about the poster's intentions. The first two pages of the thread didn't say what disability her child had and I was a bit disturbed with how violent she felt about the 'naughty' child.

Anyway zzzzz - hooray for no more kidney stones and stents. Hooray for you getting your life back onto a more even keel.

zzzzz Fri 13-Sep-13 19:40:14

I think I would feel red rage if someone so much as sniggered at my babies, but I pray I would calm down enough to see that the other child's issues are not just a "drain on the resources" of the school. Both my children with sn are uber passive. They are sitting ducks for bullies really, so I do empathise with the OP. I need wine.

Trigglesx Fri 13-Sep-13 19:52:08

Something just seems "off" about the whole thing re that thread. The OP's reactions are really out there IMO, almost rabid. I would be upset if someone did that to DS1, but at the same time, I would expect a solution to include education for the schoolchildren - certainly not kicking them out of school. confused I find myself wondering why she has no regard whatsoever about the other child's possible difficulties. And irritated that she and her SIL have discussed the child in question (confidential info).

FrussoHathor Fri 13-Sep-13 20:25:11

I feel bad coming in to say finally dd has suitable transport. Taxi and temp escort to start next week. I have never had such a stressful time even when she was in ms.
wine for recovery is needed.

ouryve Fri 13-Sep-13 20:37:55

Oh, definitely.

Apart from A certain Boy helping himself to everyone else's tuck shop money, so he could look at the years and pictures on the coins, causing a lot of commotion and confusion, in the process, today went swimmingly. Until DS2 whacked me in the face, a few minutes ago. Been sat with an ice pack on my temple and nose and I have a cut on my nose, from my glasses. He caught my lip, too. Poor DH is going to get some filthy looks off people if I bruise!

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 20:39:12

Don't feel bad Frusso. We are all here to celebrate the successes as well as bemoan the almighty cock-ups. Hearing others' successes is what gives the rest of us hope.

Well done for fighting and winning. wine

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 20:40:13

Ouch ouryve. wine

ouryve Fri 13-Sep-13 21:00:06

The vino opener has arrived after settling boys to sleep. Thankfully, he's jsut got up off his backside to open said vino, or else i might be forced to glare at him. Not a good look with a red nose.

FrussoHathor Fri 13-Sep-13 21:08:01

I have no fight left now mama
I'm so tired by it all.
I think the ultimate straw was when I wasn't called back when someone said they'd call back. I have to admit that made me see red.

SummerRain Fri 13-Sep-13 21:12:28

ouch ouryve.

Hope the swelling goes down soon wine

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Fri 13-Sep-13 21:19:08

I'm getting hazey drunk tonight so am hereby buying her a bottle of wine and putting it behind the bar.

First glass lined up.... wine

Had a good week this week, bluechick being v lovely!

zzzzz lovely story about your DS!

Cheers everyone. wine wine wine

We've had a good week mostly. Not tons of meltdowns but school refusal and the behaviour that goes with it started again this morning sigh. Looks like another year of battles to get him sorted and out the house. Oh well I've had a few fays grace!

PolterGoose Fri 13-Sep-13 21:24:32

ouryve ouch flowers and very amused by your ds and everyone else's money grin

Glad you had a good week Bluebird more wine?

Days! Blasted correct! He likes school though at the moment! I really hope that continues.

PolterGoose Fri 13-Sep-13 21:25:42

Oh blueeyed hope you can resolve the school issues flowers

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