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Friday the thirteenth at the Goose and Carrot

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PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 15:48:53

wine all round I think

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 16:10:32

blush Posted on the other thread, but am not going to repost and drag all my crap over here.

Bring on the weekend and definitely the wine grin

autumnsmum Fri 13-Sep-13 16:16:23

Hello everyone not a bad week dd2 has started at her ss which is more than amazing . She has been a bit upset being put on the bus but has been fine there .She has also been talking to the bus escort which is fantastic

MovingForward0719 Fri 13-Sep-13 16:18:14

I don't join in with this very often, but can I pop in this week? My little man has gone full time in his special school this week and started using transport. It's all gone pretty well but I feel deflated! Is this normal? I spent a whole year waiting on diagnosis, statement, school place and for him to start and now I feel a bit, oh. It might just be the shock of getting up early for a whole week!! Hope you have all had a great week anyway.

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 16:19:07

I so hope you have a better week next week moose wine wine wine for you

Ds seems surprisingly ok considering it's been first whole week back, had his actual teacher for 2 days and then 3 days with 3 different supply teachers, including Miss Trunchball, had swimming which he hates but will tolerate, and dp has done school runs all week as he's been off.

Hope everyone has a good weekend

RippingYarns Fri 13-Sep-13 16:20:50

thanks i'll have a wine

you know those ever decreasing circles?

we're in one angry

new teacher, new rules, same old incontinence and stress for DD

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 16:22:14

autumn glad ages talking to the escort, give it time, she's very little smile

Moving I think we get so used to everything being so hard that we are constantly ready for the worst, so when it goes well it takes us by surprise and feels like a waste of all that planning and worrying and energy we've invested. Glad it's gone well smile

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 16:25:51

Oh Ripping I don't know if it's anything like we had, but we had real problems in the early years of school with teachers being bloody arrogant and thinking they knew best so dismissing everything the previous years teacher had set up, and then it all falling apart and having to start again angry

wine wine wine wine wine

autumnsmum Fri 13-Sep-13 16:28:55

Thanks polter I know she's tiny and at nursery it was full blown hysterics so defo an improvement

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 16:31:08

Yep, sounds like an improvement to me smile

(that post should have started ...glad she's talking...)

RippingYarns Fri 13-Sep-13 16:47:46

NQT with not much about her sad we've not met with the new senco yet, i have my notes ready for that meeting next week <evil cackle>

hey ho, it's the weekend

anyone got anything nice planned?

SummerRain Netherlands Fri 13-Sep-13 16:51:21

Autumn, that's brilliant news grin Its a bit of an anticlimax though isn't it when you've been anticipating problems and they don't materialise!

Ds2 wet himself at school. Unfortunately they brought him to the office to wait for me so when I got there he was chattering away to the receptionist and playing with her stopwatch. I could see the gears turning in his brain: wet pants = fun and games in reception hmm

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 16:53:25

Oh ffs! It's not looking good for next week. Tempted to refuse to send him in until they sort it out properly - but think ds would hate me for it.

Just had a call (15 minutes after pick up should have taken place) to tell me the taxi was stuck in traffic so they are likely to be a bit late - implying they're on board but traffic is heavy. Nope, shortly afterwards - half an hour after pick up time - ds phoned me on his mobile (thank heavens we bought him one) to tell me the taxi had failed to turn up - again! angry

At least he was inside the school with a teacher this time though - so a small improvement on last night.

angry

Off to read the thread now.

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 16:59:08

Moving, I think Polter has summed it up for me. I always feel odd and uneasy when things are going well. I'm so used to the sort of crap we're getting hurled at us at the moment and having to fight every step of the way, that I can't settle.

Autumn, early days, but great news that she's happy while she's there and fantastic that she's chatting with her escort. All very good signs. smile

Ripping, it's infuriating isn't it, same problems year in year out in a never ending cycle. wine

Summer, why on earth didn't they just help him into some spare clothes and send him home with a carrier bag containing the old ones? Even our crap school can manage that.

OneInEight Fri 13-Sep-13 17:01:33

Good week here for a change!

ds1 settled back nicely into SS. Taxi consistently late but nothing as bad as others have been having. I don't think he spoke to the driver the first week but this week has been giving directions for a quicker way home grin.

ds2 has been offered a placement within an ARP base attached to a small mainstream primary. We have visited and it seems well set up so there is a chance it may work. Fingers crossed.

And despite foolishly arranging an oncology appointment for Friday 13th I got an all clear and discharged. Very happy.

DIY jobs planned for the weekend so we can have attempt number 4 at house selling in the New Year.

Can I join in this week?
DD started reception on Monday. First full day today. She is shattered and a bit withdrawn.

Not really sure how she's gone. I think she is avoiding most activities and finding it full on and hard work. Predictably her toileting has regressed and she has had accidents.

Met with SENCO this morning to write the statement request up.

Feeling sad for her and worried about her.

Have bought wine

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 17:05:55

Bloody hell moose this is just appalling, I cannot believe they still haven't sorted it. TBH I would probably keep him off until it is sorted, it might get school applying some pressure if he is absent...

Summer surely they could have stuck him in his PE kit or something confused

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 17:06:42

Blimey, that does sound like a positive week OneInEight. Really pleased for you - especially on the oncology results. flowers

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 17:09:40

PRN starting Reception is so hard on both the kids and their parents. My dd started on Thursday last week and has been off sick since Tuesday this week. hmm She was totally wiped out at the end of each day prior to that, so think she was an easy target for this horrible virus.

I'm not going to tell you not to worry, as I am just the same and know it's impossible, so have a ((hug)) and some wine and chocolate instead and good luck with your statement request. flowers

Great new OneinEight flowers

I need to remember that she found it hard to settle in to nursery and got there in the end. She will be OK (ish)

I just so hope they give her a statement. She needs it so badly.

I have found the sweet and salty popcorn and am drowning my sorrows in that.

moosemama Fri 13-Sep-13 17:14:10

Polter, I know. I think I am actually all out of rants now it's been so ridiculous. I really do want to keep him off, but I know he won't stand for it, he really likes it there and will be furious if I stop him going.

I just wish I could drive so I could take him myself for as long as it takes to get it sorted.

Dh has an interview not far from the school on Monday. We were hoping that if it gets it it might mean he could at least take ds in the mornings, so halve all this transport crap - but apparently the new job will involve regular trips to London, so he wouldn't be able to guarantee he could take ds every single day. It would mean however, that if they fail to pick ds up in the afternoon he could nip round there and pick him up himself.

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 17:24:22

OneInEight fab news flowers

Prince hope you get the support she needs. Ds was very unreliable with toiletting all through reception, it was fine, he wasn't the only one and there was one day when the teacher apologised to many parents for an activity that was so engrossing most of the children forgot to go to the loo grin

Trigglesx Fri 13-Sep-13 17:31:40

moosemama I would be keeping him home - when the school questions why, you can cite unsafe transportation is making it impossible to get him to school. If they can't provide a safe service, then it needs to be escalated and a major complaint made.

summer I agree with others that there are better options, even PE kit would work.

oneineight congrats on the all clear!

Some ups and downs, but all in all DS1 had a good week. He came home all thrilled today because he is a class rep, but then went on about how he will be walking to and attending meetings by himself, unaccompanied. He said "brave boys can leave by themselves." shock Oh. I. Don't. Think. So!!! My little runner boy is going NOWHERE by himself, thank you. A quick ring to the teacher after school confirmed that he was utterly mixed up. Yes, class rep. Yes, meetings. But he will be picked up and walked to the meeting (in the same end of the same building) and supervised by said teacher and then accompanied back to class after the meeting. Teacher laughed when I told her what he'd been saying, as she knows his history and his habits of running when the opportunity presents itself. She said no way was he going anywhere by himself. Whew!!

MovingForward0719 Fri 13-Sep-13 17:33:06

Autumn - glad it went well. Think I spoke to you on another thread about transport. My little man has been great going on the bus but the times have differed wildly. The afternoon it doesn't matter as I have booked my other child into after school club, at a cost. The mornings don't matter at the moment because he's going to an 8 o clock sports activity so I'm dropping him off first but the times the bus is arriving is going to make him late once he's back to normal time. I only live 5 mins from school but he's just not quite mature enough to do it by himself every day. Life !!

Prince It's great that you are getting going with the statement request this early on. Reception is hard. Try not to fret too much (advice I have never followed myself)

PolterGoose Argentina Fri 13-Sep-13 17:34:05

That did make me laugh Triggles and how fab that he's a class rep grin

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