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DS1 stuck in taxi near Dartford [sad]

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KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:11:45

He is not happy. He has been texting and has phoned but his batteries have now died (trying not to panic).

We have told the taxi driver to make sure he gets some food and a toilet break as they have been stuck for hours. Taxi drivers are not the best ('he hasn't said anything' - no, der (as DS1 says)) and he does not have an escort - practically selectively mute/immobile with strangers.

They are trying to go via the Blackwell tunnel but as everyone else is also doing that they can't move anywhere. The taxi driver has turned the engine off as they are completely stationary.

Is there anything I can do? sad

moosemama Fri 06-Sep-13 21:18:34

Oh my goodness Keepon, I have no useful advice, but am willing to hold your hand until he's home safe if you need it?

Actually, do you know the number of the despatch office? If so, could you arrange for the taxi to take him somewhere else where you can arrange for someone to meet them?

catham Fri 06-Sep-13 21:19:30

is he in a black cab? they have chargers for mobiles in the back

moosemama Fri 06-Sep-13 21:20:43

Just realised you said they can't move at all. Can you get close enough for him to leave the cab and walk across to you somehow?

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:27:01

Thanks moose smile (actually we need a floods of tears emoticon George Pig style)

catham - this is LA transport to DS's ss.

He was due home hours ago. I have tried trawling the internet/twitter etc but the story lacks 'dynamism' - there is really nothing new to say when you are stuck in traffic for hours in the dark.

I'll get DH to phone the taxi driver for an update - at least to find out if they are moving yet.

My mind keeps straying to a fear that they will be trapped overnight but I hope this is paranoia.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:28:47

Moose - there is the small matter of the River Thames - we are on the Essex side and he is on the Kent side.

moosemama Fri 06-Sep-13 21:37:37

I could do with that emoticon tonight as well KeepOn - we'll flood the place together.

Sorry, I have absolutely no idea of the geography. I was thinking if he is stuck that side, the traffic might be moving in - but not out, iyswim and if you could reach him at least he'd be stuck in your car with you, instead of a taxi.

catham Fri 06-Sep-13 21:45:04

does the LA not have access to a charger? it should be something they look into for the future if they do not

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:45:33

I feel a bit like a commuter who, forgetting their humanity, tuts and groans when the tube is delayed 'due to a person in front of the train'.

But really, this 'security scare' is damned inconvenient!!!!!

(Just in case you don't 'get me' I am using black humour to ward off black despair)

Doyouthinktheysaurus Fri 06-Sep-13 21:48:42

Oh bless you, what an absolute nightmaresad

I hope the taxi driver does look after your DS, and he's home safe soon.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:55:10

Taxi driver would need to 'parent' - DS1 won't say that he is hungry, needs the toilet, his batteries have run out etc. Even if you gave him a packed lunch to take in the car he would not eat it, no matter how hungry, unless told to. He already has a car charger for his mobile but he would never ask the driver to plug it in. Taxi drivers just drive.

The LA/taxi company will say it was an unforeseen, one-off event. I bet they don't have rations to deal with all possible emergencies. Maybe it is the classic 'contingent adversity', but it is still real - very bloody real atm.

ernesttheBavarian Fri 06-Sep-13 21:55:40

How old is your ds? Any news or movement? Poor you and ds (and everyone else who is stuck of course)

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 22:03:50

ernest - DS is 12. Good news is that they have now turned around but the bad news is that it will be at least another 2 hours before he is home. The journey will have taken over 8 hours. This is not a good start to the new academic year. This is his first journey home this term sad and he only started the half term before the summer break sad

Poor sod. Why the hell did I select a school the other side of Dartford/London?

moosemama Fri 06-Sep-13 22:20:20

Oh crikey KeepOn and I thought ds1's transport had been a disaster. 8 hours! Your poor boy. sad

I had no idea there was a security scare and as you say it will almost definitely be a one-off, but that doesn't change how awful the whole situation in and how bad it is for your ds - and you for that matter.

In you shoes I think I would be getting despatch to radio the driver and ask him to plug in your ds's phone. Then at least you will be able to speak to ds and reassure him. I know they're 'just' a taxi firm, but it costs them nothing to do that and they should understand that these are extreme circumstances and if they are contracted to transport dcs with special needs then they need to step up and take care of them properly, regardless of whether or not it's in the contract.

PicturesofParadise Fri 06-Sep-13 22:21:28

Poor ds keeping hope your dh was able to tell taxi man what he needed to do to support him.
Real shitty thing to happen to anyone, but with our kids there is always the added extra worry. Hope he gets back quickly xx

TOWIELA Fri 06-Sep-13 22:24:25

Omg what a nightmare! Any news?

moosemama Fri 06-Sep-13 22:53:43

Have finally had chance to check out the news. I had no idea all that was going on.

Hope you've been able to get hold of the driver and he's put you in touch with ds by now.

Keeping everything crossed 2hrs was an estimate and he's home much quicker.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-Sep-13 23:29:44

Not home yet hmm

Had a quick call to the taxi driver and then to Ds1 - he is calmer now they are moving. Told him to try and sleep - I hope exhaustion overtakes the anxiety at some point.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Sat 07-Sep-13 00:23:24

Just got home smile

MirandaWest Sat 07-Sep-13 00:30:07

Really glad he's back home smile

Summerhasloaded Sat 07-Sep-13 07:24:45

I've just seen this shock sad I hope you're both recovering flowers

What a nightmare sad

TOWIELA Sat 07-Sep-13 07:47:00

What a nightmare! Glad he got home safe

ernesttheBavarian Sat 07-Sep-13 07:52:56

Wow. So late. Poor ds. At least it's the weekend now and he can have a rest. Hope he feels ok about going to school on Monday. How long is his journey supposed to be? Hope you have a lovely day. I see someone has been arrested. Grrr like there isn't enough stress and crap anyway.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Sat 07-Sep-13 09:08:24

Thanks everyone flowers

DS1 is full of the joys of spring this morning so now I have swopped the stress of last night for shouting and screaming (he is currently asking DH how dumb is he). Return to normality then.

The taxi driver managed to charge his phone and gave him some bags of crisps. The journey is almost exactly 100 miles but can take from 2 to 3 and a half hours because of the Crossing. I think in future we will ask for him to be picked up after tea in future so that at least he has eaten and barring a bomb scare will miss the rush hour.

moosemama Sat 07-Sep-13 09:11:34

So glad he arrived back safely, but so late the poor boy. Hope he can get lots of rest over the weekend and it doesn't put him off going on Monday.

That has to go down in the record books as the longest school run ever.


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