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Lady I met in the supermarket can cure autism!

(36 Posts)
AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 20:11:21

DS had just been to a party and was in a bit of a state having held it together all afternoon. DH had to carry him out and I was left waiting at the checkout.

Anyway, apparently if she had him for just five minutes she could sort him out!

Sadly I didn't get her name or number. I told her to ring the National Autistic Society immediately, submit her research to The Lancet, make several millions, go into DS' school and see if her methods worked with physically disabled children... but she walked away sad


Handywoman Sat 15-Jun-13 20:12:36


Five minutes - that long? hmm

mummytime Sat 15-Jun-13 20:15:01

You are wonderful! Well done, I just hope I can be as quick thinking under pressure (not do a fish impression).

AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 20:20:50

I've been away from this board for a bit and had forgotten about the honking lol... I was shaking afterwards though. Could hardly put my number in the chip and pin.

AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 20:22:47

Oh and had been previously wound up by two older ladies complaining that people should do their shopping in the week when screaming child was at school. DH told them that unlike obviously retired people we had to work as he was going past ha ha.

Pouncer1 Sat 15-Jun-13 20:30:42

Good on you.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Sat 15-Jun-13 21:04:09

Good for you.

What an absolute silly fucking cow.

I'm starting to feel rather militant at all the fucking idiots we have to endure.

Eyesunderarock Sat 15-Jun-13 21:06:53

grin Well, I wonder what her foolproof method was?
Who knows, you could have knocked a revolution in autism cure and prevention on the head.
Better than knocking her out I suppose.
Honk honk honk.

stillfightingforjustice Sat 15-Jun-13 21:07:27

Was it a BOGOF offer? smile

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Sat 15-Jun-13 21:10:28

What a shame you didn't get her number, people would be lining up for it.

Stupid ignorant witch.

Have yourself a brew or a wine.

AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 21:27:37

Aw... you are a lovely lot. I suspect the cure was something along the lines of a good smack. I could have got my phone out, pointed and the cctv and asked her coldly if she cared to try physically assaulting my son...

There was a great reply to a wilfully ignorant neighbour on AIBU the other week: "My son isn't available for you sorting him out as he is upstairs working on his proposal for compulsory euthanasia for the over sixties" grin

ouryve Sat 15-Jun-13 21:41:42

Good for you!!! grin

ouryve Sat 15-Jun-13 21:43:14

If older people don't like bumping into people with children when they're out shopping, they should go shopping during the week, when the kids are at school.

AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 21:51:27

Exactly. I have previously used a line I've heard on MN for these occasions: "who on earth would choose to visit a supermarket on a Saturday afternoon for peace and quiet?"

Ineedmorepatience Sat 15-Jun-13 22:21:29

Well done you for quick thinking grin

Horrible that you were put in that situation though!

Eyesunderarock Sat 15-Jun-13 22:33:27

'"My son isn't available for you sorting him out as he is upstairs working on his proposal for compulsory euthanasia for the over sixties'

I'm glad it amused you OP. smile

AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 22:41:35

Oh that was you? Bloody genius. HONK HONK smile

Eyesunderarock Sat 15-Jun-13 23:02:40

Decades of dealing with opinionated arses. I'm almost a black belt. grin

AudrinaAdare Sat 15-Jun-13 23:30:49

You are nails grin

I might start asking them if they were fluent in four modern languages, two ancient, Grade eight in five instruments and about to take A' level mathematics, chemistry and physics aged six.

Not that DS is either, but they won't know that.

Eyesunderarock Sat 15-Jun-13 23:37:43

You could try that next time:
'He plays violin to grade 8, speaks 4 languages fluently and is taking his A level in advanced maths next month. And you want to cure him?' confused

SuperiorCat Sat 15-Jun-13 23:42:45


Thank you for doing that on all our behalf Audrina

Pixel Sun 16-Jun-13 00:23:52

What is it with supermarkets? I had a complete stranger come over to tell me I should take ds to Lourdes.
Perhaps I should have asked her if she could organise a school trip grin.

MeAndMySpoon Sun 16-Jun-13 10:12:08

Fantastic. grin I'm storing these up against the day that DS2 ceases to be a cute 2 yo having a 'typical' 2 yo tantrum and is still having meltdowns at a less socially acceptable age. Though I suspect I'll be a gibbering, furious mess rather than icy cool...

cornypedicure Sun 16-Jun-13 12:46:46

I love your response Audrina grin

Oh, well done. I'll have to store that one up. grin

Flappingandflying Sun 16-Jun-13 14:26:31

Well done! Mind, if Flyingboy was cured would that mean that my lawn would no longer be beautifully mown, my garden strimmed, my car hoovered out to an inch of it's life?

Eyesunderarock Sun 16-Jun-13 14:32:38

Slightly off topic, but triggered by Flapping, long ago, my friend and her husband went for a weekend away, leaving her 18 year old Home Alone for three days.
There were dire warnings as to the disasters that would ensue from parents of NT teens, the wild parties, the damage, the chaos.
They were right about him running wild. sad
When she came back, the kitchen had been rationalised and cleansed, her herbs and spices were all in alphabetical order and...he'd disposed of every item of crockery with a chip.

Flappingandflying Sun 16-Jun-13 16:24:16

He did shrink a woolly jumper in the wash a couple of weeks ago. Perhaps this lady can cure all imperfections! It is quite funny we have had an assessment from an agency to provide Flyingboy with a PA. when they said, 'and do you need help with domestic tasks'. They looked a bit taken aback at what he can do. So that was a 'no' on the form ! Mind he does need prompting and creates a lot of mess so he's not the paragon of virtue he sounds.

AudrinaAdare Sun 16-Jun-13 22:33:57

grin @Eyes and Flapping. Hopefully I will have this to come.

DS is so rigid and pedantic in his thinking atm that I can see him winning awards as parking enforcement officer of the year for several decades running!

We run a driving school and he would make a fantastic instructor because he would explain exactly and concisely about angles and trajectories and reference points.

Pixel Sun 16-Jun-13 22:48:46

Ds is much tidier than his sister and very good at putting things in the bin. Unfortunately it means I have to check for plates and teatowels before I put the rubbish out as he thinks that if he's finished with something it must belong in the bin hmm.

coff33pot Mon 17-Jun-13 00:20:31

Well done! your response has definitely been filed under "useful comment for muppets" grin

AudrinaAdare Mon 17-Jun-13 02:19:50

Thank you all so much. Writing it down and reading your responses has helped me to let it go.

It's so difficult, isn't it, when you are doing your very best to help / teach your child and manage things, and be a good parent, and you are judged as either too soft or not "tough" enough because these people who have never had to deal with disability have been inconvenienced for, oh - five whole minutes.

The beautiful little boy, Daniel Pelka, who was beaten and starved by his parents has been on my mind recently. He could be my DS. He looks like him. The poor little soul wasn't given any English words. Apparently he had toileting problems too. I wonder if his parents had the same thoughts as the woman in the supermarket queue: Give him just five minutes with me!

But five minutes and a good talking to and a good smack didn't work. So they beat him harder and for longer. And it didn't work. So they withheld food but it didn't work. So they locked him up and half-drowned him.

And they killed him.

I was in a chat last night when somebody asked me why there are more autistic children around than ever before. I said that I suspected that many were beaten to death by people who thought that a good smack would sort them, and when that didn't work, that a broken bone might do it, and it got more and more brutal... sad

Flappingandflying Mon 17-Jun-13 08:50:10

Oooooo a driving school.... We are going to get Flyingboy assessed by The Queen Elizabeth Foundation to see if he will ever be able to drive and then we will need an aspie friendly instructor......who is very very patient..... You aren't in the south east are you (said hopefully knowing perfectly well you will Scotland or Birmingham or something!)

AudrinaAdare Mon 17-Jun-13 10:30:51

We are in Essex and East and North London smile and have experienced instructors who have taught people with additional needs. I'm on the spectrum myself and a lovely chap called Alan got me through my test. I had lessons through the Family Fund and BSM but failed the first three times. PM if you would like more details smile

bee169 Mon 17-Jun-13 11:24:57

good for you- i would like to have seen her face smile

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