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Friday Night Thread - come and share your news (and yer chocolate ;)

(87 Posts)
moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 18:14:51

Never started one before - barring a mistake once when I started one on a Thursday during the holidays. blush

Hoping I haven't crossed with someone else now.

Roll up, roll up ... share yer woes, celebrations, congratulations and/or commiserations - but don't forget the chocolate. grin

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 18:16:00

zzzzz did have chocolate cake to share grin

Ineedmorepatience Fri 01-Mar-13 18:19:57

I have chocolate but I find sharing trickygrin

Dd3 has gone to a stayawakeover, DP and I are going out for dinner. Its her 4th night away from me in 10 yrs so something to be celebrated, we will be having a down day tomorrow and I will be wearing my hard hat and flack jacket when she gets home.

Have a good weekend everyonesmile

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 18:20:37

Did have, being the operative words. grin

I'm really happy because DS3 has a place in the same lovely school that DS1 and DS2 go to. Somehow I've managed to get all 3 into an out of catchment comp with no sibling policy. Amazing, although DS2's statement might have helped a bit...

DS1 is away on a canal boat weekend, dickhead has gone skiing so I've got to get a babysitter for the other 2 for my book club tomorrow. Gulp. 15 yo boys make good babysitters, don't they?

Scary meeting with school this week. All over now - phew. Scary not because it was going to be hostile, but because I really didn't want it to be, and it wasn't - yay.

Cuppa then wine I reckon.

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 18:32:42

I am halfway through a packet of cooperative dark chocolate hard caramels, they are my absolute favourite chocolate, but I might be persuaded to share with you lot. grin

Ineed - a whole night of freedom and a meal out! envy Enjoy! grin

My news is that ds1 was offered a place at the out of area independent we were desperate for him to go to and the LA are sounding like it's all going ahead.

Unfortunately he isn't well and I'm quite worried about him. Off to the hospital for bloods - again - on Monday and sample sent off to lab today - so hoping we'll know more in a few days.

Oo - and had parents' evening this week. Sat there and was told face to face, that they don't worry about spelling because at ds2's age (nearly 9) it's not part of the assessment criteria for NC levels! shock angry and that ds1's teacher has set him a target she knows he'll never achieve because not only does he flatly refuse to do it, it's something he finds exceptionally hard. On top of that I was told that he is a comfortable 5 for reading, but that he won't get any higher because he can't do inference and understanding character emotion - er, yes he can - with support, as set down in his bloody statement.

Basically the jist was that as long as he gets national expectation or higher in his SATs they aren't going to bother teaching him much from now on. hmm Whereas the head of the independent was totally taken with him, saw massive potential based on his verbal and written skills and talked about building on his strengths and supporting him to reach his true potential - which he feels is exceptional. Primary happy for him to scrape 4s in subjects he's always been top of until this year - indie head talked about his future as a brilliant writer or poet and the potential for future applications to Cambridge etc! shock Such a difference in attitude, to have heard both in one week is, well, confirmation of everything I suspected about the primary really. angry and sad

Oh - and the suspension collapsed on the car. hmm

But, I am in a good mood anyway! grin

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 18:33:49

Well done Star, I was wondering how you got on (read your thread but didn't have anything intelligent to contribute). Glad it was all sorted amicably.

SallyBear Fri 01-Mar-13 18:38:02

<passes large bar of Cadburys Fruit n nut>
Had the weirdest week. Took TDD to an appointment at GOSH to get a date for surgery on her jaw, found the surgeon to be peculiarly vague as opposed to that previous appts. Felt very uneasy about what he wants to do (involves a lot of bone grafts), and could give no real assurances that it would work. "Spoke" to a forum I'm on, and was basically advised by people that I respect that I am right to feel uneasy about it all. Now trying to scrabble about looking for alternatives and to defer the surgery. Sometimes it sucks making these decisions and being her mum. I hate seeing her in pain and the anxiety that she goes through everytime. It's getting harder each time now.

Meanwhile back on the ranch, TDS has had his application for Statutory Assessment approved, so if all goes well and we get a statement then I will have THREE statemented children. Good grief!! <eats more chocolate>

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 18:41:26

<swaps precious caramel for chunk of fruit n nut - cos obv fruit and nut is healthy, having fruit in it an'all>

That sounds really hard Sally. Is there any chance you can get a second opinion from somewhere/someone?

silverfrog Fri 01-Mar-13 18:41:48

we had dd2's parent's evening this week - she's doing really well academically, but the teacher does now agree that there is probably enough to start the ball rolling re: investigations. which given that last term she was absolutely convinced there was nothing at all to worry about is quite a turn around grin

dd1 is having a tough week, as one of her favourite teachers is leaving. so this weekend will not be a happy one in the frog household, as she will be trying to process that.

ds is eating me out of house and home confused, and has started waking up multiple times int he night again - boo! here's hoping it's a growth spurt and soon over....

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 18:43:58

Sorry about the crap moose but it is great news about indie school, and school for Ellen too. Well done Star and have a fab evening Ineed, tomorrow is another day, sometimes we have to live for the moment.

I had a lovely time at zzzzz's eating cake and drinking coffee and her ds1 did some beautiful singing. My ds has had a super week because his LSA is actually doing something pro-active and taking him and his friends into the neglected wildlife area at school where they saw frog sex grin and he really enjoyed the Alert programme this week. SENCO has done her report following my request for SA, it's a bit nothing really, all the interventions look ok on paper but mean little in real school life hmm I don't expect the LEA to agree to SA but it has given the school a big fat kick up the arse.

SallyBear Fri 01-Mar-13 18:43:59

Moose that was the second opinion! She's had 26 generals. I've lost count of how many surgeries she's had, I think it's about 20-22. She's only 13, its no life but then without these surgeries she wouldn't be here. I think the issue that I have is that all of these surgeons just think about their specialty and not how it affects the child in the long term.

BaggyKnickers Fri 01-Mar-13 18:45:11

Evening all <hands out Maltesers,Ripples,Bounty and a few small carrots>
Moose I was wondering how your school issue was going - that's good news.
What's the name of the school? (pm me if you'd rather). We have 'chatted' loads of times but I'm always name-changing.
Mixed bag here - ds starts at residential independent next week. He has had a few days transition but it's not been easy so am hoping that a full week will make him feel more settled. It is going to be very quiet around the house sad

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 18:46:35

I saw your other thread Sally and really don't envy you that decision sad

Silver here's hoping froglet is just having a growth spurt

SallyBear Fri 01-Mar-13 18:47:29

I think DS4 has hurt his hand. Lots of flapping it and for a boy with ASD he never flaps..... Shame he can't tell me what's wrong.

SallyBear Fri 01-Mar-13 18:48:36

Thanks Polter. It's hard definitely. Sometimes I don't like my shoes...
<eats some of moose's caramels>

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 19:01:22

sad Sally. You're absolutely right about these surgeons, they all have such a narrow view of things and at some point they seem to stop seeing the child/person and just start seeing, cases and challenges, iyswim.

BaggyKnickers I give up - pm me. grin I can't work out who you are, I have enough trouble remembering what's going on for regular names. blush I think I know based on your ds's new placement, but don't want to embarrass myself or out you.

Hope your ds settles into his residential school ok. It's bound to be really hard on both of you.

hazeyjane Fri 01-Mar-13 19:02:30

Hello all

I found a large Lindt reindeer left over from Christmas, which I will happily share with you all. And a friend has just bought round pizza and wine to say thankyou for having her daughter for the day. The dds school was closed due to a powercut, so ds and I couldn't go to hydrotherapy. And I am knackered having spent the day trying to keep the 4 of them happy (it is amazing just how much chaos, and mess 3 x 6 year old girls can make!!)

Sallybear, I saw your thread, what an impossible situation to be in. I really hope you can find a solution.

Had an annoyingly garbled conversation with a cosultant from the hospital about ds's ecg results, which were on the whole normal, but with a ...something something...involving the pacemaker of the heart, when ds's heat slows, they want to monitor it along with the pda. I couldn't even hear half the conversation because of the noise of the consultants bloody printer, and ds screaming at my end.

Good news is that ds's chest is sounding a lot better, there is still noise, so he is having a chestxray in a couple of weeks, but he seems so much brighter and happier. Oh and ds is getting a 1-1 at preschool, who signs, and has already started signing everyday with the children there. She is someone I know, I think she is going to be great at working with ds, it all feels very positive.

signandsmile Fri 01-Mar-13 19:04:42

Hi all, yay for all the good news this week, (and sad for the tough weeks).

good week on the whole here, heard that my college assignments have been passed at Masters level, so thats a relief. Moondog's training last Sat was fab, and I have lots of good ideas from it, dh has been falling all over the place, smashed the (new) wardrobe door in a fall, the time for referral for a wheelchair fast approaches... sad we are also about to book a stairlift assessment appointment, (dh's mum has said she wants to pay for one for him.. bless her!)

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 19:06:22

Lots of school interactions this week, everyone. It must be parent evening season. DS2's isn't for another couple of weeks, but his AR is creeping up. It's all been about DS3 this week, so I haven't been thinking that much about DS2.

BaggyKnickers, you seem strangely familiar...

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 19:09:43

Oh dear sign poor dh, and you too

Congrats though on the assignments, I'm nearly two thirds way through my Masters, it is proving much harder studying at 42 with a ds and a job than in my early 20s with a dog grin

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 19:13:17

Good to hear your ds is feeling brighter Hazey. You definitely deserve wine after looking after 3 6 year old girls and a littley all day. Great news about the 1:1 - even more reason to celebrate with wine grin

Congratulations on passing your Masters assignments sign. smile Sorry to hear about ds's falls though. sad

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 19:15:21

Crossed with you, sign. That's going to be difficult for your DH, accepting he needs to use a wheelchair. sad

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 19:17:44

Blimey - my typing is dire tonight. Sorry sign - that should read dh's, not ds's.

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 01-Mar-13 19:20:15

Evening all.

Good school news it seems.

DD has sutpassed hersrlf...

On sunday 2 of her friends weren't at church. Both mums ssid 'oh, they are revising for their science mocks this week'.

Me: 'DD why have you not done any revision?'

DD: 'I don't have the revision guide'.

Me: 'I gave you money for that before christmas'.

DD: 'I bought jeans instead'.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHH.

She got a G.

Bloody bloody infuriating child.

I'm working nights. Again.

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 01-Mar-13 19:21:49

Slow typing.

Sign - well done! And poor DH.

signandsmile Fri 01-Mar-13 19:21:54

thanks guys... I know he is struggling with it, altho as he groaned with pain over dinner ds said 'i get you a glass of water daddy', and then later when dh was led on the floor after another fall said 'i pray for you daddy, Lord make daddy pain go away, amen' (had both dh and I all teary eyed...

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 19:22:48

Oh dear, Taggie. Thank goodness it was a mock? Hoping it wasn't a module...

SallyBear Fri 01-Mar-13 19:23:13

Taggie that sounds like my twins! Drives me demented!

Sign sorry about your DH. That's tough.

Hazey enjoy the wine, after having four kids at home its a prerequisite. grin

hazeyjane Fri 01-Mar-13 19:26:21

Sign, that is so lovely. Very hard for all of you.

BaggyKnickers Fri 01-Mar-13 19:26:47

Ellenjane I've been fighting a lot iykwim wink
I'll stop name-changing soon and stick with one but just have to get a few more 'difficulties' out of the way.

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 01-Mar-13 19:28:04

Just a mock.

I sudpect it might be deliberate so she has to do the science diploma rather than the 3 separate ones.

I am ver cross.

hazeyjane Fri 01-Mar-13 19:29:04

Sallybear - taking all of them to Waitrose cafe for babycinos (how mumsnet do I sound!) has aged me by about 10 years, one woman asked me if they were triplets!!!

SallyBear Fri 01-Mar-13 19:46:00

Hahaha! Hazey - Brave woman. I find McDs bad enough for ice cream! And I am used to four!!

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 01-Mar-13 19:48:25

Moose and Ellen good news about schools.

Sign sorry about DH that's hard. Well done on the assignments.

Polter glad the nature thing is working out. Good luck with the SA.

Hazey good that Ds is a bit better. Three six year olds ouch.

Sally that sounds a really difficult decision to make.

Nothing major here. Ds got his interview date for 6th form. I'm not sure how important it is or if it is a formality and getting in really depends on GCSE results. It is a month away but I am quite nervous as it is the first time he will have to do anything like this on his own.
Dd has been in the school production this week. She surprised everyone but being a very effective grumpy housekeeper (Mabel in Fantastic Mr Fox). She is normally very quite and restrained.

Taggie the mock result might be a wake up call. My Ds's bad results at the end of yr 10 convinced that he did need to use the scribe after all.

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 19:57:08

Well done NoHaudin's dd and early good luck for ds thanks

Good luck with the SA Polter

Sign sorry about DH. Hope you get a workable plan.

Ah great news about schools for lots of us.

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 19:59:49

Taggie hoping dd can get it together for the real exams, like NoHaudin says this might be a lesson learned for her

Moose Hope you get to the bottom of the illness quickly.

Good luck with the redidential baggie

Taggie I expect your dd will end up okay tbh. She sounds like when she applies herself she can pull it off.

marchduck Fri 01-Mar-13 20:01:44

Hello everyone, I'm glad it's Friday, and the first day of spring as well - over here anyway!
DD seems to be initiating speech a bit more, which is great. She was watching TV earlier, and an advert came on featuring a cute baby. She said "Mummy buy a baby please". Not a chance of another baby in this house though!
Hope you all have a good weekend.

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 20:02:07

Thanks Star it is highly unlikely they'll agree to SA and I don't think I have the knowledge or time to take it further. Ds's needs should be easily met under SA+ hmm

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 20:03:30

Well done marchduckling that's fab grin

BeeMom Fri 01-Mar-13 20:13:42

By the time I can actually sit down and recap the week, you have all tucked into your warm beds and started snoring (I know - I am a comedian).

Long week - next week will be long too. I am holding a stall at a crafts show for the next 2 days, so I will likely be up all night tonight getting things ready. On the bright side - this means that I am going to have 2 6 hour periods without children OR DH. Even if I don't earn a cent, it'll be SO worth it grin

Hi everyone smile

My news is that I've been accepted onto the Prince's Trust Team programme in my area, and have had the induction week this past week.

I am making friends! Which for me is a big, big thing. I have very low self esteem and confidence but everyone is so lovely and the friendships are happening smile

Also, we did a blindfolded walk on our one night residential, (I hate being blindfolded - makes me think "what if, for some reason, I lose all my sight?") and this included being guided in a big line as a group, and individually round an obstacle course that included 2 rope bridges, of various types.

I normally fall off rope bridges, I didn't that time smile My balance isn't a shocking as I thought, then smile

Got a one WEEK residential next week, where I'll have to deal with my fear of heights as we'll be doing climbing, abseiling etc.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 20:44:59

Ooh, can I buy a baby? grin

Nohaudin, 6th form interview on his own!

BeeMom, family free time by choice sounds great.

Hi Lollipop! Prince's Trust thing sounds great. Hope you make some lovely friends.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 01-Mar-13 20:46:24

Sounds like a good if challenging programme Lollipop.

BeeMom any excuse eh? But seriously I hope you do make some profit too.

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 20:47:58

Wow Lollipop, you are one brave lady! Well done!

Bee, enjoy your child and dh free days and here's hoping you sell loads of your lovely crafts as well. (My ds is still telling everyone about your Minecraft cake! grin)

lougle Fri 01-Mar-13 20:54:23

Glad to hear everyone's news.

I wanted to share something lovely that DD1's school did smile

One of the boys in DD1's class had his birthday today. He has ASD. His Mum and Dad approached the school and said that they felt it was very important that X celebrated his birthday on the day. They offered to pay for his class to go bowling and have lunch.

The school wrote to us to ask permission to take the children out, stressing that risk assessments and dietary needs would be met and that it would be staffed like any other school trip.

So, DD1's class went on the minibus to the next town, went bowling, had lunch and party games and then returned to school.

Isn't that fabulous? Truly 'getting' that the whole class would benefit from the experience, but most of all that this young man would understand that today was his birthday.

<That's where DD1's ill-fated balloon originated, may it Rest In Peace>

Ellenora5 Fri 01-Mar-13 20:54:48

Hi all can I join in, all the good news I'm reading here is brill, and I'm sorry to read to some not good news, hope you are all holding up ok....now about this sharing chocolate business, I have none, but I can do you a few caramel and strawberry bonbons, liquorice allsorts, and jelly beans, or!!!!!!!!!!!! a beer, ah well it is friday smile, my news is ds somehow managed to join the school choir, seriously not a note in his head, but hey who cares, school has agreed for ed physc to see him again as it's been a few years and after 11 operations a new consultant has agreed to take him on after his own consutltant mysteriously disappeard.

Ellenora5 Fri 01-Mar-13 20:56:41

oh dear, sorry for the bad spelling

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 21:04:23

Lougle, that is amazing. What a fantastic school!

Hello Ellenora5, <passes some precious caramels, plus some mini-eggs I'd forgotten I had> I lurve caramel bonbons, but not as much as the pink ones with the liquorice/aniseedy middles <drools a little blush>. I do have some jelly beans as well, but they're ds1's and I daren't hand them out, not least of all because he has to use them to bake cakes with for his homework - don't ask!

Fantastic that your ds has joined the choir. Ds1 joined the boys' choir this year and loves it. I don't think any of them can sing a note, but the teacher chooses current songs and retro rock for them to sing and they love belting the all out. Went to an assembly to see them a few weeks back and they murdered Skyfall - it was fanbloodytastic! grin

Ellenora5 Fri 01-Mar-13 21:10:46

Haha, that sounds brill moosemama, hope his choir goes the same way, he told me today that there are.......wait for it.....Girls in it aswell!!!, I said imagine that, huh what is the world coming too, next they will be looking for the vote, you see I'm daft, I should know by now not to say things like that to a kid with aspergers because I'm still explaining what I meant, hence the beer, never heard off bonbons with aniseedy middle, I will be off to ye olde sweete shoppee tomorrow

OmiQueenofTypose Fri 01-Mar-13 21:17:38

Hello, can I join in? My news is that I have finally plucked up the courage to start posting in the SN section. And do the DLA form. These two things were my last bits of denial (or acceptance, rather) about ds's ASD.

Also I get to meet his SALT again and talk to her properly next week. He goes to a specialist ASD school, and is doing really well. But is also being quite challenging at the moment.

I am very tired due to not much sleep last night (a fight outside, not ds waking, for once) so I will probably disappear in a while. But I wanted to say hello, and that you are all lovely. smile

zzzzz Fri 01-Mar-13 21:18:40

Hi all I've read it all but am not retaining much tonight. I am extraordinarily bad at round up posts, but flip up and down with the good and bad news. I am obviously by nature a goldfish!

I have had a weird and exhausting day. I had a meeting with our local NHS SALT and the SALT who does SALT and communication (known in my head as the ASD salty lady blush ), she has also helped design the new diagnostic pathway here in Devon. So for a Mum with a severely language disordered ASDish 7 year old with no dx as yet, one would think quite exciting really.

God it was utterly depressing. There is a 2 year waiting list to access the new diagnostic pathway, which will then take 3+months. There is a TA who has some experience of ASD at the school I like for secondary and a "group" in the school I wouldn't send my nt children too let alone ds, but obviously I would need a statement which would take 6 months ish after dx. There are no groups or clubs nor any therapy outside state schools in the county. The only thing they could suggest barring two general sn charities was a respite centre in a town 20 miles away which might take ds for a day on a regular basis and he could use it like a "club". (Ridiculous)

Came home and dug out some little charcoal burners of my Dads and fed children on satay and vast quantities of rice and bits to recover, all cooked on the kitchen table. Whole house now of course smells of smoke and children are giggling all in one bed. If no one is gong to help us I guess we are going to have a good time doing whatever we like. grin

I need a drink.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 01-Mar-13 21:21:03

Hello Ellenora and Omi and welcome.

Just had to add that Dh has sold the car tonight. He has been unable to drive for more than 5 years due to eye problems. This is a move to his acceptance that the problems are permanent.

lougle Fri 01-Mar-13 21:21:46

Congratulations and welcome, Omi smile

zzzzz sad No words

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 01-Mar-13 21:26:14

Oh zzzzz how depressing. Your meeting I mean the impromtu feast sounds great (and children all in one bed too actually).

Ellenora5 Fri 01-Mar-13 21:26:23

Thanks NoHaudinMaWheest, brill name by the way, sorry to hear about your dh, I'm sure it wasn't easy accepting that, hope he is ok, Hi OmiQueenof Typose, another great name, mine is so boring in comparision, can someone tell me how to post the smileys please, I can do the happy and sad face ones but not the others, thankyou

OmiQueenofTypose Fri 01-Mar-13 21:31:54

Thanks for the nice welcome. smile

zzzzz, the meeting sounds awful. How sad and angry.

Ellenora, all the smileys are listed at the bottom of the page - eg [ angry ], [ blush ], but with no spaces inside the brackets.

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 21:42:00

Hello and welcome Omi. smile

Missed a few upthread I think.

Good luck to your ds for his interview NoHaudin and well done 'Mabel' on her acting debut. smile Sorry dh has had to give up his car, it must be a really hard thing for him to accept.

Marchduck, well done miniduck. All 3 of mine keep asking me to have another baby - shock - no chance!

zzzzz, so sorry your meeting was so depressing. Loving the sound of your indoor BBQ and glad you managed to have a nice evening in spite of it.

Ellenora, if you scroll down to the bottom of the page, under the box you type in to post, there is a list of smileys and emoticons you can use - basically you just type the word for what you want with square brackets around it - eg [ smile ] but without the spaces.

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 21:42:30

Cross posted. blush

OmiQueenofTypose Fri 01-Mar-13 21:45:46

I should have mentioned that I have some lovely Green & Blacks 85% cocoa in the fridge - a square of that will set you buzzing nicely. I am happy to share. smile

OmiQueenofTypose Fri 01-Mar-13 21:46:22

Missed out the most important word: CHOCOLATE.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 01-Mar-13 21:48:24

thanks moose and ellenora. He's been thinking about it for ages then met someone at choir practice tonight who has a second hand car business and was willing to give him something for it. It has been sitting on our drive for so long I thought we would have to pay someone to tow it away. The eye problems developed gradually so he has had time to get used to them but got especially depressed about not being able to drive.

Moose I hope you get to the bottom of Ds's problems soon. In many ways worry is worse than any reality.

zzzzz Fri 01-Mar-13 21:53:08

Hi Omni Welcome!

Thanks all for commiserations. I shall bounce back, it just so depressing. It's not even as though ds is in anyway borderline. He is obviously different and utterly dependent.

He is really flowering this week too wich makes it all so indigestible. He has learnt to express things are going to make him sad, in a "I will cry if you do that" and "that makes me cry" way, that is such a leap for him, and he is insisting on my attention, and pointing out everything he sees. He wants to share and ask and laugh. This is such a change from the boy who cried and hid and had hysterics several times an hour only 6 months ago.

signandsmile Fri 01-Mar-13 22:02:02

sign waves at nohaudin I can empathise with selling the car feelings.. It's just that process of them getting to the point of recognising it..

Hi to the first timers, welcome, we are a very welcoming bunch wink

zzz Bummer of a response from the professionals .. angry

kinkyfuckery Fri 01-Mar-13 22:03:13

I'm not 'known' on these boards, so not sure if I'm welcome to post here or not, but will do anyway.

Haven't had too bad a week with DD1 actually, minimal meltdowns, a lot of early rises and disturbed nights, but possibly one of the best weeks we've had in a while smile

Received her diagnosis report from the psychiatrist at CAMHS on Saturday which - whilst not unexpected - was tough going.

Had a visit from the medical assessment officer from the council a couple of weeks ago, and received a letter today to say they have found us in immediate need of a bigger house as DD1 requires her own bedroom (am currently sharing with 4YO DD2, so 7YO DD1 can have her own room), so I guess there's a waiting game and wondering when to start preparing the kids for a move on the horizon! It's hard to find the balance between too early and too late, isn't it?

moosemama Fri 01-Mar-13 22:09:11

Of course you are welcome to post kinky. smile

Glad you've had a good week with dd. Receiving the dx report is always hard, no matter how much you are expecting it. Make sure you give yourself some time and space to process it.

Good luck with the move.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 01-Mar-13 22:12:26

Welcome kinky. The more the merrier.

Thanks sign. Good luck with the moves towards a wheelchair.

lougle Fri 01-Mar-13 22:13:44

Welcome Kinky smile

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 22:26:09

Nah, fuck off with your kinkyfuckery! wink

hazeyjane Fri 01-Mar-13 22:26:29

Hello Ellenora, omi and kinky smile

Zzzzz that sounds grim, I wish I had some wise words to help, but unfortunately I am too full of cold to do anything other than commiserate. My dd's usually end up sleeping in the same bed, they love it, although inevitably someone ends up falling out!

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Mar-13 22:27:37

Kinky, will you be affected by this new draconian housing benefit ruling on under occupancy?

Ellenora5 Fri 01-Mar-13 22:44:34

Ah thanks ladies, don't know how I didn't cop that, sorry I went off for a bit, was catching up on Stella, by the way, Rob, yummy, yes I bloody well would blush, sorry had to post that so I could practise my smileys grin, ok I'll stop now smile

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 22:58:50

I tried so hard to keep up with everyone's news and now I've lost the plot a bit, so welcome to the newcomers thanks

lougle hope you're feeling better after balloondrama and weegate, well done dd1 for winning the bowling grin

zzzzz that is totally shit sad when you say new dx pathway what is that for? Would ds be able to access more (any?) services if he had an ASD dx? Or would this be purely for his speech/communication difficulties? The indoor barbecue does sound fantastic though envy

zzzzz Fri 01-Mar-13 23:25:32

The pathway leads to dx, weather language, communication, ASD, whatever. It doesn't lead to services because they are all school based. It's total rubbish. I'm disgusted actually. The truth is I probably wouldn't have used the services anyway, because I am a teensy bit prescriptive and picky about who does what with ds, but for there to be nothing! It's criminal. Some of ds's language is still at 18month level, he's 8 years old this month! angry

PolterGoose Fri 01-Mar-13 23:49:34

That is truly awful and very wrong angry

kinkyfuckery Sat 02-Mar-13 00:28:04

Kinky, will you be affected by this new draconian housing benefit ruling on under occupancy?

Quite likely. I will not know for sure until we would apply for housing benefit for the larger home when we have it. Have been advised that it may well be the case that we won't qualify for the full HB, but I'm fortunate enough that I'm confident enough that I'd be able to shuffle finances around to be able to make up the excess - thanfully we live in a fairly low-cost area!

ouryve Sat 02-Mar-13 00:31:13

I shall have to catch up with this thread tomorrow. Been frittering away my evening combining my horticultural and zombie survival skills.blush

PolterGoose Sat 02-Mar-13 00:35:51

ouryve I am intrigued confused

LimboLil Sat 02-Mar-13 10:28:01

Hi joining this v late! Kids didn't get to bed til gone 9. After that I slid into a bubble bath and then cleaned out the guineas! Mad I know but I am so

LimboLil Sat 02-Mar-13 10:32:09

pleased I don't have to this morning. Think I've upset my mil this morning too, she called at 9 to tell me that relative x is coming round from the op in dramatic tones. I had no idea what she was talking about, turns out she phoned last night too but hub hasn't told me! I had to cut her short as hub and ds1 were leaving the house and ds2 was trying to barricade them in! Lol having a coffee in the sofa and trying to start the day again!

LimboLil Sat 02-Mar-13 10:38:27

Ps I have only done a speed read so far but hugs to all esp Salty, that sounds so hard and commiserations to the popped balloon lady you meanie!

LimboLil Sat 02-Mar-13 10:39:28

Salty Gould be Sally as in SallyBear

Handywoman Sat 02-Mar-13 13:54:01

Coming in late here, too.... Rare Friday evening out with other school mums who are lovely, but an odd mix of ladies.... I drank plenty of wine and tried not to feel in a parallel universe. But it's a struggle. Saw Paed on Mon. She was pretty definitive in her understanding of dd2 as ASD. It's what I have been wanting to hear but is not yet official. But nobody in my group of friends 'gets' Autism when it doesnt involve lining up trains and being non verbal or rocking in a corner or 'special talents'. DH seems to be able to carry on like its not happening. Right now I feel pretty isolated, like I am pasting on a smile from inside a goldfish bowl, looking out. Technically I've had a good week. But it just doesn't feel like it. X

ouryve Sat 02-Mar-13 14:27:31

Plants v Zombies! grin

ouryve Sat 02-Mar-13 14:37:25

Well, I've tried to read, but too much going on, with 2 bouncy boys and a headache, to concentrate! Had a trip to IKEA, this morning, andd despite telling him clearly, before we went in, that they had no hot dogs, DS1 still plastered himself on the floor when he saw that there were no hot dogs. He's been getting into a bit of a tizz about all the horsemeat stuff, so this hasn't helped.

Though it's actually been one of the calmer weeks, despite a wobbly start.

I bought a bottle of wine, after getting a much needed haircut, yesterday. First in a week. It was rank. I threw the remains down the sink, this morning.

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