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Tell me something positive and wonderful about your autistic child

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lottytheladybird Sat 26-Jan-13 14:49:56

We have suspected that our 2.5 year old DS1 is autistic for some months now. We had our appointment with the consultant paediatrician yesterday, who said that DS1 does in his opinion have an ASD. DS1 just needs to be seen by the specialist speech & language therapist now before they formally diagnose, which I'm almost certain they will.

Anyway, this whole process is hard, even though a diagnosis won't change anything really. So, please tell me something wonderful about your DC with autism.

PurplePidjin Sat 26-Jan-13 15:03:55

Dniece (7 and on the spectrum) has such an infectious giggle that she elicited ds's first proper smile when he was 6 weeks (he'll be 10 weeks on Monday)

Strongecoffeeismydrug Sat 26-Jan-13 15:16:40

DS gives the best cuddles ever,he has a wonderful infectious smile and no matter how down your feeling you always end up laughing when in his company.

porridgeLover Sat 26-Jan-13 15:22:41

DS is the most empathetic child possible and is the only one of cousins allowed to hold his (severely disabled) 18month old cousin. He is unbelievably gentle with her.

You are very wise to be focusing on the positive...I found diagnosis time very hard in spite of my concerns and questions for ages before it.

Pagwatch Sat 26-Jan-13 15:24:34

Ds2 is 16
He is very severely affected by his asd.
He is very happy. He loves his life, his hobbies and obsessions.
He is not mean, envious or nasty to anyone ever.
People are often affected by him. He is such a lovely, gentle young man that 5 people who have got to know him have taken up jobs working with people with SN citing him as their inspiration to do so.
He can climb like a demon. He goes to a climbing club once a week and is one of the best climbers in his age group in spite of understanding very little language.
He enjoys travel. He loves the beach and is the best company, spending hours watching the waves and enjoying the peace of it all.
He is incredibly loving and gentle. his joy is infectious. Watching him being totally enchanted by something simple, like the Africa programme on tv, or snow, or his swing makes you reevaluate how amazing life is. He makes me truly grateful for the pleasures in life.
He's great really.

moosemama Sat 26-Jan-13 15:40:03

My ds is 10 and has ASD.

Where to begin, he is of course wonderful in so many ways - but then I may be slightly biased. wink

He is so full of life, energy and fun. Tells the absolute worst jokes in the world and finds them hilarious - but you end up laughing too because his smile and laugh are infectious and he loves to make other people laugh.

He is feverently loyal to his friends and family and despite not having the skills to recognise when others are feeling down, can't bear the thought of anyone being sad or upset, so if he is told or shown how others are feeling will do absolutely anything to try and make them happy again.

He writes awesome poetry and sees the beauty in simple things that most of us are too busy to notice. He's the one to notice the frozen cobweb or the light reflecting off water in a colourful pattern.

He is also a staunch defender of wildlife, nature and in particular insects, which isn't always easy in a playground full of girls that have a tendency to scream and stamp on them and boys who oftentimes like to do thinks like pull their wings and legs off.

He has just asked me to tell you that he is also thoroughly loyal to and excellent at Minecraft and Pokemon and that having ASD isn't all bad, because it makes you really good finding out and learning facts. grin

TheAccidentalExhibitionist Sat 26-Jan-13 15:45:22

My DS (9) dances like Jarvis Cocker.
People make space for him on the dance floor and watch in awe. He's just expressing himself through the medium of music [bgrin]

TheAccidentalExhibitionist Sat 26-Jan-13 15:46:10

Blast, no smiley face!

Ineedmorepatience Sat 26-Jan-13 15:54:16

I love my Dd3's enthusiasm for the things that she enjoys. I love her smile and her cuddles.

She makes me laugh, this week she told me that she doesnt like RE at school because she is an "anethetist"grin

I love watching her when she is outdoors in an open space and she always finds a way to occupy herself and never says "I am bored"

She is unique and very precious and her Asd is part of what makes her who she is.

Good lucksmile

coff33pot Sat 26-Jan-13 15:56:28

DS is 7

He is honest even if it gets him in trouble, he is an imp, he is cheeky, inquisitive, loud, makes people smile.

School have said they have learnt a lot more about the world through his eyes than the other way round grin

Hes MINE smile

lottytheladybird Sat 26-Jan-13 16:22:49

Thank you everyone for bringing warmth to my heart.

lottytheladybird Sat 26-Jan-13 16:28:30

...and now a little about my DS1:

He's 2.5 years old and although he can't tell me he loves me, I know he does through his loving cuddles. He's gentle and has a beautiful smile that melts my heart.

The best laugh in the world and the best cuddles. He also can't tell me he loves me but he does show me...

beautifulgirls Sat 26-Jan-13 16:49:10

DD1 is 8 and is mostly a very happy girl. She would spend her life doing jobs for her teachers if she could and is just all round a really lovely soul. I worry for her far more than she worries for herself!

ArthurPewty Sat 26-Jan-13 16:57:53

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WilsonFrickett Sat 26-Jan-13 17:14:09

My DS 7 is the most self-contained person ever, not in an unfriendly way, but he is so at peace with his own world and in his own self. 'Centred' is the only way I can describe him (sorry if a bit woo). But he never sits still. I've never know a person occupy the world in the way my DS does. He's also cuddly, snuggly, and 'totally hilarious' (his words) grin

merlincat Sat 26-Jan-13 17:26:19

My girl is 17, breathtakingly beautiful and plays the piano superbly. She is shy and sensitive and easily taken advantage of because she takes everyone and everything at face value. She will be leaving home within the next two years and the thought terrifies me,not because I think she might not manage but because she is most of the loveliness and goodness in my life and everything would seem so commonplace without her unique perspective. (Soppy old bigger emoticon).

Crawling Sat 26-Jan-13 17:27:13

Dd is very caring and has a very quirky personality she loves spiders.

merlincat Sat 26-Jan-13 17:28:08

I meant bugger

RinkyDinkyDoo Sat 26-Jan-13 18:56:52

My DS is 5, and ASD. He is beautiful, he is so gentle and carefree, he can light up a room when he walks in (his assistant head teacher even wrote that in his school report , so must be true grin) he can make me smile, even when I'm cross/frustrated with him, his giggle is infectious, he is so funny without knowing it, he is very athletic, has grade 5 for trampolining and he loves me-how do I know, because he shows me all the time. He rocks!!!!!!

PolterGoose Sat 26-Jan-13 19:04:53

My ds is 9 and has Aspergers.

He is very very clever and has a vast knowledge of the natural world

When he dies he wants to donate his worldly possessions to wildlife charities

He made me wash and dry a woodlouse I accidentally painted blush

He is an impressive mimic. He narrated an entire documentary in the style of an American palaeontologist grin and can imitate style and genre in his writing

He can be exceptionally kind and thoughtful as well as hilariously funny

I am a better person for having him in my life

DS2 (15) is a pure soul. There is no deceit, he has no desire for one upmanship, he believes everyone is is friend. His own world and obsessions absorb him completely. Everyone who knows him loves him.

He has made our family amazing... his brother and sisters are now all working in special needs because of himsmile

sickofsocalledexperts Sat 26-Jan-13 19:35:44

My 9 year old is the smiliest, happiest, most handsome little fair-haired chubby darling boy. As Pagwatch said, he has none of the less attractive qualities of our species: ego, spite, envy, snobbery, attitude etc. He is loving and happy all the day is long, and every little thing he learns is a huge triumph, given how hard it is for him to learn.

marchduck Sat 26-Jan-13 19:36:35

My DD has just turned four. She said the word daddy and some others at 10 months, then her speech just stopped at 14 months. The first time she said mummy was when she was 2.6, and I cried. I always said to her "I love you" and at 3.1, she said back "I love you too" (modelled from her brother).
We were on the bus yesterday, after her speech therapy; she said to me, for the first time ever, totally unprompted and out of the blue - " Mummy, I love you".Her communication is still very delayed, but it is improving. For so long I never thought she would talk - but she does.
She is fantastic. She lights up a room like nobody else. Hope you will forgive a stealth boast: she is pretty too - blonde hair, dimples. Strangers stop us in the street to comment on her: she doesn't talk to them, but she does smile.
Lotty - thank you for starting this thread, it lovely to hear about the good things about our DCs. All the best to you and your DS.

PurplePidjin Sat 26-Jan-13 19:53:48

I love this thread smile

MareeyaDolores Sat 26-Jan-13 20:41:24

DS is funny, kind, clever and loyal. Very good-looking, talks for England, has several genuine friends, is a pocket-money financial wizard, and has spent most of today finally discovering the joy of proper joint imaginative play with his sister and two friends grin

MareeyaDolores Sat 26-Jan-13 20:42:53

And a diagnosis did change something: us. So we were able to support him to become the amazing young man we're blessed with today.

My dd is another animal lover, she is 10 and won't eat or wear anything made from animals. She checks sweet labels and will go without if they are not vegetarian. She has no agenda, is loyal, clever and so funny that I cry with laughter some days. I never want her to leave home.

DeafLeopard Sat 26-Jan-13 21:13:49

DS is a gentle giant, he is steadfastly loyal, caring, kind and generous. His ASD is so much a part of who he is.

We are going through some teen angst at the mo, but even after a major strop he comes up and gives me a hug and apologises.

He would do anything for anyone - of his own volition he went off in the snow and cleared people's drives for them and collected a list of shopping requirements from all the elderly neighbours - for me to go fetch mind grin

DS is now in his twenties and has ASD and learning difficulties. When he was little we were told that he would most probably never learn to walk, talk, read or write. He can do all of those and more.

He has the loveliest smile, a kind nature, is very cuddly and affectionate and is very good at bringing me cups of tea without being asked. He is very good at choosing interesting presents for family and friends.

He can read timetables and can find his way by train and bus all over the country and safely home again.

He currently has a job and manages to get there on most days and tries to do his best, although he is finding it difficult and a bit stressful.

He has made such huge strides since he was little. We are worried about his future, particularly when we are no longer here, but we also have faith that he will continue to develop and may yet surprise us all!

WilsonFrickett Sun 27-Jan-13 14:08:43

And a diagnosis did change something: us. - That is so true Mareeya

Strongecoffeeismydrug Sun 27-Jan-13 14:22:40

Polter. I really did laugh out loud at washing and drying a wood louse smile

rocket74 Sun 27-Jan-13 15:47:50

DS1 is 3.7 and is the most gorgeous blond hair brown eyed boy. It is like having a pet bear - sometimes he growls but he loves big hugs and kisses and his favourite food is porridge!! He can't tell us he loves us but I know he does. He climbs into our bed for morning cuddles and kisses his baby sister. His smile is out of this world. And he loves wearing hats. grin

PolterGoose Sun 27-Jan-13 15:51:46

Strong honestly, ds was traumatised, I had builders in who had taken down a fence so the whole drama was 'performed' in full view blush

It still makes me laugh to think about it, the dialogue was hilarious grin

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Sun 27-Jan-13 16:19:47

My dd is 4.7 she has autism and amazes me everyday. Whilst there are things that she can't yet do, the things she can she does with such determination and refusal to give up.

She didnt call me mummy until she was 4.3. And even though she can't yet say that she loves me, I know that she does, and even on the hard days I am still overwhelmed that she calls me mummy.

Her autism is part of who she is, and I wouldn't change her for the world.

Inaflap Sun 27-Jan-13 16:27:31

Flying boy is kind and just wants to please people. He has seldom said anythink bad about anyone and if he is doubtful about something, we have come to learn that he is usually right. He is great on the eather so very handy when you want to know what it is going to do. He has a greatbsense of humour and would patiently play with his younger brother for hour when they were younger.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Sun 27-Jan-13 16:47:43

DS2 is gorgeous; completely, unashamedly egotistical; very bouncy and flappy but in an endearing way, despite being 13. He seems to elicit loyalty and compassion in his peers rather than teasing. Despite being completely lacking in empathy himself he seems to bring it out in others. He is either on top of the world or in the depths of despair, but switches from one to the other in seconds, holding no grudges. His laughter has that infectious quality of a much younger child.

I find that he has taught me the meaning of unconditional love, because I love every part of him entirely, even the less attractive parts and even though he will never say he loves me. It's almost a standing joke that he loves no-one. smile

neverputasockinatoaster Sun 27-Jan-13 17:10:35

DS is 8. He is single minded and focused. He is fiercely protective of his little sister. He can write beautifully and has an amazing memory. Whatever he does he does with such intensity.
He sees the best in everyone.
He is loving and funny and rocks my world.

whatkungfuthat Sun 27-Jan-13 17:39:42

My DS1 is 14. He is a kind, gentle giant and has the biggest smile in the world. With the right support and schooling he is studying for a couple of GCSE's, which we didn't think possible at even age 8 when all he did was run around or stare out of the window. He is intense and becomes an expert in whatever interests him at the time (trains, dinosaurs, fish) His best friend is a girl who he met when he was 4 in reception at a mainstream school, her brother has Aspergers and she is brilliant with him, he calls her his Princess.

lottytheladybird Sun 27-Jan-13 22:20:13

I have really really enjoyed reading each and everyone of your posts about your wonderful children. Thank you so much for taking the time to tell me about them.

LegoAcupuncture Sun 27-Jan-13 22:26:57

What a lovely thread.

Ds2 (7) has autism and dyspraxia, he was dxed At 2 1/2. He runs lie Phoebe off friends. Babies seem to love him and always laugh at him regardless of what he is doing. He was the only one who could make my niece laugh for weeks. He is always positive, gives everyone lovely compliments and lightens up my day.

Ds1 is severely autistic, a teenager, non-verbal (although he has a communication aid now which has made a huge difference & he can say loads with that).

He loves surfing, especially when the waves are big, as can be seen here:

If you want to see him in action with his communication aid then have a look at my profile for my blog.

LegoAcupuncture Sun 27-Jan-13 22:47:32

What a lovely video Jimjams. Thank for sharing. Your DS looks so at home on. Surfboard, and his instructor, well, just fab! What a grey relationship they must hve.

LegoAcupuncture Sun 27-Jan-13 22:47:44

Great, not grey.

kampa Mon 28-Jan-13 03:42:55

Thank you for starting this thread! My DS was diagnosed with asd last week and I have been struggling. I really needed this.

My DS is so full of enthusiasm for life and the world around him. "Oh, wow!" is something he says several times a day. He always notices the beauty of the small things.

He is so tidy! He loves cleaning and insists that it is HIS job to do the recycling and the vacuuming - my friends are envious wink

His teachers at school say he does not have empathy because he will do things that are unkind to other children when he gets stressed and then say he doesn't care about their feelings. Today I was feeling very upset and he asked if I was cold and brought me a blanket. I don't think he understands 'feelings', but I believe he is very caring and he does have empathy.

He is so bright and his love for learning is infectious and truly awesome. He can tell you what the capital city is of about 80 different countries. The other day he explained to me what gravity must be like on Pluto (similar to the moon), because it is the same size and mass as the moon and gravity depends on mass.

He's 4.

That was the first time that guy has taken him out (he's the owner of the surf school) - he was knackered after that. Usually there's a little small group of twenty something's that take him out. We've also got a small group from his respite centre - all severely autistic- out surfing regularly last year - will post a couple of videos later

LegoAcupuncture Mon 28-Jan-13 07:52:43

Well it doesn't look like the first time, they look so at ease with each other.

My DS is extremely quirky smile. He's an excellent mimic with a fantastic memory, he will narrate a full book or film including accents and sound effects.

Despite liking a sense of routine he's also very adventurous, and while I used to think I'd be dragging him into doing new things it's actually been the other way around. We are always planning adventures, note the planning though, they are planned to within an inch! grin

He has the biggest loveliest smile, people always comment on it, and he has a love for hats (he has quite a collection all chosen by him), which again are often commented on.

He is extremely honest and trusting, he's not greedy or vindictive, despite the things he struggles with I know that at his core he is a good, decent person.

Oh the surfers are all fab - he knows them all well.

This is on of the first respite centre surf trips - all 5 boys severely autistic, 4 of them pretty much completely non verbal

Again, but on a sunnier day (and ds1 looking very fed up at the lack of swell!)

And this was a while ago now, shortly after ds1 had started surfing regularly. A board's eye view on a sunny bank holiday Monday in August

If anyone wants to take their child surfing, talk to me smile grin

Oh and finally a short video interviewing some of the coaches

NoPinkPlease Mon 28-Jan-13 09:08:04

Saintlyjimjams, thanks for posting those - darn it, another thread on here that made me get something in my eye... grin

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