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please talk to me and help me stop worrying about this

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thriftychic Fri 28-Dec-12 12:08:32

ds2 (13) has been urgently referred to the hospital , i think cancer is suspected and i am terrified.

i took him to the gp with a swelling in his neck , underneath his adams apple. i also thought he may have lost weight but hasnt been weighed for 18 months so not sure if hes just grown upwards iyswim as he has gone very tall and skinny despite eating lots.
he had a blood test to check his thyroid and other stuff. something in the test came back abnormal . he also has a small pea sized lump at the side of his neck . The gp got on to the hospital straight away yesterday and also spoke to another doctor about him. they have just phoned to say he has an appointment at the hospital on monday...so super quick !

i have a terrible gut feeling about this but i am prone to being anxious. i am trying my best to keep calm but my stomach is churning and i am snapping at everyone .
please tell me something positive

ohmeohmy Fri 28-Dec-12 12:22:17

Good that he will be seen quickly. No point speculating until they tell you more. Write down your questions. Possibly post in child health as there are people on here who have been in your shoes. Good luck.

porridgelover Fri 28-Dec-12 12:30:23

I cant pass by without wishing you well and will be thinking of you and your DS.

Child Health may be a good resource as ohmeohmy said. <<hug>>

Badvoc Fri 28-Dec-12 13:49:39

I also can't not post.
I will be thinking of you and ds Monday x

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 28-Dec-12 14:01:17

If it is any sort of lymphoma please be reassured that its a very treatable form of cancer with very high survival rates. But it might be something much less serious. Thinking of you. X

sagandswing Fri 28-Dec-12 14:46:40

Hi hun, Sending you hugs thinking of you both.. A friend of mine had a lump in her throat which turned out to be cancerous, they operated really quickly and it was gone as quickly as it was found. You do not know yet so as easy as it may sound for me keep an open mind x

frizzcat Fri 28-Dec-12 14:47:35

Couldn't go past this either and agree with Ellen - do whatever you need to do to stay calm, will be thinking of you Monday

Strongecoffeeismydrug Fri 28-Dec-12 14:49:53

Sending positive thoughts,let's hope your gut feelings are wrong and it's something simple.
Keep strong .

thriftychic Fri 28-Dec-12 15:07:30

thankyou everyone x

Icedcakeandflower Fri 28-Dec-12 15:10:35

Also sending you positive thoughts. Will think of you on Monday x

TheLightPassenger Fri 28-Dec-12 15:18:50

It's completely understandable that you are incredibly anxious about this, just do what you can to get through till Monday, thoughts with you and your DS.

nostoppingme Fri 28-Dec-12 15:29:42

My thoughts are with you and your DS. I hope he isn't too scared either.

Take care x

kinkyfuckery Fri 28-Dec-12 15:30:58

Thinking of you, keep us updated x

Ineedmorepatience Fri 28-Dec-12 17:21:03

Thinking about you and your Ds.

Be kind to yourselves over the weekend x

Pebbles69 Fri 28-Dec-12 17:29:32

Thinking of you and hoping Mondays appointment goes well x

wrenster Fri 28-Dec-12 17:38:22

Lots of positive thoughts. Lots of choccies are needed to get you through xxxxxx

ilovesprouts Fri 28-Dec-12 18:31:04


lisad123 Fri 28-Dec-12 19:15:03

Sorry your dealing with this, cancers a bitch but a beatable one if that's what it is.
Dd2 had lumps in her lymph nodes last year, the GP sent us straight to hospital and dd2 was very poorly.mthry ran around doing blood tests and sorting scans ect. I knew what they though
T it was as she was having all the tests they had given dh before dx.
However, it was just a very very nasty virus and they kept dd2 in for two days. Took two months for lumps to go down.

Do NOT goggle.

sweetteamum Fri 28-Dec-12 20:29:58

just wanted to send lots of luck from me too .

I don't have any advice but wanted you to know I was thinking of you .

Shayo Sat 29-Dec-12 09:12:19

positive thoughts ,yes i agree with the Do not goggle. Shall be thinking of you .

cornystollenslave Sat 29-Dec-12 13:51:41

sending positive vibes
Hope Monday goes well

supermum98 Sun 30-Dec-12 07:45:14

A friend of mine went through the same thing with her son about the same age and she assumed the lump on his neck with cancer too, but it turned out to be infection related, but everyone moved very quickly and it frightened her. My Dad was a GP and I remember him saying once, 'Rare things are rare' and that's what you've got to think between now and Monday, that it is much more likely to be non-cancerous. Will say a little prayer for you. xxx

thriftychic Sun 30-Dec-12 15:29:05

thankyou , our doc had said he would need to see an endocrinologist but the one we are going to on monday is a peadiatrician at childrens outpatients . i assume it was just the quickest they could get him to .

pannetone Mon 31-Dec-12 08:58:39

Saying a prayer for you today. X

porridgelover Mon 31-Dec-12 10:11:44

Kind thoughts for today. thanks

Ineedmorepatience Mon 31-Dec-12 11:10:35

Good luck for today thrifty

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Mon 31-Dec-12 11:11:33

Thinking of you today, Thrifty. (((hugs)))

frizzcat Mon 31-Dec-12 11:30:19

Fingers crossed thrifty x

troutsprout Mon 31-Dec-12 11:46:40

Hoping it goes well for you today xx

Walter4 Mon 31-Dec-12 13:45:27

Thinking if you , hope things go well and you can relax this evening smile

Handywoman Mon 31-Dec-12 13:50:30

Thinking of you, thrifty. Good luck for today.

steelev48 Mon 31-Dec-12 14:32:40

Wishing you the very best for today. By the way, one of the paediatricians I have known since my son was born turns out to also be an endocrinologist, so that may well be the case for you too.

Anyway, I hope it goes well and will chekcing back for an update.

perceptionInaPearTree Mon 31-Dec-12 14:41:59

thinking of you here too xx

lisad123everybodydancenow Mon 31-Dec-12 17:16:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 01-Jan-13 12:55:32

Hi Thrifty. Hope it went well yesterday. X

Naelith Tue 01-Jan-13 13:09:08

My dd had a lump just above her Adam's apple at age 11 and doctors thought cancer, it turned out to be a thyroglossal cyst which was removed with surgery. Just wanted to reassure you it may be something else that's easily treatable xxxx hope your appointment goes well xxx

blondefriend Tue 01-Jan-13 13:10:46

How did it go? x

Ineedmorepatience Tue 01-Jan-13 15:08:02

Hope you are ok thrifty

wasuup3000 Tue 01-Jan-13 15:27:45

Thinking of you - my brother had the same as Naeliths dd when he was young. Fingers and Toes crossed for you all.

thriftychic Wed 02-Jan-13 21:51:30

hi ,
thankyou so much everyone for all the good wishes . i am so relieved and happy to report that there doesnt seem to be anything seriously wrong with ds2 .
i couldnt fault them at the hospital yesterday they were brilliant , the doctor could feel and see the apparent swelling at the front and the lymph node at the side of his neck and was a bit perplexed by it , got another doctors opinion and then the lovely nurse took us to the ultrasound department whilst he was scanned . they found no tumours or anything , they could see the lymph node was up but said that sometimes that just happens , should go down soon and probably the prominant sticky out bit under his adams apple must just be how he is , that because hes 13 , very skinny and changing rapidly , its become noticable . they have done another blood test to be safe aswell.
i cant tell you how happy i was in that ultrasound room ! i really thought the worst especially after the look on the face of my gp when he had been examining ds2 . i have never been so worried before .
so it just goes to show that quirky things can all point to the worst and be absolutely nothing !
thanks once again everyone smile

Ineedmorepatience Wed 02-Jan-13 22:19:09

So happy for you thrifty smile

Handywoman Wed 02-Jan-13 22:23:11

Absolutely brilliant, thtifty, what a relief.


pannetone Wed 02-Jan-13 23:12:14

So pleased to read your update thrifty smile

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 02-Jan-13 23:18:16

That's brilliant! Thank you for updating us, was getting worried but not as worried as you, I guess. smile

porridgelover Wed 02-Jan-13 23:27:51

Glad to hear that grin.

frizzcat Wed 02-Jan-13 23:41:55

Great news!

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