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Dd3's visual shower timetable, will it work?? Watch this space :-)

(30 Posts)
Ineedpigsinblankets Mon 24-Dec-12 09:43:17

Ok, I made the visual timetable for getting Dd3 in the shower. I gave it her 5 mins ago with some blutak on the back and said you can stick it on the wall in the bathroom and tick each step off as you have done it.

So far she hasnt moved off our bed and is watching videos on Dp's phone.

Ineedpigsinblankets Mon 24-Dec-12 09:47:39

Bloody hell, she has gone in the bathroom and stuck it on the wall, now she is looking for clothes!!!

This is brilliant, why didnt I do this 6 months ago when all this started kicking off??

Ineedpigsinblankets Mon 24-Dec-12 09:55:47

Yay, yay, yay gringringrin

Dd3 is in the shower, it worked. She didnt moan, cry or roll on the floor.

She just took the timetable and went. I am gobsmacked.

Thankyou, to the people who suggested it and long may it continue.

A good start to christmasgrin

zzzzz Mon 24-Dec-12 09:57:21

grin

Ineedpigsinblankets Mon 24-Dec-12 10:05:24

Lol, she is outgrin

Ok so it was the fastest shower ever but hey at least it was stress free grin

I am going to stop now before I start sounding pathetic!!

PolterGoose Mon 24-Dec-12 10:24:55

I love visuals too grin

It should be mandatory that when you have a child with an ASD, ADHD, PDA etc that you get a trampoline, a laminator and sticky backed Velcro smile

Ineedpigsinblankets Mon 24-Dec-12 10:32:33

Hear, hear to that polter.

We have all of thosegrin

Also like gymballs for days when the tramp is too wet.

Although we do have an ornament free housegrin

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Mon 24-Dec-12 12:03:20

A clean start to Christmas, then? Now to get my NT teen to have a shower. grin

Ineedpigsinblankets Mon 24-Dec-12 12:34:06

grin ellen

Strongecoffeeismydrug Mon 24-Dec-12 13:18:37

You've inspired me smile I'm going to make one for DS about getting in the bath.

Strongecoffeeismydrug Tue 25-Dec-12 12:15:00

Wow I made visuals for the bath (a rough copy) and DS went in and even put shampoo on his hair.
That's the first time in 2 years he's bathed without tears smile
I'm going to get the laminator out after the festive season and do lots of visuals smile

Ineedpigsinblankets Tue 25-Dec-12 16:46:25

Great news strong, I am so happy, my lamination will be going bonkers later in the weekgrin

Ineedpigsinblankets Tue 25-Dec-12 16:48:19

Lol, laminator!!
New tablet for Xmas, why are key pads all so different??

Ineedmorepatience Wed 02-Jan-13 12:49:26

Hi all, just wanted to let you know, it is still working.

Dd3 showered, washed her hair, dried and dressed herself and hung up her towels afterwards!!!

All without any moaning, yay grin

Gave her loads of praise which was grerted by a "Dont be stupid mother" face.

Three cheers for visual timetables grin

sazale Wed 02-Jan-13 14:19:43

I'm gonna give this a try with dd13.

We're reluctant with timetables as it can make things worse due to her demand avoidance but sometimes they work. She won't have a shower/bath at all so it can't get any worse tbh!

I need to go buy me a laminator.

porridgelover Wed 02-Jan-13 15:47:19

I so need to buy a laminator!
Very inspiring ineedspigs.

Ineedmorepatience Wed 02-Jan-13 17:58:56

It was you lot who inspired me porridge.

I had spent months in a ridiculous stand off with her which I obviously needed to take control of.

Bearing in mind she is actually able to shower herself on her terms ie, when we are away camping.

I am just glad I asked the question because the visual timetable was obviously just what we needed.

I have given my self a little pat on the back thoughgrin

porridgelover Fri 04-Jan-13 14:52:59

BUMP

Ineed can I ask, which laminator do you have?

Inspired by you, I am looking at this one.
Is that too cheap and cheerful? I don't mind spending a bit more if it's something that will be used often (need to do lots of new schedules for 2013!)

PolterGoose Fri 04-Jan-13 17:19:40

Porridge, that looks like the big version of ours, mine was a tenner in a Smith's sale, it has been going strong for a few years now. It is worth spending extra on decent thickness pouch things though and getting a range of sizes. I look for them in bargain bins.

Ineedmorepatience Fri 04-Jan-13 17:43:03

I have an ancient laminator which only takes A4 sheets. I use Lidl pouches they seem fine.

I am sure that one will be ok, we have an Asda one at work which doesnt like heating up. We use tesco value pouches at work which are abit flimsy but do the job.

Happy laminatinggrin

porridgelover Fri 04-Jan-13 18:07:45

Thanks for replying. Got an Amazon voucher for Christmas so thought this would be perfect (it's that or pillowssmile).

So I dont need an A3 version then; is that overdoing it? I suspect it's the type of thing that I will fall in love with for 3 months, then neglect it badly thereafter grin.

Ineedmorepatience Fri 04-Jan-13 18:17:10

I dont think you need an A3 one and the pouches are more expensive and may not be quite as readily available.

Why not go A4 and have a little treat to go with it grin

porridgelover Fri 04-Jan-13 19:39:45

Oh lovely. Thanks. I may get one of these. As I am so strong and all. grin

Thanks for the advice.

Ineedmorepatience Fri 04-Jan-13 19:55:34

How funny grin I want onegrin

sazale Fri 04-Jan-13 22:29:29

Ineedmorepatience, can I ask what you wrote on it? Thanks

Ineedmorepatience Fri 04-Jan-13 22:44:19

I did each small step so :

Go in bathroom,
Get towels ready,
Take off clothes,
Turn on shower [I preset the temp for her]
Get in shower and wash hair and body.
Get out and get and get dry.
Get dressed,
Hang up towels.
Well done you are finishedgrin

It did seem slightly patronising but she was sitting with me when I typed it out and she was happy with it.
She seems to like it broken down into tiny steps because she struggles to remember too many instructions at once.

Good lucksmile

sazale Fri 04-Jan-13 22:54:09

Thanks chuck.

My dd has sequencing difficulties so she benefits from step by step instructions.

I just need to figure out how to stop her using all the shower gel and shampoo in one go ha ha!

Ineedmorepatience Fri 04-Jan-13 22:59:50

Oh I can solve that one for you too, get some travel sized bottles and just put enough in for a couple of showers or even just one go.
Saves a fortune in shampoo, Dd3 used to clean the shower with Dd2's expensive shampoo, LOL.

Serves her right for leaving it lying aroundgrin

sazale Fri 04-Jan-13 23:10:52

Ha ha! I had thought about doing that so glad to hear it works, you've gotta love em smile

Ineedmorepatience Fri 04-Jan-13 23:18:57

Oh yep, the lucky thing about Dd3 being number 3 is that the others have already tried every trick in the book so even with her ASD she doesnt often manage to catch me out.

Shame really cos she tries really hard, LOL, bless hergrin

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