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Well, it's Friday *wearily waves flag and hoots party blower*

(62 Posts)
ouryve Fri 23-Nov-12 16:23:12

DS2 started the week with a bug and DS1's finished the week with one. Had to call DH home from work to scrape DS1 off the pavement again, last night - only this time he parked the car at home and made him walk. After an hour standing out in the wind, DS2 and I just sobbed together when we got home.

I did a beginner's Makaton course earlier, this week. Very intensive and good fun. I feel a lot more confident with using some signs with DS2, now, though, and reading the course books seems to have cured DS1 of his Disapproval. He no longer yells at me for signing. (I'm still not allowed to refer to DS2 in the 3rd person when I'm talking to him, talk to him in a "high voice," say "all gone" or myriad other things, though - once less thing to get shouted at for still aint bad)

Learning70 Fri 23-Nov-12 16:27:18

Baileys all the way for me tonight. Some very dodgy moments with school this week. Proud of myself for holding it together and keeping some dignity. Pizza would be good tonight too!

Ineedalife Fri 23-Nov-12 16:31:19

We have had quite a quiet week.

Dd3 is tired and still struggling with her literacy teacher and the bonkers homework.

She is going to an activity day tomorrow, my friends Dd is going with her as a buddy. This is a first for Dd3, usually i go with her or a close friend so fingers crossed. The lady running the day is fab and knows Dd3 well so she should be fine.

I am still struggling at work and have had to face the reality that we may have to exclude one of my Key group children of we cant modify his behaviour, this is something we have never done before and it goes against the grain but we have to ensure the safety of the other childrensad

Hope everyone else is oksmile

SallyBear Fri 23-Nov-12 16:40:26

DD has spent all week at home with a chest infection. Fourth one this year, so not good. I think that the prophylaxis antibiotics are starting to become resistant. Bugger. Just back from GOSH where we saw her max fax surgeon. Not the surgery we were planning but a rebuild of both her joints on her jaw. At least no screws to turn for two weeks this time.
DS1 had his colour overlays picked last night and then forgot to take them to school. I can see this brave new world of Dyslexia will take some adjustment for all of us!
Grateful that we didn't get flooded or caught in strong winds. Hope that you all managed to keep dry. More to come this weekend apparently!
Too early for wine, but I have a bottle chilling ready for once the DC are safely upstairs. smile

Lougle Fri 23-Nov-12 16:42:56

Well DD2 has done 3 days at school. She said that she asked her teacher to go home yesterday, but her teacher said 'no you can't.' When I asked the teacher, she said 'no, DD2 said she missed Mummy.' I think it's that 'theory of mind' business...DD2 knew she wanted to go home, so she thought her teacher would know.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 23-Nov-12 16:46:01

Pass me a bucket of wine and a straw and I will sit quietly in the corner.

Fuck of a week. Getting fed up with EOTAS tutors in the house and nagging me. DS1 is displaying signs of increasing anxiety in multiple ways - none of them good. Report from SALT team leader called in by the school for DS2 following multiple assessments and observations is Speech, Language and Communication Need - not a diagnosis but identification of primary need for statementing purposes sad. I feel I have overlooked him with all the crap surrounding DS1 sad - I need a 'guilt' emoticon.

Hope at least some of you have had a good week smile

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 23-Nov-12 16:49:53

Oh and read my threads on whether expected progress is less for SEN kids and also is this discriminatory. At least I can obsess about this injustice to get a break from obsessing about my boys.


Been quiet here this week on the western school front.

DH told me that he has to go on a business trip abroad in January for a week - a PITA all round really particularly if the weather at that time of year was as bad as it was here last year. I don't receive much, if any, wider support from family besides which last time the weather was too bad for anyone to safely visit. I felt very alone that week. It was warmer in N America than here!. Note to self - do ask him to leave me easy access to the spade!.

One of the relations who I actually think an awful lot of (and that is not many of them) is looking at having open heart surgery if fit enough.

Its only 4 weeks now till the end of term. Will be glad to be away for Christmas all told!.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 23-Nov-12 17:05:25

Sorry to be even more depressing but my cousin died on Tuesday - kidney failure following a paracetamol overdose. Like I said, fuck of a week and I don't care if it is too early for my ready chilled wine.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 23-Nov-12 17:12:18

Sounds like a bit of a mixed week for you all. wine already opened here.
<passes bucket to Keepon>

Took DS2 to the doctor on Tuesday for another chest infection. They are now talking about asthma. So he's on blue inhaler, brown inhaler, steroid tablets and antibiotics. All of which had to passed on to dickhead this weekend along with copious notes.

Dickhead has bought a puppy with his OW. hmm He used to hate dogs. I just hope DS2's asthma isn't triggered by pet dander like mine is...

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 23-Nov-12 17:13:26

Oh, crossed with you, KeepOn. sad That's just terrible.

lisad123 Fri 23-Nov-12 17:15:05

this week has been the sick of sickness. I havent lef tthe house apart from 3 school runs since saturday. Had a nasty flu bug and when i started to feel better dd1 came down with it.
I have been impressed with her school who met her at the door (normally they are collected from playground by teacher) knowing time off means struggling to resettle, texts to tell her what is happening incase shes back and there are changes.

I have applied for a new job!! i finally feel like the girls are settled well enough for me to take on more than my current 3 hours a week.

DD2 got in trouble with the head for refusing to do as she was told and also she laughed in teachers face blush

I have found the girls a private swim tutor.

we are off to see premier of tinklebell movie in 3d tomorrow smile

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 23-Nov-12 17:16:53

Thanks ellen - one of the reasons for the bucket - sometimes not even a vase will do.

ouryve Fri 23-Nov-12 17:17:02

Sounds like we've all had blah weeks at best sad

I think my Christmas wine stash is going to be further depleted, this evening. May have to buy some more, at this rate.

I'll put a whole case out. next to the tissues and crisps. KeepOn there's some white in there, too. Sounds like you need it sad

I'm off to feed this crowd. Fish feet and oven chips. Friday's culinary adventure.

Handywoman Fri 23-Nov-12 17:19:04

(((Hugs))) KeepOn.... quiet week here... I have been ducking multiple Xmas participatory crap activities at school (keeping school at arms length is my new essential strategy) but the kids don't seem bothered... I almost had a total meltdown about dd1's homework-at-nine-thirty (where have my evenings gone?????????) but otherwise all quiet on the western front. dd2 has been mostly on an even keel, although there is still Brownies to get through... Then it's Thai takeaway (despite being broke) and bottles of Becks for me. Work tomorrow. For a Friday I am surprisingly zen.....

ChristmasTreegles Fri 23-Nov-12 17:19:29

It's been a stressy week here too. DH & I are struggling in our relationship, DH's depression has gotten worse again, DS2 is really struggling with his behaviour (loads more verbal tics or stims and starting to run off/not listen at school) and DS3 has been ill with high fever.

I'm going out for a couple hours tonight, even though everything's up in the air. I feel a bit guilty going out while DS3 is ill, but his temp is low-grade now, and he's had Nurofen. I'm just around the corner, so a 5 minute walk home - DH can ring me if there's a problem after bedtime. It's really the only time I can get out on my own - after DS3 is in bed, and DS2 is ready for bed - as DH cannot cope with them both when they're both awake. I need to get out for a short time, as the stress is mounting up and unbelievable right now.

ChristmasTreegles Fri 23-Nov-12 17:20:43

Although we're putting up the Christmas tree this weekend... and DS2 (and DS3) have finally decided they love eggy bread (after repeated refusals on previous occasions)... so at least a few good things. grin

moosemama Fri 23-Nov-12 17:20:45

<grabs wine, gin, chocolate, cake and anything else that might be on offer> <stuffs the lot down in one go>


Most of you already know how horrible things are at the moment and just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, ds1 came out of school today and collapsed in a sobbing heap into my arms. He had been publicly humiliated and shouted at by the same bloody supply teacher we complained about earlier in the year. A new mini passport was created precisely to stop it happening again - it was there in front of her and yet she still chose to scream 'SHUT UP!' at my ds when he wanted to contribute to the topic and had sat patiently with his hand up being ignored for the whole lesson. All he had said was, "It is relevant" because she was about to change topic and he was really excited to be able to contribute a fact to something they were learning about (which was pretty obscure and unlikely many children would know anything about).

He then sat there trying to hold himself together, but shaking with silent tears falling and she rounded on him saying "ds1, don't be so pathetic, you are year 6 now - don't you think you should have matured by now." He put his hand down and and he told me he could feel his mouth trembling uncontrollably and felt a pain shoot through his body, so he put his hand down and sat there desperately trying to hold it together with a horrible mix of fear, upset and anger, unable to do anything about it.

Then as a final kick in the guts she shouted at him again for sitting in one of the positions he is allowed to sit in (as agreed in his statement).

He said he is so embarrassed and humiliated that he doesn't think he can ever get over it. sad

I have had to lock myself in the kitchen and sob away from him, so he doesn't think he's upset me by telling me. Ended up calling my Mum who's on holiday, as I desperately needed to talk to someone and not only is dh not much help at the moment, he also left his mobile phone at home today. hmm

Since the complaint about the TA and CT on Monday I have been scared to go to the school, have had filthy looks off staff members and failed to deliver a reply slip because I couldn't face going into the office - so I sat there shaking and feeling felt sick knowing I had no choice but to phone again straight away and complain.

SENCO did the usual 'that's totally unacceptable' thing, but then said she couldn't say anymore until they'd spoken to the teacher, but as she's supply that could take a while and the school wouldn't respond until then. This was in response to me starting the conversation by pointing out that they hadn't had the courtesy to get back to me after Monday's complaint, not even an apology - nothing. She tried to tell me the school's response to Monday's complaint was the meeting we are planning - but as it's been planned and organised by me and the head of inclusion it can hardly be the school's response. Not to mention that meeting is not going to tell me what action is being taken to deal with the totally unprofessional behaviour of certain staff members nor is it an apology to us or our son for their treatment of him. angry

She went on and on about how she w/couldn't say anything else on the subject until she's spoken to the teacher involved and how she is rarely in the school so didn't know how long it would be and they needed both sides etc. To which I pointed out that, as it was a public humiliation, there are actually a class full of witnesses to choose from, so they could easily verify ds's story - not that he would lie - as both of this week's incidents have been related to me verbatim.

I also told her that we cannot continue to send our son to the school and allowing him to be exposed to this sort of thing and it's reaching the point where we will have no choice but to pull him out.

Am starting to calm down now I have typed this out - but am still shaking with anger.

Oh - and dd spent all last night throwing up, a trick she kindly started at the dinner table. Dh was really late home due to the storm and by the time he got back I had neat bleached the whole of the kitchen floor, the table and all the chairs whilst simultaneously soothing her brow and emptying her sick bowl. (Ds1 is quite OCD about germs and took the throwing up badly, so I ended up with him stuck in the bathroom refusing to come out till everything had been bleached. Then of course when it was bleached he was convinced he would burn his feet if he walked on the floor. <sigh>) She's been curled up on the sofa on top of me all day with a raging temperature and needed to be carried, by her limping not very mobile mother to and from the toilet, as well as pushed in the pushchair on the school-runs, so that meant one crutch rather than two and my foot is now agony again.

It also means we might not be going away after all, which might not be a bad thing, as ds1 was crying about that this morning as well, because he doesn't want me to go.

<more wine, more gin, more chocolate etc etc etc>

moosemama Fri 23-Nov-12 17:23:32

Crossposted with everyone - sorry. Will go back and read after the dcs let me have the laptop back after Binweevil time. hmm

Keepon I did just catch sight of your post. I am so sorry, that's really sad. ((hugs))

BeeMom Fri 23-Nov-12 17:46:02

tough week here, and to finish it off perfectly, Bee took a header down the stairs onto a ceramic tile floor this morning. She is OK, but mangled her cute little face.

Guess I should be happy I had already cancelled the family photos we were supposed to have taken today due to a pair of sick DCs.

PolterGoose Fri 23-Nov-12 18:18:20

Honks and (((((hugs))))) all round I think

So many crappy weeks sad

Mine has been mixed. On Monday ds told me that he now really enjoys school swimming as his TA is now teaching him and she is in the pool with him. This was the third weeks of this new arrangement. He doesn't tell me much at all but finally told me he has basically spent 2 years of school swimming lessons being bullied by some vile swim teacher angry So am adding that to my list for when I finally see the teacher and Senco.

On Wednesday we had the awful flooding. I spent some of the day directing traffic and was in shot on the local news which ds thought was fantastic blush 4 of my immediate neighbours were flooded and, whilst I've seen plenty of news footage of flood victims it is really quite heartbreaking to see it for real.

I so hope next week is better for everyone thanks

<waves> I keep missing the Friday night thread.

ouryve Fri 23-Nov-12 18:44:08

Looks like I need to go and order a new case of [wine.]

I've found some chocolate for anyone not on the wine yet - and a good strong brew in my teapot.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 23-Nov-12 18:45:59

Keepon I so sorry about the loss of your cousin - very sad.

And so many others who have had bad weeks Moose you really have had a bucketful this week.
Sally sad about the antibiotics. It is so frustrating when something that was working stops.
Beemom sad about Bee's face. Hope she recovers soon.

Not sure I can lighten the mood. I've been preparing for Ds's AR the one at which 6th form provision is decided. There is nothing like looking through old paperwork for reviving misery and anger. It is also in a mess so I have had to do a lot of sorting. I've been spoiled because his present school have been so good. I just have to phone the head of his unit and it gets sorted.

Main problem this week has been Dd. She has developed severe joint pains as a side effect of taking roccutane for acne. Saw the dermatologist on Monday who took her off it but was a bit brusque with various concerns I had. Saw GP today who prescribed massive doses of paracetamol and ibuprofen and told her to mobilise. She hasn't missed any school and school have made adjustments without any fuss, but she is exhausted (asleep on the sofa as we speak) and is missing out on all her activities - drama, ballet even serving in church as she can't get up steps carrying a candle.

Poltergoose hope you are not in danger of flooding yourselves.

moosemama Fri 23-Nov-12 19:23:12

I have just returned and read the thread, although have to admit to not having retained much.

From what I have retained it sounds like ((hugs)) wine <gin> and chocolate are required extensively this week.

Honestly, what on earth is going on? Everybody I speak to at the moment is having to deal with far too much crap.

I'm with Attila - roll on the Christmas holidays - I could really do with two weeks away from all the school crap around about now.

Off again now, dh is just finishing putting together the fajitas I managed to stand and chop everything for earlier.

I am drinking tonight, but only Ikea's non-alcofrolic mulled stuff. It's er ... more than a tad sweet.

If we do manage to get away this weekend I intend to make up for it big-style tomorrow night!

Really sorry for everyone who has had a rotten week sad

Keepon, I'm sorry about your cousin sad

I'm feeling a bit "meh" this week. Am picking up my new glasses tomorrow, and they're stronger than this pair, so not exactly thrilled my sight has changed (although one eye is slightly improved).

But, I've recently rekindled a childhood hobby - ice skating. I'm learning to figure skate! I have a LOVELY coach, who is very understanding about my sight and modifies her teaching accordingly. I've got a blog about it on the MN bloggers network thingy as well smile We took some videos during my last lesson, so I could see the improvement I've made, even after 3 lessons!

PolterGoose Fri 23-Nov-12 19:41:29

Thank you NoHaudin, we are higher up than our neighbours so should be ok, cellar is at risk but has held out so far...

Hi all. Hugs and honks all round I think. I thought we'd had a rough week until I came on here.....

keeponsadsadsad I'm so sorry for your loss. moose what a week! Rant away. Hope it helps

Took dd to Disney on ice this evening., she was mostly fine until she got over excited at the sight of Peter Pan and made a bolt for the stage blush thankfully she didn't jump the little wall around the rink (probably only because a man told her off for touching it in the intermission and told her it would hurt her) But it was dark so I couldn't see where she'd gone (no low light vision) which was momentarily terrifying.

frizzcat Fri 23-Nov-12 19:48:51

Can I join - offering wine brew and fancy nibbles. I don't actually have any nibbles but a girl can dream
So it sounds like most of us are having shit weeks or semi-shitty weeks
Honks to all, and ninja attack squirrels shall be sent to all and every idiot causing upset.

This week I have dug a trench and I'm firing metaphorical grenades at the Senco and odious OT. I can't go into it much but I do have the support of the HT who seemed genuinely appalled at the situation. Long story short she wants me to send her a formal letter explaining each of my concerns and all the things that have not happened. I know she wants full time senco support in the school and is already canvassing the governors.
But you know when you have your suspicious head and feel like - am II being blindsided here? Am I going to be hung out to dry ?????

Are there any wine swimming pools?

signandsmile Fri 23-Nov-12 20:49:50

what crappy weeks some have been having sad , am sending honks,
unfortunately along with coughs and sniffles...

dh has been away this week, is now back and I have gone down with the local lurgy IYSWIM... altho he is grumpy, so I am a bit meh about his return grin

college work is a towering pile and the house looks like the proverbial bomb has hit it... but all minor stuff compared with the stuff many of you are dealing with.... sad

whatthewhatthebleep Fri 23-Nov-12 20:51:22

HONKING for everyone, large bottles of wine and biggest size bars of galaxy choc all round....

it's like this wild stormy weather is causing all sorts for everyone this week...literally sad...

Ours has been one of silence and stonewalling...where I really was hoping to hear good wonder if things are conspiring against you when every prof involved seems to be avoiding you confused....limboland here... sad angry

So here we are ...DS is all packed and ready, thinking he will be starting his new school....and...we wait...and's just how tense and expectant you feel when the phone rings...and it's mum or someone checking for news...and I have none.....sad

and then there is this weather and threatening to get worse too...pjs and dressing gown...cosy indoors weekend I'm christmas shopping ideas might cheer me up ha!

Might make some cards or something...bored and fed up really

Learning70 Fri 23-Nov-12 20:55:39

So it wasn't only me having a shite week then. I actually sat on the sofa this afternoon in shock from the crapness of it all. Actually sitting here wondering if I pour Baileys into a lollipop mould how long it will take to set?

Learning70 Fri 23-Nov-12 20:59:23

Now have picture of ninja attack squirrels in my head. Prob dont need the baileys ice lolly now, that has put a grin on my face.

PurplePidjin Fri 23-Nov-12 21:25:51

Honk honk honk honk honk honk

I may be able to help lighten the mood - take a peek at my profile smile

<<<<squidges all round>>>>

frizzcat Fri 23-Nov-12 21:30:40

Purple - do you mean that gorgeous little bundle of cute baby?

Pidj - aaaaaaah congratulations! I thought you were due in December?

Lougle Fri 23-Nov-12 21:35:05

Huge congratulations, Pidj

moosemama Fri 23-Nov-12 21:43:46

OOOO Pidj mahoosive congratulations!

C'mon then, tell us everything - weight, name, scary labour story! grin

You need to update your profile to say Pidj is the proud mummy of 1 dc now!

Oh you have made my night. I have a smile on my face for the first time this week. smile

3b1g Fri 23-Nov-12 21:47:20

Keepon: I'm so sorry. The only flowers I can find are thank you ones so here's some cyber-chocolate instead.
Moose: that is awful! I am fuming for your poor DS!
Pidjin: that is lovely. Congratulations!

We've had a hopeful week. DS2 was invited for his first playdate in over two years (play after school and tea with a child four years younger than him who has the same diagnosis). All went well! smile
Let's hope tomorrow is as successful. He has recently joined Scouts (DH is a leader) and tomorrow he will be attempting a 16km competitive hike. I found it hard enough when DS1 did this for the first time; with DS2 I'm having kittens. There are so many ways it could go wrong, most of which would end with him being put off Scouts for good. DH will be in the area but may not be the leader shadowing DS2's team.

Pidjin Congratulations xxxx

ouryve Fri 23-Nov-12 22:09:57

Eeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Baybeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! gringringrin

And I don't like Baileys, but a Baileys ice lolly sounds gooood grin

ouryve Fri 23-Nov-12 22:12:19

And for my better news, the very part time Ed Psych was assessing another child in school, yesterday and saw DS1 screaming and plastered to the floor. He's no longer merely on a waiting list.

Lougle Fri 23-Nov-12 22:13:32

Wow, ouryve!

lisad123 Fri 23-Nov-12 22:13:33

Pidj Congratulations!! Sooo cute, I so want to steal it smile

Lougle Fri 23-Nov-12 22:15:13

Keepon, I just read back a bit. I'm so sorry to see the news of your cousin sad

PurplePidjin Fri 23-Nov-12 22:15:15

Waters went 10pm Saturday, contractions started in the car. All fine so home fto chill. Back in 6am 3 in 10 minutes. Slowed after lunch, dp eventually went home but they kept me because we were nearly at 24 hours since the waters and induction was booked for 7am Monday. Picked up about 2am, had pethidine, slowed again around 5 so transferred to labour ward from mw ward for syntocin.

Raphael was born at 8:06 on Monday 19/11 weighing 6lb2oz grin

ProcrastinatingPanda Fri 23-Nov-12 22:18:03

Evening all, it's been a quiet week here too, the only thing to report is that dp spoke to our solicitor today, he's still fighting for contact with dsd. Solicitor says he can't promise he'll ever get to see her as her disability is so severe that it's going to be a very complicated, long drawn out case sad, but we're not giving up yet.

Ineedalife Fri 23-Nov-12 22:18:54

Aaaahhh, congrats to purple and your DP and welcome to Raphaelsmile

ProcrastinatingPanda Fri 23-Nov-12 22:19:24

Congratulations purple thanks

Relax with one of these wine, unless you're breastfeeding, in which case swap it for an alcohol free glass.

moosemama Fri 23-Nov-12 22:20:21

shock ouryve. Good news that things are going to start moving for him, but what a way for it to happen. sad

Pidj, lovely name. Welcome to the world Raphael, you are very luck to have such a lovely mummy. smile

moosemama Fri 23-Nov-12 22:21:18

<passes Pidj a glass of the Ikea mulled non-alcofrolic stuff>

frizzcat Fri 23-Nov-12 22:22:20

Ah congrats Purple - beautiful name thanks

PurplePidjin Fri 23-Nov-12 22:23:59

<slurps hot chocolate>

I'm breast feeding (literally right now) so feel free to consume my share of wine


Learning70 Fri 23-Nov-12 23:40:09

I didn't get round to the baileys lolly but having baileys in coffee right now. Seriously considering a chilled shot after too. I wish I could cope with drinking, I would do it more often!

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 23-Nov-12 23:42:53

Oh, Pidj! grin Lovely, lovely news. What a little angel. (See what I did there? wink ) Even more broody now. Well done. Xx

Learning70 Fri 23-Nov-12 23:56:02

Cute baby!

pinkorkid Sat 24-Nov-12 00:03:19

Sorry to hear that the last week has been pretty traumatic for many of you. But congratulations to pidj - he is a gorgeous babe.

NoHaudinMaWheest Sat 24-Nov-12 00:41:50

Congratulations Pidjin

PurplePidjin Sat 24-Nov-12 01:47:53

Thanks everyone, i think he's the most incredible thing ever and no one ever had a baby this amazing but it's nice to have outside confirmation wink

grin at Ellen. Most people get to the painter and stop

signandsmile Sat 24-Nov-12 11:15:37

That's fab news purple! really thrilled to hear, congrats to you and dp. grin

zzzzz Sat 24-Nov-12 12:11:29

Just catching up on all the news. I think "challengeing" sums it up. I hope no hangovers this morning.

keepon I am so sorry. sad

pidjin thank you so much for sharing your beautiful son with us. You lucky thing. Welcome to the world little one.

Totally exhausting week here (i think ds1 may be developing tics), but finished off with a really up beat pead appointment for dd3. Consultant is really pleased (I would go as far as today surprised) at her progress. We no longer have to have emergency meds in school or keep them at home. grin. I feel truly happy. Pead says that she has a better than average chance of growing out of it. I keep having to check with Dh that that is what was really said. <pathetic greatful sniffing>

How is it possible for life to be so up and down?

NoHaudinMaWheest Sat 24-Nov-12 12:14:24

zzzzz great news about Dd3.

Obviously not such great news about Ds1.

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