MELTDOWN brewing nicely!!!

And....wishing all my friends on MN a HAPPY CHRISTMAS!!!

We are having a christmas day 'TOTALLY HOME ALONE' this year...and i am looking forward to it...no having to make sure the boys look pleased with 'suprise' gifts...or answer when they are spoken to.

Just me on one setee...DH on the other...and the boys upstairs playing their playstations...

Antisocial...yes.
Aspergers-Friendly...DEFFINITELY!!!!!

Oh, that sounds heavenly mrs f. We have a dd with AS and I would love an 'aspie-friendly' christmas.

Actually, I am determind to do that next year-you have inspired me.
Have a lovely Christmas.

I love the sound of the Forgetful Christmas.

Have a great Christmas, MrsF. xx

Sounds perfect, we are going out for x-mas lunch (to my dads), i'm already panicking that dd1 will be ungrateful, dd2 will climb the furniture and break things, dd1 wont eat anything and complain that there is no pizza, dh will be no help at all. I will be pleased to get back home .

Have a nice x-mas MrsF.

Us too, just dh, dd1, dd2 and me! Plus 2 cats and one elderly rabbit

Happy Christmas, Mrs F

DS2 has just gone off to bed having spent the last few hours trying really really hard to be good, then overloading with the concentration that he's using to be really good.....then ending up anxious/scared/in tears.....so the stress levels are already up high here.....(given that he doesn't actually sleep much, if he falls asleep now he'll probably be up before midnight, expecting it to be morning!!).

He's adamant he only wants 3 presents, because he only asked F Christmas for 3 things, so I'm currently stuck wondering what to do with the (few) others I've got for him!

Good luck everyone else, have a good day tomorrow!

We've done Christmas at home alone for the past couple of years and will be keeping it like that from now on.

All the same, we're glad it's all over!

Survived here, pretty good, although more challenging behaviour towards the evening!

Best bit of the day (and this is going to stick for years in my head!). DS2 has v limited diet, but is expanding it a bit at school (but what he eats at home he won't touch at school and what he tries for school dinner or snack is a no no at home).

He sat next to me for Christmas lunch, desperate to join in - itself incredible that he sat for more than a couple of minutes, very happy and actually ate a slice of turkey, 2 slices of ham and 4 pieces of carrot. Even more of a shock, some even had a bit of gravy on.

I've never seen him eat any of those, despite years of trying! and gravy!!

That has been my best Christmas present

Hope there's been more good days for everyone else

survived here too. Ds1 is being checked for ASD but today turned around and said 'Its like every other year' when DH said it was a special xmas this year as its the last year his brother will be in this country. DS1 says it how is this

DD1 was very very very hyper (adhd) but we had a lovely day. Had a headache by the end of it all tho..

We have had family over and it's been nice but DS2 could have done without his screechy toddler cousin. He ate his Christmas lunch (gf fish fingers and roast potatoes) with one arm wrapped round his head so he could block both ears and still have one hand free to eat He normally enjoys big family meals so it was a shame - felt that he'd missed out. He has taken more notice of presents this year though, which has been lovely to see.

Gravy though! The day DS2 eats a proper roast dinner will see me dancing naked in the streets for joy

hello all!

great to read all your news!

Unfortunately...i've had a stinking cold...so though christmas day itself was lovely...every day since has been a sniveling sneeze of coughs!!!

Plus...boxing day...well...my parents came...and mum commented for the FINAL time on how 'antisocial' DS2 is.
I say 'final time' as i reacted for the FIRST TIME how i felt...which lead to dad offering that they should 'GO HOME' (they'd only been here for 10 mins)....
DH said i was a 'bit over the top' and shouldn't of got so angry.

but i am just so sick and tired of those who i'd hope by now to be just a little understanding....that they are infact as ignorant at the strangers we meet every day who 'don't get' DS2.

I clumsily 'repaired' the evening...and we opened presents...but i just have a feeling that i have made myself very clear...and in doing so...have made my next encounter with my parents...very frosty.

<mrsf snuggles back into her box...where she should have stayed...life was easier then...now she's ventured out...she's been reminded of what the cruel world is like...much better to say cocooned in her box>

I bet you'd have a great time designing and making a real box for yourself, MrsF.

Good on you for telling your mum off for her comments about your lovely ds2. Even if your dh doesn't agree, I think you did the right thing.

Hope your cold disappears asap. xx

Happy New Year Mrs F!

We managed an autie friendly day, and got out of the family bash on Eve (usually go out, but it ws at my sistes v v posh house this year- er no, not with my lot LOL).

Lots of rellies up for the days after- DS4 (Aspie in the making?) tantrummed solidly the whole time.

For next year we have already booked a log cabin in the new forest. Sod it LOL

hi CT!

thing is CT, I've given my parents some pretty 'easy to read' single sheets of paper with words of 1 syllable...all about AS...including a fab thing i found on the net dealing with the 'welcome to holland' as it affects grandparents...you know the way they imagined how having grandchildren would be...and how it actually is.

and they read NONE of it.

in a cafe recently..she enjoyed saying rather loudly...."so all 3 of your boys are registered disabled?"...i say enjoyed...as she hasn't a clue what it means...but she enjoys the looks of sympathy she sees.

i am feeling so bitter.

i also had my brother round on the 27th...plus his wife and 2 girls (age 3 and 1) The same brother and wife that said they were glad to be having girls as "at least they won't be autistic" (Ha bloody ha)
<and watching their dd1 rocking and humming monotonously whilst eating...and repeating the phrase "santa gave me a timmytime playset" every time she hears the word christmas...just made me want to rush out and buy them the book "Girls have Autism Too"

problem i with my parents as i am sure they are AS...so when mum is so blunt (and rude) about her grandchild...she is blissfully unaware...and when she is obsessively talking to me about...or showing me her latest knitting project...instead of getting dressed...or making lunch...or other daily living task...she cannot see it as being anything but interesting...and certainly nothing like ds's obsessively playing games.

she really cannot see anything from anyone elses point of view...and wring this has helped...as it's made me realise that giving her literature about AS as it affects her darling grandchildren is bound to fail....whereas giving her litterature about HER would suceed!!!

(phew...thanks for listening anyone...i have got alot of my chest...and maybe a 'angle' to prise open her closed mind.

I am also going to post in the 'unreasonable thread@ about something i got her for xmas!!!

LOL at girls can't have autism, my DD was dxd at 4yo!! .

MrsF my Mum is like that,though she admits it at least (as do I)...my relationship with her was appalling until emovedhereasthe bluntnessupset me so often, now weso little of each other that wecan value it and let the offences(on both sides I expect) slip away.

Definitely the best thing I did wrt getting on with my family,moving to Wales

yes virgin...living only 10 minute walk away from her does not help! She always expects me to visit ...regardless of my plans...and trying to escape to come home to be here when the boys come out of school / need feeding etc...well...she looks so put out to even think that i may actually have another reason to exist other than her.

grrrrr...i'm still bitter.

i think what really annoys me is that as a child it was more important to her that she had the lastest matching washing up bowl and dishdrainer...than to play with us...

and now she is acting possessive.