OOps, - wrong thread - lol. nuru That's good to hear. Bet you didn't ask for ABA though .

OMG I visited the local surestart centre today and spoke to a very trusted HV who 'investigated' what had happened and told me that even though they told me on the phone that they were coming round for a 'child protection' issue, there is no case open, their 'real' reason was support.

Because it wasn't 'child protection' they had no business saying so, threatening me on the phone, turning up in 40 mins at the drop of a hat or any of that.

So, - I COULD legitimately complain, - however my HV said not to because the stress won't be worth the outcome.

One day.......

IPSEA advised us to have one crack at negotiation with the LEA, to show willing, as it were. We requested a meeting, took along our version of what the statement should look like (having got an electronic copy from the LEA), sat face to face for 2 hours and ended up getting pretty much what we had asked for. I was really shocked!!

Thanks Moondog. I think it's sorted now. At least my plan of action is sorted. It is one to get them off my backs using the least amount of resources on my part.

I'm going to make a note of some of their unprofessional behaviour but not challenge it until I'm in a position of having won all the important battles.

FWIW, I don't particularly have an issue with EP who reported us..... but the SW is a bitch.

I'm so sorry to hear this Starlight.
How unbelievably stressful with all you are going through.

Consider seeing it from their viewpoint though. A professional visits a house where there is a young family under great stress, two small children one of whom has SN.

The professional doesn't report on matters of concern (and £££ notwithstanding, not having a working boiler in November in 2009 is a pretty serious issue). Imagine if something happened.Papers would be full of scandalous reports of professionals 'failing to read the warning signs'.

Wouldn't they?

They don't know you ,it's not personal it is part of the great Covering Their Backs game.

Choose your battles wisely.You need to draw on all your resources, so don't waste them on vengeful action.

Hope this gives you food for thought.

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Unbelievable! I would definitely go for them when the Statement issue is resolved. The SEN system is enough of a travesty without the Council acting like a Police State.

That was sheer intimidation!

They need a nice big smudgy black mark against their record - just like the one the LGO gave my Council for the way they treated me.

WetAugust

Today I spoke to the EP and told her that if she wanted to be helpful she would write to the SEN team and tell them that ABA was the only provision appropriate.

What did she do?

She reported us to Social Services for not having working heating, so ds and Baby Starlight were having a rare nap at the same time and instead of going through my statment I was shouting at a patronising cow from SS who had made an emergency child protection visit.

So I think venegful is putting it very mildly!

I hope that when you finally do get the Statement sorted that you take the time to raise a formal complaint with your Council against their SEN Dept. They have after all issued you with an ilegal statement and do not appear to have been reasonable at all times (reasonable being the key word that all pblic services are supposed to act in accordance with) and their failure to do so has lengthen the process unnexcessarily as you are forced to take them to Tribunal.

And once you have proved to the Council that their actions amounted to maladministration I hope you then go on to report them to the Local Govt Ombudsman and seek compensation for the unnecessary distress they have caused you and the delay your child has experienced in securing adequate support.

I did both and it certainly helped me during those long months of dealing with the fuckwits LEA to know that when I finally got what I wanted from them I would make them pay for all the distress they caused me.

Not that I'm venegful or anything

Thanks. Not confirmed with IPSEA. Hoping for a call tonight.

Can't believe some of the recommendations.

a) X to have a calm learning environment

b) to have an opportunity to use pencils, crayons and scissors

wtf?

Thank god these things are written down eh? That'll show the school and help him catch up with his peers. Might even help him with his autism.

Easy to say but hard for you in the circumstances but please do try to chill out if you can. A Statement that bad is not even worth trying to analyse - it's just too ridiculous for words (as you know).

You're in the best possible hands with IPSEA - that's brilliant news.

Keep strong