Feel the same - ds 3.6 has gdd but hit his milestones (just about) until he was nearly 2 then just seem to really slow down

Dd is now 8 months and she seems nt but i do worry ubt like mysonben i'm trying to enjoy her as like you i'm not having any more.

I can understand your fears as i too watch my dd (14m) like a hawk , her brothers ds1 is 16 y and NT, ds2 is 3y 8m and asd.
But i try not to let the worries take over iykwim? I mean why worry over something that may never happen... and anything can happen in life good or bad.

We noticed ds2 was different quite early on (but never thought of autism), more difficult with lots of crying, not much sleeping (i took him to an osteopath at age 5 months to try to help with his sleeping), he was hard to wean , hated lumps and chewing, at age 16 m he was still having mashed baby food jars and didn't point easily we had to show him and ask him to point! Also at around that age he started to line things up anything he could get his hands on, shoes, tv remotes, mobile phones,pegs... he would watch the tv for ages just staring. Also he was late talking with less than 10 words at 2.

DD is so different , she is proactive in her interactions with us , mimics us , babbles lots of differents sounds , points,...
so what do i worry about ??? That she could suddendly regress! {hmm]

There you go , we are mums and we will worry the description comes with the title .
Take it easy and enjoy your baby coz they grow up too fast!

Well, I've had no problem with him doing the teen thing of sex and drugs and drinking.
Rock and roll I can cope with!
he's just chosen his GCSE options, and the school have let him take all the things he's passionate about rather than insisting he sticks to the 'Normal' route.
I found talking to other people online in a similar situation the best help going. Hope you've been reading the thread on 'You know you've got an sn child when...'
Solidarity and chocolate on the front line can't be beaten.

DS1 3y7 (ASD) and ds2 10m, and am constantly watching, Ds2 just started obsessions with opening and closing doors. He is so very similar to ds1, but more demanding at the same time. Ds1 was the most laid back baby, pretty much always happy, as is this case now, rather i feed him, carry him, do everything for him (still does), like wise did not walk till 17/18m. However, ds2, eats much better, more interest in people, more aware, bit more determined. but still, a long wait, and but loving it 2nd time round. if only i could get the feeling of wanting another out of my head (DH - def not going for it again).

Thanks goblinchild. Its nice to hear from someone who's children are older and have been in the same position as me.

Othermother, thanks so much.

It took my DH and I a long time to decide to have another baby and at one point I really didn't want any more, so I probably now worry a lot more than I need to.

its definitely reassuring to know that out of 5 kids you only have 1 with ASD. If I can ever be of any help to you, please let me know. Same goes for all of you, I will try to help where I can. I am new to this site but am loving it at the mo as I am not a "support group meeting" type of person.

Othermother, thanks so much.

It took my DH and I a long time to decide to have another baby and at one point I really didn't want any more, so I probably now worry a lot more than I need to.

its definitely reassuring to know that out of 5 kids you only have 1 with ASD. If I can ever be of any help to you, please let me know. Same goes for all of you, I will try to help where I can. I am new to this site but am loving it at the mo as I am not a "support group meeting" tupe of person.

>>I know it sounds selfish and I know people will judge me

Not at all cj, I was just curious and because mine is so much older and managing well in mainstream, after a disastrous primary period, I can say that things may get better.
Mine used to hit and roar and generally flip outside the home.
I'd never presume to point a finger and judge, life with a sn child is hard enough without having to fight people who should be on your side.

My DS1 showed his first signs at around 2 when nursery picked up on the fact that he didn't say much (just mumma, dada, nana and bubba), and it sort of just went from there really.

I'm constantly saying to my DH "DS2 is not doing this yet, but DS1 did at this age" silly things like clapping hands etc. I know I shouldn't worry yet, but I suppose its to be expected that I will!

They are both very different though.

cjones, I can totally understand not wanting to go through it all again with another child.
I have 5 kids and the one with asd is my youngest, and his behaviour is so challenging every single day...it really wears me out and gets me down. I love him to bits, but there's only so much I can take. I always say if he'd been my first child don't think i would have had any more...it's too hard.
So I understand your concerns...but the good news is that out of my 5 kids, only one has asd. Hope that gives you hope x