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Tell me about the first true lie your asd child said?
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It seems like asd kids do not lie or learn that they can cover their tracks with a lie later than NT kids. Is this for real?
My son is 12..and has never lied. he can't even manage a useful 'white'one!!
He told the head teacher she had grey hair (she told him his hair was curly so he told her hers was grey!)..
I was away for 4 days with my own class and asked him if he missed me.. 'no Mummy'
He has asd and mod learning diffs.. and no ability to lie at ALL!
I knew what you meant

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I'm pretty sure DS2 knows he's done it - he just doesn't want me to change his nappy.
ooops i meant to say everytime HE 'd done one ! Not "i" !!! He he he...
Spill- gosh i had forgotten the poo thing! My ds would say "no" everytime i'd done one and i could smell it. And when i'd take his pants off and say "what's that then ?" he would have a shocked look on his face saying "how did that get there!"
I was wondering about the lie thing as my friend's little girl (NT) has the same age as ds and she lies fairly often when she knows trouble is brewing, but ds doesn't really usually when he does you can see on his face that he hasn't really understood the question.
G couldn't understand the idea of a lie for years.
When he was KS2, he'd sometimes say 'It wasn't me' but with no hope of being believed, it was more a case of hoping that the magic words would change the situation to a more favourable one.

Sometimes he wasn't lying, what he was saying came from a very specific and narrow viewpoint and he believed what he said was the truth. There was also the issue of perceptions, and how his often differed from the NT one.
Now he's a teen, he occasionally tries to pull a fast one, but his grin gives him away.
He used to practice trying to tell fibs to see if he could fool me. Practising to be like his peers.
He has also learnt the power of saying nothing if he's unsure, rather than tell a truth he knows may upset someone.Then he brings it home for me to interpret for him.
That's when he's firing on all cylinders of course.
He's 9 btw but has been trying it on for some time now.
My ds will quite often pretend to be sick to get sent home from school. It's usually if he has a bit of a sniffle and he will really play it, he used to be very good at convincing his headteacher and getting sent home and then being perfectly ok for the rest of the day - school have got better at sussing when he's faking now though!