Dilemma- WWYD?

[comparethePeachydotcom]

Two questions pleae:

1. ds3's start date at SNU will be from Easter (damN!), his 1-1 should be leaving March 6th: do I leave him at school or pull him? (there's another 1-1 they might use but she tends to let him go out without a coat and its when with he he comes home wet, she really works with a girl with mild verbal dyspraxia- can't say i trust her hugely). OTOH I am not sure how much actual ecuation as DS3 is very bright but will not copoperate with me for writng etc- simply refuses.

1. One school has offed us a place outright and I loved it, gorgeous little village schools; the other, oyur soca called fist choice hasn't bothered to repsond; ythis was dh's favourite school. When we went to see that school the Had was really off with us but the LEA chap said it was unusual for her- if she is like that and doesn't reply to LA ltters within a month am I being panicky in thinking she is not bothered? I've had enough of that for the alst few eyars and want soemwhere he is welcomes. Is that an over reaction?

School 1 (my fave) is further away but LEA havo conformed transporta utomatic due to having 2 statemented kids at different schools.

[TotalChaos]

1. I'ld be tempted to pull him, better for all of you to finish at the old school in a relatively calm manner, rather than to have a gruelling last month.

1. I'ld go for the outright school - maybe there are issues other than the personal that made the head so rude and admin so flakey - but even so that would also ring alarm bells wouldn't it?

[comparethePeachydotcom]

my feelings also tc (dont think head had issue with me as personal tbh- she was late even befoe we met!)

[coppertop]

I agree with TC.

1. If it's do-able I'd take him out when his usual 1-1 leaves.

1. I'd go for the school that has already offered you a place. The other one doesn't sound particularly well organised and if the Head can't be bothered to be nice to visitors then what would she be like with everyone else? Bad day or not I would expect her to manage to be welcoming.

[feelingbetter]

As above
Even if he doesn't comply with his ed at home, its only a few weeks. Better for him to leave current school on good terms, rather than the last month be a complete nightmare for him.

[comparethePeachydotcom]

OK I'm going to tentatively suggest that to dh then (I'm glad tbh- I am certain the school he remembers as School 2 is indeed school 1 iyswim- he's a bit dozy like that and does have meemory problems from his meds)

Will talk to him tonight, just wondered if I am being reactive. 9Me/ Never ).

thre's a mum at school who gave me her number whose son is almost ds3's twin apaprenlty (alsoa ccording to nursery head who ahd them both), they'd be in the class together whish might be nice- never met but he does sound very happy there).

[jenk1]

hiya peach

i think id pull him out too,dont worry too much about him not doing work as its not for long and id send him to your favourite school.

DS has to go in a taxi to his school which is a 15 mins drive away but its worth it cos its the right school.

hope you are all ok,have had a drama today at CAMHS which ill post about after on here,i cant be arsed at the mo typing it,ill wait till ive calmed down!!!!

jen
x

[comparethePeachydotcom]

I shall look for that thread jenk

Have accepted palce at good school; i think the difference is size etc to the current one will be minimum (also reassured that ds1's Heads wife won't be there as at the other school- dont want them ass=ociating ds1 with ds2 tbh, different kids)

school is putting in another 1-1; a as they offered 1-1 cover post but seem to want to 'punish' her by not putting her with ds3; I will pull him the first concern I ahve though.

[TotalChaos]

so after sacking the old 1-1 they have now offered her a different job there ???

[comparethePeachydotcom]

I know

I am soooo glad to be out!

seriously goin to look around for ds4: yes its handy to be across the road and up the hill would've been a nightmare (did you see the pta meeting? they all got snowd in, crashed cars and rescuied by fire engines!!!) but....if ds4 has sn, no way

[jenk1]

og gud im g;ad you have got him in the right school.

[jenk1]

that should have read

Oh Good im glad you have got him in the right school

[comparethePeachydotcom]

Have you been taing typing classes from me Jenk?

[magso]

Could the new snu let Ds3 have some settling in sessions before Easter? Perhaps the first one with his old 1:1 before she is reassigned. If going by transport could he meet the transport staff? We found practicing the route helpful for Ds. They also gave him a book with pictures of his classmates and teachers. This is X. they will be in Ds class, so we could get used to the change. We took picture of the building and the playground too.
I would not worry about missing academic work for a matter of 3 weeks. Perhaps you could work more on life skills whilst at home - it is all important.
Hope all goes well.

[comparethePeachydotcom]

Good avice trhere Magso- thnks.

The 1-1 is going to come ona visit with Dha nd I, we ned to discuss taking ds3. three's lots of 'tricks' you need with him (eg if he says I hot it meansd I am thrirst; X is huriting me emans maybe a little too lousd / making him jump; he can't write an e but will do onre if you ask for a rollercoaster letter........ I reckon the 1-1 could lista lot more)

I'm going to miss her , I am angry that this all happened anyway, ultimately it ended as her reasigning ut only because they reneged on an agreement amde when she was taken on about having a certain week off each year. Bloody Head wanting to assert herself and ds3 being caught up in it.

They're looking at taking 1-1 on as a class assistant next year which is a promotion so ahrdly any issues with her work.