Always said (to myself and family) that something was not quite right with DS1, but was always told I was worrying over nothing. When DS2 was given a working DX of AS when he was 6 it crossed my mind that DS1 might be on spectrum too, but he is so different from DS2 that I dismissed it. However after reading more (books and mumsnet wisdom) I am beginning to wonder again...The story so far...
DS1, emergency C sec for foetal distress but seemed OK. Clingy, fussy baby, v. lively, loved bouncing.
Truly epic tantrums, lots of speech but hard for anyone but me to understand until @4. Had his hearing tested at 4 cos he had to sit right in front of telly with volume turned right up (still does at 10!) and didn't always react to his name or follow verbal instructions well.
V. fidgity. constantly squirming and hanging upside down on sofa. Clumsy and disorganised but very persistant. V rigid about routines and sticking to plans but very disorganised and poor understanding of time. Still not good at sharing and does not respect personal space. Very shouty and intolerant of younger brothers but cannot leave them alone. V. shy and self-concious in public (except when having tantrum when younger). Hates to be alone(scared to be in room by himself and has v. bad vertigo, v. squeamish). Has friends but does struggle with the complexities of friendship and was obbsessed with one boy to the detriment of other relationships for a long time. Difficult at home, but very well behaved at school although teachers have always felt that he underperforms academically (although they never seem to know what to do about it!), his spelling is dreadful, reading pretty good, maths finally starting to improve.
Bites nails, chews clothes and also dribbled a bit until he was @8.
Definitely emotionally immature and lacks empathy to a degree! his needs must always be met or else!
Has lax joints, eats like a horse but v. skinny and had loose bowels for years (so did DS2 but not DS3 the NT one).
I have made him sound awful but I love him and am very proud of how hard he tries at school even if he often drives me mad, he is my PFB!
What do you mums of more than one boy on the spectrum think? DS1 is highly resistant to any tiny hint that he may be a bit like his brother and would be v. unc0-operative to any assesment. Should I speak to DS2's ed-pysch?
I feel I may be able to be more patient with him if he turned out to be on spectrum too.
Sorry about the epic post , have been worrying for years, feels good to write it all down.
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allytjd · 23/06/2008 23:17
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