Nursery-AARRGGHH

[jenk1]

Well i knew it would happen-the gloating.

the head teacher couldnt resist today, i phoned her to tell her dd wont be in for 2 weeks cos she,s having an operation tomorrow.

oh what a shame, you.ll probably find that because shes so happy and settled here she will be constantly asking to come back earlier.

ER........are we talking about the same child, was on the tip of my tongue, the child that cries and says she hates nursery?

but no i kept my mouth shut, im prepared for more surprised PP havent been on the phone crowing either, could do with a firm but polite reply that says sod off-but nicely IYKWIM , anyone any ideas?

[daisy5678]

I personally wouldn't send her to nursery if she's so unhappy there and hates it. No child has to go to nursery, so why not just keep her off until she starts school (unless you work?)

[daisy5678]

Sorry - realised that it sounded a bit curt - just have read so much stuff about how much you dislike the nursery and if she hates it too, why make life more stressful than it needs to be?

[macwoozy]

I think I would be thinking that way too, your dd doesn't have to be in nursery. When my ds first started Reception the Head made it clear to me that ds didn't have to legally start there until several months later, think she was a bit scared of him!!! So I really wouldn't worry about your dd missing nursery if she is so unhappy.

[jenk1]

just worried about how it will look ie we lose the tribunal so pull her out, also it might look like we are doing it cos we are at loggerheads with them over the toilet training.

[daisy5678]

That won't affect anything though. Who cares what they think? If she's less stressed, toilet training might be something she's happier to do anyway!

[macwoozy]

I see where you're coming from but I wouldn't worry about that, you'll never have to face them again anyway, and with the bad feelings going around at your nursery and the stress that she experiences once she's there, I don't see why you can't just pull her out.

[bullet123]

As a last ditch effort have you thought about videoing her behaviour at home so you can say "look, this is how we know she is"?

[jenk1]

yes,have already started videoing her, have videoed a toilet training attempt and shown how she is and have videoed how hyper she gets for the consultant at camhs.

[TotalChaos]

does she get anything out of going to nursery, IIRC she does get good language input from them? Just wondering if it's worth you just grinning and bearing it re:return to nursery, it's just going to be for 4 weeks isn't it till she starts reception?

[Seuss]

1 term and then summer hols is quite a long time not to be going to some kind of pre-school - might just make more probs in September - you've come this far. Do agree tho, if it's making you both really miserable you don't have to go. Video's a good idea - no-one at ds' old school would ever believe he talked at home or did half the things I said he did - wish I'd thought of that!

[jenk1]

yes thats one thing i have to say about them they have really helped her with her language.