To cut a very long story short, DS2 has major problems!
He lost his brother when he was 3 years old and his personality changed. He became moody, aggressive and violent. This has caused major problems with school, he is constantly in detention for fighting, he's been threatened with exclusion and now the head wants me to take him home every lunch time.
This is not practical as DD has DDH and we are struggling with that, she also has other problems and trying to fit in around hospital apmts is difficult.
As well as loosing his brother DS2 lost his grandparents last summer within weeks of each other and he has a disabled baby sister. Me and his dad divorced when DS2 was 2 and he's moved house 3 times!
He's in year 3 now and every report and parents eve has been the same. Accademically, he's top of the class, exceeding national expectations, but for listening skills, behaviour and social developement, he's well below national averages.
Since reception, he has been placed in a 'friendship' group, which is basically a group of 5 boys, all with similar behavioural problems to DS2. Although none of them have been threatened with exclusion.
I have often questioned why these boys with Social developement issues have been taken away from the rest of their peers at lunchtimes... how can they learn to interact and socialise if they are being singled out?
Now the head is asking me to completely remove him from school at lunchtimes because he has thumped two kids this week.
DS2 isn't a nasty child all the time, he seems to have a split personality, he's been under a psychologist - but didn't really get anywhere and in year 1 the teacher was watching him closely to see if there was a trigger for his violent outbursts. She said she saw his facial expression change and he just 'flipped'.
He can be the most gentle, loving, affectionate child one minute but without warning, he can just lash out. He says he wants to be good and doesn't know why he does it. He also has major difficulties in large crowds, he runs around, hiding behind things, he can't walk normally, he almost jumps and skips along. He has very poor concentration and gets very emotional. He actually woke up crying one morning last week but didn't know why.
I just don't know where to turn. The school just seem to want him out the way, rather than try to help him and the GP didn't seem interested when I mentioned it to him.
I just feel like it's all closing in on me, DH works away a lot, DD is in a hip spica and needs a lot of my time and attention, we are facing the possiblilty she may not walk due to other problems and DS2 seems to be getting worse, the school don't want to help - just get rid of him.
Where do I turn????
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LoopyLena · 15/05/2008 17:41
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