I feel horrible, and I hate saying it out loud (although I have done a few times on here because I feel like people should discuss these things iyswim - like not ignoring pnd).
DD - I love her to bits. She is my little girl, my first baby etc. But I don't feel the same bond I do with DS.
I was terrified of having a boy. I had always had this image in my head of two little girls and I couldn't comprehend me with a boy, I know girls, I have been a girl, boys are complete unknowns to me.
DS came, and it took a good couple of months for me to love him as my son rather than my baby (does that make sense?), but then it clicked and I remember that overwhelming sensation of "He is my son".
Fast forward 2 years.
DS is very very cuddly, velcro baby and mummy's boy. Always has been one to be held to sleep, touching me etc. He cries and I cuddle him.
DD on the other hand, possibly an AS thing, possibly just "her" has never been one for cuddles from me (the only person she really snuggles with is my mum). She falls and I pick her up and dust her off, but never that same cuddling her in, mummy can fix anything kind of thing.
I feel like there isn't that loving connection (kind of like loving someone but not being "in love" with them). I went on honeymoon for a week when she was 2 and left her behind, i missed her like crazy and sobbed half the time, but I left her. I would never even think about leaving DS for that long... maybe that is just power of hindsight.
I don't know. I just have this horrible feeling that she is going to grow up feeling like mummy prefers DS
I don't know how to fix this. I love her so much, but I don't know how to show her.
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Different bond with DD and DS - could do with some advice/a back rub...
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Flamesparrow · 23/04/2008 21:21
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