Dd1 is 3.5, and has ASD. She has, for the most part, been an incredibly easy child, even taking into account her ASD. She has had her moments, for sure, but has always given me an easy ride with respect to the huge parenting issues (has always eaten very well, sleeps brilliantly, etc).
Over the last month, however, I have noticed that she has become more controlling with her food. initially, I took it as a good sign - indicating choice and preference (both things we are working on with her generally).
BUT, now we are at a situation where she will eat two mouthfuls of her meal (which is something she likes - I'm not interested at this point in widening her tastes, justgetting her to eat fairly well) and then ask for berries (she loves blueberries and has them as pudding after lunch and tea), or a biscuit, or, currently, a mince pie.
This, I feel, is typical 3 year old behaviour of wanting all the treats and not her meal. My problem lies with not knowing up to what point she is understanding the situation - I have been trying to get her to at least try her meal, then she can have other stuff, and the amount of other stuff is relative to whether she is playing up or not.
If I refuse her the treat, she has a huge tantrum (she is still going at the moment, having got down from the table a good 20 mins ago)
I know she is still hungry, as she is chattering on and on (in between the screams) about food - 'would you like some raisins?' 'more cereal tomorrow' and, more worryingly 'hug after rice' (have NEVER witheld hugs in this way - so not sure if she is manipulating me, or generaliasing from my 'berries after rice')
This is turning into a huge essay, but I'm not sure what to do. Dd has always been a good eater, so am reluctant to give in to her whims, on the basis that if I give her what she wants I might end up creating a very limited eater. However the reverse is of course, also possible - by trying to stand firm I might equally create food battles.
She is, needless to say, not very nice if she's over-hungry...
Any ideas?
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silverfrog · 20/12/2007 17:46
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