DS2 has just turned 18. He has ADHD so has never been out alone, but has just started going out with mates in the last few weeks. He has also got a long-distance girlfriend he met at summer camp, so he is on the phone all the time.
Today we get up to find no sign of him, and a note on the computer to say he's gone out, will go straight to work and needs picking up at 11pm. The cat woke me up at 7am so he must have gone before then. On a school day I'm dragging him out of bed at 8.15.
I rang him to find out what he's playing at. He sounds really shifty, says he told me yesterday he was going out (no he didn't) tells me he's in Canterbury and a voice in the background says "Canterbury?".
DH finds walking maps of London on the pc...
Now added to this he "doesn't have time" to go to any Uni visits for next year because he has to go to work, and "had to work" last night so couldn't go to a family party planned months ago (again didn't say until yesterday).
Bearing in mind that he isn't like a normal 18 year old in mentality. Mentally he is nearer 12. I did hiss at him on the phone that if he is suddenly able to go off alone like a normal person he won't need the DLA we claim for him being unable to do so (which he's counting on for next year) and he sounded suitably chastened.
How do I deal with this when he gets back? Obviously because he's 18 he's got this attitude that he can do what he likes, and legally he can, but turning 18 hasn't made the ADHD go away.
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ADHD teen lying about going out- what to do?
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tallulah · 23/09/2007 13:02
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