HIDE ME - i need to rant about the little tosspot who gave DS concussion!!

[mamazon]

If you are not a SN parent or a sympathiser to the daily traumers of being out in a public park with an SN child please do not read this post.
I fully intend to rant and rave and be completly rude and awful about another child, i will feel bad about it tomorrow but for now it will ease my stress levels.




OK.

Ds is 6. he has HFA so along with the behavioral stuff we have the poor social skills, awful balance and co ordination, low comms etc etc

well today i thought i would go against all my self imposed rules and we went to the park.
serves me right i hear you all cry and yes it does but i just can't help being angry anyway.

we had been at the park for about 15 minutes and although it had a fair few families it wasn't overly busy on the equipment as many of the kids were playing with balls and bikes.
DS decided he wanted to go down the slide so i helped him up teh stairs and held his hand as he slid down...we did this a couple of times and then he said he wanted to try on his own. i was a little nervous but left him to it, and he did it. after a bit of a struggle to get from standing at the top to sitting ready to slide he managed it by himself and he was so thrilled with himself it was lovely.

well ds was so impressed with his new talent that he was quite happily going up and down the slide so i allowed myself to pay DD (2) some attention and was pushing her on the see saw just a few feet from the slide.

whilst i was pushing her a boy of about 10-11 arrived at the park. first he went to the swings and was trying to swing the swing so that it hooked over the bar at the top, then he went to the slide.

at first he arrived just as DS was sliding down and the boy slid down head first barely allowing ds time to get off the bottom.
Ds went back round to slide again, climbed to the top by himself as the boy came charging up behind him, DS was still taking a bit of time to co ordinate himself into sitting down so the boy behind him shouted

"get out the way you retard"
and pushed him out of the way, DS slipped off the side and fell on the floor smacking his head on the wooden border of that tarmac type stuff they have under neath the swing.

my heart was in my mouth.

i ran over to him to see if he was ok and there was already a huge blue bump on the side of his head. DS was crying his eyes out and the boy just laughed and said "gutted"

I thought this lad was on his own but no it turns out his mother was sat on the bench at the side of the park chatting away on a mobile the whole time!

she finally came over (still talking on the mobile) and asked if DS was ok. i said that i didn't know as he had hit his head very hard as it was quite a fall.

her reply was that "you know what boys are like, your son was taking so long XXX got impatient"

trying to hold my tongue i said that my son takes a long time because he is autistic and therefore has very poor balance.

"oh. well XXX wouldn't have known that. its a shame they don't have special parks for kids like that aint it"

to which i replied

"yes your right. children would be much safer if animals like yours were given their own parks to play in!"

picked up the DC (still crying) and went to A&E.
DS was sick 3 times in the car so i was petrified that he had done some real damage.

i was still shaking with anger at this bloody woman though.

it turns out that Ds has concussion and half his head is bruised so he looks like he has been in a fight.

I am fighting the desire to go alone to the park every day for the next week until i find this kid and push him off a swing.


I know, i am evil.

[pooka]

Dcs not SN, but I would have been absolutely raving if this happened to them.God how completely completely awful for you and ds. What an absolute bitch of a mother and what a horrid horrid boy to have pushed your ds.

[thedogsbollox]

Oh ((((hugs))) for you and xxxs for DS1 - I hope he is better soon

Horrible behaviour, but sadly doesn't surprise me at all

[funnypeculiar]

how horrible for you both.
Even ignoring the SN, she felt it was
a) appropriate for an 11 yo to push a 6 yo old out of the way
b) not an issue for her son to push another boy hard enough to give him concussion

FFS.

Is ds ok??

(Bloody god reply though - can't believe you actually managed to say that (as opposed to thinking it 3 hours later, as I would have done)

[luckylady74]

i'm so sorry for your ds and i hope when the bruising has gone that you are pleased you had the presense of mind to reply so brilliantly. i really hope this hasn't put your ds off for ever.

[mamazon]

as i say it serves me right really.
i normally have a rule of not going to parks before 5pm as usually they are empty by then as most people have gone home for tea.

but it was such a lovely day today i thought sod it...lets try.

i think we will most definatly be sticking to the rules from now on.

Must admit i am quite proud of myself for not smacking her one to be honest.
thankfully Ds is happily playing his gameboy. he isn't normally allowed to play for this long but i am really not wanting him to go to sleep so he thinks its great.

[LIZS]

Setting aside her completely ignorant comments for a moment, the fact that she was so unconcerned at her child's role in yours' injury is appalling in itself. Did she even involve her son in the consequences ? You must have been so shocked but at least you had a good ripost. Do hope ds makes a good recovery.

[ChelseaDagger]

I can't respond how I want to because I've been pulled up on MN before about my language. My DS is autistic and I've been in this situation before and wish I had your quick mind - great retort!

Hope DS will be better tomorrow. Resist the urge to go back looking for the boy, tempting as I know it is!

[Blu]

Bloody hell, Mamazon, I am sick and furious and very sad on your behalf.

The boy was bad enough but then for a mother to react like that - horrible.

And so sad after your ds had been doing so well.

I have never been a fan of vigilante action, but if I lived near you (maybe I do!?) I would be wanting to form a group to give this woman very nasty looks every time she sets foot in the park.

How does her boy stand a chance of acting like a decent human being?

[gess]

blimey. If any of my boys had come across this particular specimen I'd have neded up pissed off. Were A&E helpful, I was v. impressed last time I attended with ds1 (severely autistic, we didn't have to wait at all).

I'd probably feel the way you do, but rise above it, he's not worth it. Nor is his stupid mother.

[colditz]

Well done, mamazon, seriously. I would have landed her in hospital and myself in jail. You were the bigger person not to do such a pratty thing, and I seriously admire your restraint.

[edam]

OMG Mamazon, that is outrageous! And you are being very restrained. The boy and his mother begger belief, they really do. Poor all of you.

[edam]

I mean, it's effing assault, isn't it? Bloody woman and her bloody vicious, nasty thug of a child. I'm riled up about it and I wasn't even there!

[Blu]

Yes, he pushed him off the slide - not acceptable behaviour at all - esp an 11 year old pushing a 6 year-old. (11 year-olds seem to push each other a lot - the ones in the school next to my office try to push each other under passing traffic)

[mamazon]

i actually considered that whilst at the hospital (for 5 hours!!) but as we don't know who they are or where they are from we stand absolutly no chance of getting anything done.

its complete crap really.

As i say i will probably regret cursing the boy by tomorrow (well maybe not tomorrow but maybe next week) but for now i find it releiving to imagine him being hit in the face by a big ball or something

[SusanStoHelit]

oh mamazon what a horrible thing to happen!

and on your behalf, what a bitch! (can't really blame the boy with a parent like that can you, 3 guesses where he learned that behaviour

well done on not decking her and giving such a brilliant ripost, can't say i would have been anywhere near as restrained

{{{hugs}}}} and a huge clap on the back

i hope ds is ok

[edam]

Don't blame you, I would too. Culprit is likely to end up in prison anyway at some stage, with that sort of behaviour and parenting, I would have thought.

[Ellbell]

OMG mamazon... that's terrible. Poor ds. I hope he feels better soon.
(Oh, and my dcs don't have SN, but I'm not bloody surprised you need to rant... totally justified imo. And at the mother...]

[2shoesismad]

hope ds is ok.

[mamazon]

he is asleep now. i keep going over ot check he is still breathing.

soemthing tells me i am not gong to get much sleep tonight

[Nikki76]

Hope you don't mind me asking, but what is SN?

Really admire your response to the horrible witch and totally understand how you want to slap the little sh*te that hurt DS!!

[mamazon]

Special Needs.

the bit is because we have ended up having big rowes with people who think we are being horrid to chidlren who dont know better, i just couldnt be bothered with the fall out so posted that first.

[onlyjoking9329]

fuming on your behalf, sadly i have come accross this sort of behaviour too often, hope your DS is able to enjoy the park again.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

Mamazon,

This was shocking behaviour from this waste of space mother and her thuggish child. TBH I think he would have pushed ANY child that happened to be in his way.

I wonder why this older child is in the play area anyway?. I suppose it gave his Mother somewhere to sit so she can talk on her phone. I would argue also that at 10 he's too old to be using slides.

I also believe in the saying, "what goes around comes around". This boy will get his comeuppance one day.

[mrsflowerpot]

OH Mamazon, that's awful. Your poor ds, and poor you. Hope he feels OK today.

I think you're entitled to say whatever you want about the boy and his mum. Horrible horrible woman - words fail me really.