Coping with work and ASD child-how do you do it?

[wooga]

Hi, I've been really struggling to keep it together for a while now and with the warning signs of depression returning I've reluctantly decided that I'll have to leave my longed-for job and go back to boring, low-stress,low-pay stuff.
If I keep going the way I am now I'll be divorced soon.
I loved my job as it was something I had a special interest in - and had a future- but with all the stress I'm getting at home I'm starting to cry easy again and that's no good when you work in a school!
I have to work or we'll lose our home but it was so nice to have an interesting job for once.Sorry, rant over!
How do parents with stresses at home manage to keep 'normal' at work?How can you cope with a demanding ASD child stressed out from holding it in at school all day when you're tired from work?sorry - I'm ranting again....

[Gess]

Can you cut your hours?

I'm hoping to start paid work again this autumn (will find out this week whether I have the first thing I've applied for), and although its full time the hours are completely flexible. I'll probably do quite a bit whilst ds1 is in bed.

I'd be wary about cutting out work as it's the getting out and about (currently studying) doing different stuff that isn't ASD that keeps me sane

[wooga]

I could try to but not sure if it would be practical for the school-other TAs have said they can't cut their hours to how they'd like because of continuity in lesons etc.
I am also dealing with the guilt (and expense) of my 2yr old girl going to childminder - ideally would work pm only and have special 1 to 1 time with her-big brother's very dominating!
I could try asking-won't lose anything.

[wooga]

PS- Good luck with the job you applied for!

[mymatemax]

I agree with gess, its the work thats kept me sane these last 4+ yrs.
It has been tough & there have been times when I've wondered if I am doing the best for myself & the family but make sure consider whats best for you too, not only your dh & dc.
Can you give yourself a break for a couple of weeks (would you Dr sign you off) while you consider all the options.
My boss & I mutually agreed I'd take a demotion with less responsibility & commitment needed from me, but it has given me the flexibility I need to make sure ds2 gets to his appnts etc & I can maintain his routine without me needing to put in the extra hours that my previous post demanded.
Is there the option for you to have any more flexibility in your current job? Can you discuss it with your boss?
Good luck