I have been reading messages on here for many months relating to some of the issues I have with my eldest son, and have finally plucked up the courage to ask for some advice/ guidance/ comfort because I don't know how to cope any more, or how to understand what the problems are. DS is 6, he has a brother of 2, and a new baby expected in May. He has always had behavioural problems, was always the one to bite etc as a toddler, but I kind of put it down to 'toddlerdom'. During reception we had a few more incidents of biting/ fighting/ running out of classes/ explosive temper, but it seemed to be manageable. I was however concerned enough to have an initial assesment with CAHMS who referred him for an autism spectrum diagnosis (no idea when this will happen) and 'anger management'- first session on 22nd March.
From the beginning of Year 1 things have got much worse. He regularly runs out of lessons, lies on the floor until temper abates, fights with other children if they say anything that he can't cope with/ control. Today we had another incident of biting that has resulted with his behaviour being entered on an official register. He keeps on talking about killing himself/ hating us/ death/ everyone hating him. Triggers seem to be competitive sport/ believing people are laughing at him/ not being 'the best' at anything.
On the plus side (ha ha) he is very loving to us and his brother (who is totally 'normal', no behavioural probs at all) when he wants to be. He is exceptionally bright (reading age of 11, very eloquent and numeric). He can be funny and great company, and intensely loyal to the friends he manages to keep. He is also very co-ordinated and athletic.
I don't know where to go from here, I'm feeling intensely depressed and anxious about the arrival of baby no3. I'm worried what the 'official recording' of his behaviour means, and the consequences for his education. He is due to change schools in Year 3 to our catchment primary school, I'm concerned about the implications of a record of behavioural problems on this. I don't know what happens if he gets a SEN, does he have to go to a school with a 'unit' (the only local school I know with one is horrendous). WOuld his brother have to go there then also (as I said he is fine)? I am so worried about everything, but more than anything else I don't know how to make him happy and it is breaking my heart. Any advice from those going through similar would be greatly appreciated, I am at breaking point. Sorry about the ramble, and lack of symbols etc, as I said this is my first time.
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oliandjoesmum · 12/03/2007 20:32
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