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Help!! What do I do............??

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anniebear · 04/03/2007 10:45

I have posted here a few times now asking about swings for children with Special needs

we have thought about getting a double one for a while now (1 NT seat and 1 SN seat)

A few things have put us off, 1, our garden is small and I quite like my garden and plant a lot in it!!!!

2, it will be over £200

My lovely friend has been into the school where Grace attends and Ellie does 2 days a week with a 1-1 and asked the Head about fundraising to get us a swing, which is so lovely and thoughtful of her

I started thinking about it, Its really lovely of my friend to suggest to the school to do fundraising

girls would love a swing BUT ....Its not like I can let my two five year olds just go into the back garden and they will swing themselves!

Grace will, but I know I will have to stand and push Ellie the whole time. So if they want to go on the swings for half an hour, Im there pushing Ellie for half an hour

Also are they going to be looking out at the swing and pestering all the time to go out on them (again, if able to go on their own no probs) But I am now thinking Ellie could start having her tantrums more and more if she wants to go on the swings but I say no

So is it going to be more hassle than its worth?

I was going to have a word with my friend and say that I will have to talk it over with DH first as he might not be keen, but she has gone to see the Head already and she seemed eager!

It is so lovely of her, but I'm really worried , just as things have improved a little, it will become awful again

Sorry for waffling! Just knew you would understand more about the wanting to go on the swing, not understanding why she can't, huge tantrums etc etc

Any advice pr thoughts please

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anniebear · 04/03/2007 10:47

sorry, that wa a bit long!!!

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mum24boyz · 04/03/2007 11:11

tbh i just had a normal swing in my front garden, both my little 2 are sn but it seemed like they knew when they couldnt go on it, and we never had any meltdowns cos i wouldnt let them out, over the summer admittedly my front door was open and they were able to play out alone, with a close eye kept on them obviously, and they did come in and ask to go on the swing as neither of them could do it themselves, is there nowhere the swing could go where it wont be visible all day, so they may forget about it from time to time. i have no idea what their understanding is like but if you start as you mean to go on with the swing, i am sure they will soon learn that they cant be on it 24/7. bless your friend hun, that is sweet, have you applied to family fund for play eqpt, sn stuff is so expensive. good luck hun xx

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2shoes · 04/03/2007 11:28

ni it won't be too much hassle
dd can never go on "normal" swings so ours is the only cahnce she gets. if you go for one like i suggested the nt child will be the one doing most of the work no pushing needed.
off to find pic.

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anniebear · 04/03/2007 11:53

I think your idea is fantastic 2shoes

Its just Grace realy loves swings! She can now swing on her own and would love a real one. She would spend ages on it

I know she wouldnt know that she might have had a proper one if we went for the one you put 2 in

Would love to see a pic Can just one use it on their own if they want?

I sound awful dont I not wanting to push her!! Of course I dont mind pushing, but its the amount of time I would have to be there doing it!!

We can't apply to Family Fund till I think April, but I am mot sure this year if we might be bordering on not getting it this year

It is really lovely of my friend. I don't know what to say to her if we decide we dont want one, as she has already gone to see the Head

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2shoes · 04/03/2007 11:53

has terrible trouble with the pic as couldn't add to my rpofile as it was scanned. I will have to take new pic when not raining lol.
Have emailed you the pic.

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2shoes · 04/03/2007 11:55

we do have to satnd there pushing whend dd is in her normal swing. bit of a bore.
i think it would be hard for her to do this one on her own. but we used to get all the kids in the street comming in to have a go with her

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anniebear · 04/03/2007 11:59

Thanks

would Grace be able to do it on her own? would she swing quite high in it?

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anniebear · 04/03/2007 12:00

that looks really good1 Bet they have loads of fun in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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anniebear · 04/03/2007 12:04

My main problem is, Im not 100% sure that I want one at all lol

I have chatted about it with my Friend, then when she mentioned fun raising I said "Lovely of her" etc

Thought about it some more, and was going to mention it go DH, I wasn't sure he would be overly keen with the garden being so small

But she has gone and seen the Head the next day!!!! before I could say anymore!

She is such a lovely friend and a lovely person. But I feel DH and me need to decide if we really want one or not

But would feel bad on telling her now!

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mum24boyz · 06/03/2007 17:55

mmmm, tough one admittedly, and maybe she should have waited a little if you werent sure in the 1st place, but i am sure if you decided against the swing that you could put the money to good use for other play eqpt, i am sure parents wouldnt mine, any sn stuff costs so much money, i cant see that being a problem. could you perhaps get a single swing where you could change the seat, i know they have some where you can change to seat from a baby seat to a nt seat, so maybe sn stuff have something similar, that way it may not take up as much room. either way dont feel bad about what your friend has done, like i say, i am sure most parents wont mind what toys its spent on.

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anniebear · 06/03/2007 19:59

Thanks!

If you met my 2 you would know that it would be impossible to have 1 swing at a time lol

I just think it would be a lot of hassle

wil just leave it for now and see when she mentions it again, then will blame it on DH!!!!!!

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mum24boyz · 07/03/2007 13:21

lol, why not, i've got a total of 4 men in the house so of course i am never to blame for anything lol, and lol@ not being able to swing them individually, we used to have to count out so they had exactly the same amount of pushes each lol, suppose its good excercise for my batwings lol. good luck with the fundraising anyway hun xx

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anniebear · 07/03/2007 19:33

Lol at the batwings

Ellie wouldnt get taking turns, we would just have tantrums! Then of course they need different swing seats!!

Never easy in this house lol