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DS1 has ASD & dyspraxia, and is in year 9 (age 13) of local Grammar School. He is very bright (bit of a maths genius!) and academically I know this is the best school for him BUT......
the special needs provision is non-existent. Since he started in year 7 they have been beyond crap in understanding his conditions. Getting him statemented is proving impossible as he's doing great academically, but socially and mentally he is a mess. He's been bullied since september by a handful lads in his class. It's nothing physical but mostly name-calling, slagging ds off behind his back, trying to turn the other lads in his class against him etc. It's breaking my heart because he was doing so well, and now he's regressed so much it's like he's 7 again (muttering to himself all the time, ticking etc). lots of behaviours I've not seen for a long time.
His paediatrician wants to put him on ADs, and CAMHS have recommended we keep him off school till they pull their finger out and provide some support.
DS has been off since before half term. Spoke to dep head today after he spoke to the class yesterday to see what action was to be taken. He said that a number of boys in the class confirmed DS was being bullied, and named the bullies, but school weren't going to do anything about it as it "wasn't bad enough" as it was only verbal stuff.
My poor son is damn near suicidal and he's telling me it's not bad enough!
I can't get through to him that it's hard enough for DS to make friends, without being ostracised by the other boys.
On top of that there are loads of other issues - they won't provide DS with a toilet pass even though he has a bowel condition. They say he "needs to learn to open his mouth and tell the teacher if he needs to go to the toilet". I said that's like telling a parapalegic kid they "need to learn to run faster".
They always mark him down for poor presentation and tell him he need to make more effort with his handwriting, even though they know he's dyspraxic. When I've brought it up to various teachers at parent's evening they said they hadn't even been told he had Asperger's!!
I just don't know what to do next. I'm sure they are breaking the law. They are letting him down big time, and I feel like I am too.
I can't keep him off school forever, and the longer it goes on the worse it'll become for him. Do I let him take the ADs? I just don't know...
A meeting has been arranged at school between us, the school, his paediatrician, ed psyc, CAMHS support worker but it's not until 27th March. I don't know what to do in the meantime. Has anyone else been in this position? Thanks
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L1Z · 27/02/2007 14:04
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