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Diagnosed with ADHD. What help should I expect/ask from the school?

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 02/12/2016 19:29

After a very long road DD12 has a diagnosis of ADHD and ODD. They want to start her on medication and have asked us to think about it with DD and let them know next week, DD is keen to trail it.

The school have been as supportive as they can be, she has had a very hard time being in the school environment and has caused herself, other pupils and teachers lots of problems.

Now there is a diagnosis should they be able to offer better support? What sort of things should be expected? I'm going to see the school next week.

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tartanterror · 02/12/2016 20:44

Look hard at the diagnosis report and highlight all your DDs "needs", then go back through and note all the support items suggested. If you really report is like ours was, it might be light. Ask yourself what is missing? Speak to the SENCO and see if they are happy. Ours wasn't at all clear. I went back and asked for more guidance for the school. They then had a list to work with - it was too vague first time. Good luck

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 02/12/2016 21:27

Thank you.

Can I ask to speak to SENCO with an ADHD diagnosis? This is all very new and confusing for us.

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tartanterror · 02/12/2016 22:21

Oh yes absolutely! Ask for your DD to go on SEN Support (if not on already). Email them the paperwork and then go in to discuss how the school will meet the needs. They should (in theory) make a plan and invite you in once a term to discuss how it's going. That works better/worse depending on your school and DS. Is your DD behind in anything? Include social/emotional stuff too.

Google the SEN COP (code of practice) and have a read. SEN Support is the first stage of help at school and there are 4 areas of need. If the support required is more complex, your DD fails to progress or the support costs a lot, the school may suggest an EHCP. However do consider applying for one yourself if you think it's needed. Schools often don't have a full picture of home life/other settings/long term implications. You are probably the only person who does have all the info so do feel confident to speak up/question things. I didn't get this for the first couple of years and things got very tricky for DS as a result. still feeling guilty

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 03/12/2016 11:51

Thank you so much that is all really helpful Flowers

DD is far far behind emotionally and socially, lots of risk taking socially because she can't maintain friendships, it's heart breaking and I've found feeling guilty par of the course. What have I done wrong, what am I not doing and watching her out bursts and getting things so wrong feeling selfish that I bought her into this world.

Academically she is very bright and even though the ODD side and the attention or lack of side stops her being able to attend all her lessons or do her homework she is still top set in all areas. And on a 1:1 or non threatening/controlling environment she is the most loving, kind and funny young lady.

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 03/12/2016 22:14

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