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Verbena37 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:48:08

Hi,
Also posted in SN Children but thought I'd post here as well....
DS yr 7 diagnosed HFASD last winter and has started at secondary two weeks ago.
On a positive note, I think he prefers having lots of new subjects to learn but from a pastoral side of things, I'm just not sure what to expect, and at what level, from staff.

I already met with the SENCo last term so they know his issues and needs yet since he started, and I realise it's only early days, I've been having to email school to point out issues that I would think staff would be more thoughtful about. Stuff like organising his time and not being able to remember noting down homework and not remembering to go to the loo before lessons start etc.

To the staff, I'm pretty sure they think me overprotective but for DS, who has had late night meltdowns for the past two weeks, it's not trivial but things that would enable him to feel less anxious.

Am I hoping for too much? I almost feel apologetic that I have to raise things with them.

Fuzzypeggy Mon 19-Sep-16 20:48:57

I think you've got this in the wrong section, this is style and beauty

Fuzzypeggy Mon 19-Sep-16 20:49:45

Hope all goes well with ds by the way

Verbena37 Mon 19-Sep-16 20:54:29

Thanks fuzzypeg, I've asked men to remove it .....I'm blaming iOS 10. My iPad has been going bonkers since I updated it!

rightknockered Tue 20-Sep-16 00:14:10

Hi, I know this is in the wrong section still, but my ds is HFA and is now in yr9. He had similar issues, regarding noting down homework and remembering to go to the toilet, also queuing up for lunch, and changing for P.E, not being able to cope with drama and general movement of other children. Things deteriorated very quickly. He now has a ECHP, although it is still a struggle to get his needs met.
He has exit cards in all pockets, and hands them to the teacher if he wants to leave any situation. He has earplugs and given a pair at the start of each day. Lunch times, he can go into the lunch hall 10 minutes before everyone else arrives and he also has longer for tests due to anxiety and general sensory issues.
Don't feel apologetic about raising issues with them. Phone, phone and phone, arrange meetings, badger them, get to know all the teachers, the librarians and the lunch staff. Shout and stamp your feet.
My son's needs were ignored until he threatened to commit suicide. It shouldn't have got that far
xx

KatherineMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 20-Sep-16 15:07:16

Hi OP - we'll move this over the right section for you now. flowers

Ineedmorepatience Tue 20-Sep-16 16:30:48

This is not minor and could end up with him being unable to attend. You need to be that parent who keeps on and on at them.

There are a few of us on the board who have secondary age children with Asd, some are very successfully supported in school some are not.

Rightknockered is right you do often need to shout and stamp your feet!

FWIW, my Dd3 was one of the ones who wast well supported despite me being on their case all the time. She has been home ed for a yr now!

Good luck flowers

Verbena37 Tue 20-Sep-16 17:07:32

Thank you.
It's hard via email to get my emotions read. When I re-read the emails I'm sending they sound a bit abrupt but to get over what I need to say, I needing to recollect the facts as DS has told me them. It does sound quite accusing though. I try to soften them but I'm sure they don't want phone calls all the time and that email is easier.
I really don't want to be 'that parent' because in the future I'm thinking of applying for a TA job there!

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