Hi, hope this is the right place. Apologies long post - stressed rant!
Anyway, DS had a bad time for much of primary school due to his ADHD. He stuggled to make friends, at one stage was bullied, had v low self-esteem, got into lots of low level trouble (but, as school always said, hated to be in trouble and was always upset about it). However, meds have turned his life around. He's happy, his sense of humour is back, content, calm, started to make some good friends, apparently NO behavioural issues at school and really happy there, it's almost stopped his many tics - amazing.
However, due to low self-esteem etc, he's always really keen to have friends and 'fit in' with the popular crowd (even more than usual). We've tried so many things, clubs, sports, play dates when younger etc etc. Now he's not in any clubs/sports (says they're not cool ) and just wants to hang out in town with a certain crowd. He knows it's not going to happen. I know the children, in lots of ways nice kids, but all of them 11yo and have issues, e.g. routinely swearing/shouting at their parents, showing porn on their own phone to other kids all the time (not in secret, their own parents already know - omg) etc.
So now it's a stalemate. I'm in the process of putting foot down, forcing club/activity participation if he won't choose/try something. But it will be a battle, I'm exhausted and he's not even started secondary school/a teenager yet . Tried to encourage other friendships and he's friendly with other kids whose parents seem fine, but it's always a case of us taking their kids for the day but it's not done in return, if you know what I mean.
Any advice, or even commiseration, would be great. Thanks
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chocolaterose20 · 17/08/2016 10:33
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