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How can I stop my dd from pinching others?

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brightbelle Sun 14-Aug-16 15:01:33

Hi all, I really need advice on how to stop my dd from pinching other kids? She's almost 4, recently diagnosed with ASD. She's happy smiley and sweet most of the time but a few months ago she has started to pinch other kids without any reason! She started out on some kids who are new to the nursery and then to other kids in general. She doesn't do this often in fact but the thing is we just don't know still what triggers her. We thought, at the beginning, it could be she wanted to say hello but didn't know how to communicate, then we thought she may want to feel the touch (sensory thing) but we just don't know. Anyway of course the nursery staff would teach her not to and say sorry every time she does this, but it still happens on a random basis. We don't always witness this ourselves as she's the only child and she only does that to kids not adults. Yesterday in the park she was on the slide and suddenly pinched a toddler who maybe under 1 as she walked past her, and the child cried hysterically I just felt so sorry. We told her not to etc but after a while she tried to do that to another girl whom she walked past on the slide, but we managed to stop her before that actually happened. We ended up taking her away from the slide and away from other kids. She also saw some kids playing football and ran towards them, we thought she was joining but as she approached them we knew she was about to pinch one of them and we stopped her confusedsad

What should I do? She's not very communicative and very delayed in speech but she has good understanding in general. I tried pretend play asking Daddy to pinch me and I pretended crying and said it hurts but she found it funny and laughed confusedconfusedconfused

Any advice will be appreciated! I feel very nervous taking her to the park or any play areas for kids now. Thanks!

PolterGoose Sun 14-Aug-16 18:29:58

If will probably pass, like a lot of these (biting is a common one) things do. You could try giving her things to hold or just avoid other kids at the park for a little while.

Maybe get her using her pincer grip for fun. Pegging out washing was always popular here.

PolterGoose Sun 14-Aug-16 18:31:44

Some ideas here but there's loads online, that was just first one on a Google search!

brightbelle Wed 17-Aug-16 10:23:31

Thanks Polter! Will try what you suggested, hope that she won't do it again next time we are in the park.

Kitkatandcake Sat 20-Aug-16 21:00:53

No advice but this is the bane of my life. My LO squeezes everyone constantly. Biting, scratching etc I think for her is a sensory thing, but no one knows. I am going to have to stop taking her to soft play or anywhere with lots of kids as she hurts everyone. It's been going on for months now. She knows it hurts, she knows she shouldn't but I can't work out how to stop it. If you find a solution please share!! Good luck

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