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I work with a woman who has known my husband since school. We see them socially quite a lot and our kids play together, but I wouldn't call her a close friend.
They have a daughter who is 19 months old, a year younger than my youngest child. It's very clear that their DD is not developing at a normal rate. She can't walk, stand, pull herself up. She has no speech at all. She can't grip small objects or bring a sippy cup to her mouth. Her hands are slightly claw like and she can't clap. She gets extremely frustrated when she tries to communicate. She dribbles a lot. Her body is very stiff. When she falls she doesn't put her hands out to stop herself. She is often vacant and glassy eyed.
My colleague talks about the walking issue a lot but has not been to a GP as she says she "doesn't trust them". Instead she is seeing some kind of Pediatric Chiropractor regarding the walking (and the walking alone)
She has started to become angry and frustrated with her child and it's heartbreaking to see. She seems to genuinely resent her DD.
She is senior to me at work ans quite a lot older and we don't have the kind of relationship where I feel I could have a heart to heart with her, I also do not want to come across as judgemental at all. She is a fantastic Mum but I think she is in a very deep state of denial and possibly depression too.
We saw them socially this weekend and I left in tears as I am genuinely concerned about their daughter and their attitude towards her needs. My husband doesn't feel comfortable bringing it up with the husband either.
What should I do?
I feel awful even writing this and really don't want to sound interfering or judgemental. If I were her I'd want a close friend to talk to me about it, but I'm not that person to her and I don't know her close circle of friends well enough.
Looking forward to your words of wisdom.
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How do I talk to a colleague about her DD's development.
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