I'm after a bit of advice. I'll try to explain as concisely as possible, but apologies if this post meanders!
My daughter is currently awaiting diagnosis for HF ASD. She is 7. She has always been sensitive to certain noises/ tastes; Very much a twirler; prone to meltdowns and significant problems with writing/handwriting at school.
About 8 months ago, she began to be very distressed if music, videos etc are played more than once in a row. It happened at home and school. We invested in some ear defenders which have been very useful, particularly in school.
Her father and I split up when she was a baby (well, he left me, but that's possibly semantics). He sees her once a fortnight for the weekend. He is a former SEN teacher, who worked a lot with children with ASD. He has always voiced his suspicions that DD has ASD.
This weekend, he witnessed a meltdown, where his 4yo wanted to watch a video twice back-to-back and DD became upset. He was quite cross about it, and subjected me to a lecture about how her discomfort is 'learnt behaviour' and we should not pander to it by turning things off.
I am not sure I agree, but I'm unsure enough to ask advice! My instinct tells me it's genuine discomfort, but I don't want to end up with a spoilt child. We are quite firm with her - I get the impression ex thinks she is allowed to act up at ours, but that is not the case.
I also work as a TA in dd's class, so I spend a LOT of time with her. While this means I am more aware of her triggers than most people; I am also aware this could blind me to potential bad behaviour.
I don't want to create a monster, but also, if she is genuinely experiencing discomfort, I don't want to make her life harder than it needs to be.
Apologies for the long, rambling post. Many thanks for any advice you are able to give.
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