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Advice needed reference my son with ASD traits.

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Mummyg1989 Sat 16-Apr-16 22:27:01

Hi all really need help, my son was registered as special needs a year ago aged 3, at this moment in time we have no confirmed diagnosis of my son's behavior and additional needs, we have a review with his paed in a months time for an assessment.
He has just turned 4, has the speech of a 2 year old, speaks in 3rd person when referring to himself. Very violent and aggressive around children his own age, more comfortable around older children/teens as well as adults.
Show no senses of care in regard's to other peoples feelings, when having a meltdown he will hysterically cry, and he looks as if he is in sever pain, this also happens when he is in the shower can struggles with the feeling of the water touching him, he cries when it's windy outside as his hair moves which really irritates my son, at nursery he is very quiet, reserved and guarded he is well behaved although prefers to play on his own, although when he is at home or out with family this is when I feel his senses of emotions are hugely heightened, my son hand flaps when hes in a new environment or has feeling's of excitement.
When I ask him how nursery is, he doesn't reply to my questions and usually tends to just mimic back what I have asked him. He loves his numbers. He can count to over 100 and he has a love of doorbells, we live in a block of flats, and my son has a ritual of having to ring all the doorbells before we enter the building of flats.
He has very little feeling's of compassion, and recently he has become extremely aggressive to family and peers, what could be causing this? x

shazzarooney99 Mon 18-Apr-16 16:45:49

I would say this is more than traits we are in the same position, ive just been told by someone my son has high functioning so now we are waiting for the pead to officaially diagnose him with that, keep pushing.

Cakescakescakes Mon 18-Apr-16 16:47:52

He sounds like my autistic DS. Don't worry - you are in the system. Just keep advocating and pushing - with support things can be much better smile

PolterGoose Mon 18-Apr-16 17:05:40

Hi Mummyg the average wait for an autism diagnosis for a child is 3 years, so don't wait to start trying autism strategies and whatever works really! The earlier you find an approach which makes life easier the better.

I would recommend 2 books to help you, 'The Out of Sync Child' which focuses on sensory work and can be a real help to understand what's triggering the anxiety (which is resulting in anger) and things which might help, and 'The Explosive Child' which offers an approach to parenting which in my experience is the most effective way to manage these sort of explosive behaviours.

You should try to keep a detailed diary to help you see patterns and spot triggers, it's not always obvious! And to help you gather evidence and remember stuff for assessments.

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